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Is it bad?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Dysfunctionallymade, Sep 8, 2020.

  1. Dysfunctionallymade

    Dysfunctionallymade New Fapstronaut

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    I started nofap, I'm not gonna get into much details, but I haven't fapped in 15 days now, longest I've ever gone has probably been 5 days.

    I have a friend, she lives far from me, but she would occasionally send me nudes and we would sext a bit.

    Recently, we do it almost every night now, I don't have a girlfriend, I don't sext with anybody else, I don't watch porn now, and I don't fap.

    But we talk dirty every night, and send pictures...

    I haven't had any urges to fap yet because I told myself I wouldn't do it again and I pray for strength every night, because I went on this journey with an iron will to change my fapping behavior and porn consumption.

    It's of my opinion that the sexting and nudes isn't the same as porn, because I cant have it whenever I want, only if she is in the mood, I can't make her do any fantasy I want, like the degenerate porn I used to watch, and the sexting isn't meaningless like the porn.

    Snap deletes the photos as well, so there's no going back to watch.

    Is it bad for my journey?
     
  2. Ahiphena

    Ahiphena Fapstronaut

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    I'd say its a little different because there's actual human interaction involved, but I also wouldn't participate in that until I was certain that I wouldn't relapse.

    Ultimately its up to you. What are you getting from it? How likely are you to relapse? Is it worth the risk? Do you intend to ever do anything more with this person? No one can answer those but you. Personally I'd say its always best to be on the side of caution, but you aren't going to take the word of a random internet stranger at face value so just give it a lot of thought.
     
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  3. oneotwo

    oneotwo Fapstronaut

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    What up bro, i got asking the same question u ask,

    All the sexting and the nude i stopped, you know why?
    Cause its feel to my that its not the right way..
    I thing the good way is to be with my gf in real not ob screen, i stop to musterbate, thoch my self in video chat, for me its a huge change, in my past i was relly in no good situation.
    Almost evryday do pmo
    In the morning before the college or work.
    Now its just with her, and also we got far away from each other.
    So i understand ehat you say and mean.

    Its gonna take some time bro.

    Goodluck.
     
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  4. Thank God I'm a single virgin, who needs these problems right guys?
     
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  5. I don't think it's the same as porn because you have a relationship with her, but I would strongly caution you against trading nude pictures with her regardless. Every time I've ever tried to stop looking at porn I would find some loophole and eventually it just led me straight back to looking at porn. Honestly ask yourself, is this just a way for me to look at images of naked bodies again?

    I've found that my tendency towards looking at porn is very strong, so I need the utmost diligence to keep from caving in. For example, I looked at IMDB earlier today and deleted all movies from my watchlist that had any nudity in them. I'm a big cinephile and some great movies have nudity in them, but I just can't risk relapsing anymore.

    Be honest with yourself, and be careful. Any little slip might just be the one that brings you down the mountain.
     

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