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Is my challenge tougher than everyone else's?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Mr.Potato, Jun 25, 2015.

  1. Mr.Potato

    Mr.Potato New Fapstronaut

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    When I hear people want to stop watching porn what I imagine is that they want to stop watching the free porn that is available online, which is much less in resolution than premium content porn and it's much less versatile and "up to date" when compared to premium content porn.

    My problem is that I have access to ALL premium porn in the world (yes through illegal ways, who cares). there's new premium content every day and I have the luxury to pick the best of the best of these daily videos. I became familiarized with the schedules of porn releases and I know what type of porn to expect on each day of the weak like "oh tomorrow on friday my favorite amature site is releasing a new video" and on Tuesday I am expecting a gangbang.

    Amature porn is a complete challenge on it's own. I know two sites that provide premium content amature girls first timers that just do one shoot and leave. These girls are not regular girls next door type they are the hottest girls next door type. Porn companies are better at "recruiting" girls and porn is becoming more mainstream in society; this explains why girls in porn now are more attractive than anytime before.

    This is the core of my problem. I became familiar with all girls in porn, every new girl in buisness, every DVD so many things so many fetishes and these are things I anticipate on a daily bases.

    Today I am on day 5 and I really hope I could just leave this habit and focus on my studying and life in general. and although I am on day five I still spend time on looking up what's new in porn and I allowed my self to get arroused but did not download the full movies or masturbate to them in the past 5 days.

    So what should I do additionally since I am very deep in porn releases?
    and is it true that my experience tougher than most others?
     
  2. NoMo_Po

    NoMo_Po Fapstronaut

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    In all honesty if you want to quit this habit you shouldn't be even taking a peak at these sites. It is good you are not unwinded and binging on this, but even searching and looking out of curiosity is a setback and I am sure everyone else will agree.

    I agree with you %100 with what you say on how easy it is to get access to P nowadays. It is why it can be so hard to quit. What you have to do is just limit yourself to what gives you access. Maybe limit the time you are on the internet, or install k9 blocker.

    On my last streak I was doing great and I would have urges here and there but they would go away on their own. I decided to look at P for a few minutes once and that nearly led to a relapse and I had to fight the urges for a few days. Point being, you are only making it harder for yourself by giving yourself access to P even if it is out of curiosity. It will surely lead to a relapse. Congrats on 5 days and keep up the good work!
     
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  3. IGY

    IGY Guest

    No, not really. The quality or predictability of what you watch is not that important. What is more instructive is the age you started watching high-speed internet porn and to some extent the genres you got into to and your age now. Peeking requires a reset if you are serious about healing the neural pathways and rebooting to factory settings.
     
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  4. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    Not at all. The challenge is the same for everyone, and to apply a difficulty to it is just an excuse or justification for failure.

    Have you truly committed to quitting? If so, you should now cut off your access. Delete your accounts and saved files, and install filtering software.

    If you can't do that, you aren't committed yet. Rather you've tricked yourself into thinking you have.
     
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  5. seventyniner

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    The thing is: You will not only have to quit porn, you will have to say goodbye to porn, to being up to date, to know who's new in the business, to see who's freshly recruited. It will take a real goodbye, and by that I mean grieving. That's what makes it extra hard. I had a period of grieving when I started out, even though I never had access to premium P. I was so used to checking out who's new that it made me sad to miss the next perfect face. It was a little like losing a friend, even though we all know that P is fake. But it was a necessary step for me. From then it was on to new shores.

    You can do it. Rooting for you!
     
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  6. JegErFransk

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    'Sexy girls' in 'porn?? Are you serious?? You really need to get out of our room!

    Have you ever seen something sexier than girl smiling at you just because you stand next to her?
     
  7. chris4nj

    chris4nj Fapstronaut

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    Echoing what others have said - say goodbye. Stop checking. The thinking about porn has the same impact on the brain as watching it. The same is likely true of looking at the schedules. Just in your description of the amateur girls I had flashbacks.
     
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  8. Mr.Potato

    Mr.Potato New Fapstronaut

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    Well I started a
    I agree with you, most of my previous relapses were because of a peak that just wanted to check "what's new". I will try my best to avoid it in my journey.
    Your description of grieving and losing a friend kinda nailed how I feel. maybe this will help me understand the storm that's going in my brain right now.

    You miss the point =P but I do agree with you on the smiling part

    I am sorry about the flashbacks and I hope they stay as bad memories that we are proud to have left behind.
     
  9. EdwardL

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    Nice to see you there bro :)
    before I accepted the challange, the Ps I watched were also the premium type you mentioned------- beautiful covers, super high resolutions, slim, blonde... all the high-quality ones, whatever, you name them. However, in my opinion, porn preference has not much to do with keeping your mind away from PMOs, since people there watching cheap porns like you mentioned, might be generating even more pleasure than you and I do, and I believe that sensual connection is which makes the way of detaching from porns harder.
    Like you said, you have a schedule of porn releases in your mind. That should be something to fight with, since you might bond certain days of week with the desire to watch porns. Like every Tuesday, the idea of Gangbang might just pop up in your mind. but dont worry, according to some studies, habits can be somehow altered within a month. See now you have made it 5 days, day by day the connection will be weakened and things will be better. :)

    Last point, stop thinking sexual things, like how hot the girls become in today's P industry; focus more on your life besides sex, which will made all the hard parts of rebooting much easier, try workouts :D
     
  10. SpeakerBear

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    Quitting porn causes some grief, loss and sadness. For me it was the faces, and the thought of not seeing those pretty faces again, or not seeing/discovering new ones. It was a feeling of loss, and it is easy to focus too much on what you loose.

    One thing that helped me, was to think of the loss as something final. Like if someone close to you died, or remembering that great year of backpacking around the world, that you will never be able to experience again. I know that sounds pretty harsh, but it helped me change the feeling of that loss from something I could make up for (like I lost my jacket, I can buy a new one) to something final (like my grandpa died, I can never get him back). While it makes the loss feel worse to begin with, it also forces you into the process of getting over it, of letting go.
    So for me, now, porn is dead, and we will never see each other again.

    Some sort of filtering (k9 or as simple as just editing your hosts file to redirect your favorite sites to 127.0.0.1), while possible to get around in many cases, at least causes you to stop and think a little. And that little pause may be what you need to stop what you're doing and do something else. Especially if it's something you do almost without thinking.

    And, as others have said, stop peeking, and don't look for substitutes. That's how nearly all my relapses have started. Others have started when I start thinking about porn, and don't have anything else to do (like I'm on a long bus ride). At some point I have unconsciously made up my mind to look, and then it's pretty hard to stop.

    You can do it! Hard or not, it is possible.
     
  11. chris4nj

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    BTW - no problem on the flashback - that's just my brain firing.

    My point is similar to what EdwardL and SpeakerBear said - stop peaking, turn your thoughts away from sexual things. That's what will help rewire your brain.

    And, as SpeakerBear said - you can do it!
     

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