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i want to build real-life support-group for MEN

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by TopBoys_Frontline, Sep 10, 2020.

  1. Sep 10, 2020 #1
    TopBoys_Frontline

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    hello

    i think this is the best place to check my plans with someone before i handle out leaflets in real life to people etc...

    i want to build up a real-life men-support-group in my hometown where we meet regularly (like once a week) and talk about masculinity, women, do sports together (like i am also inspired by the movie "fight club")...

    the fighting-thing would be with protection etc but i think to fight makes you present, losing your fear, and connecting with other male human beeings in order to feel more masculine... i dontt mean that in an aggresive way (as i am in a way a buddhist also and i am training kung-fu) but i think it would make all men together wuih me more strong...and we woukd have a friendship-connection...

    a bit i feel that i do this also out of loneliness to be honest (as i chose this forum-section.... particularly ment with having few or not deep male friendships)... i think this is a huge problem for my progression...

    in such group meetings we would also talk about meditation, beeing yourself, loving yourself, how to interact with women (but not in that 'pick-up'-way)...

    what do yoz think, do you think i could get some men joining this? i asked some friends, they seemed interested but im not sure if they would ever join and maybe they feel the fighting-aspect offensive...

    i would also talk about nofap-stuff, sexuality etc.. would you join this?
     
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  2. Sep 10, 2020 #2
    fapequalsdeath

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    You did not market this very well with the language you used. So you did not convince me. I bet your entusiasm will die off when you see that coordinating and organizing people is hard. It's a great idea, but an idea is worth nothing unless you make it happen.
     
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  3. Sep 12, 2020 #3
    matt2k12

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    Sure man great idea! Try it and then you'll see how it went. No need to philosophize about it :D
     
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  4. Sep 12, 2020 #4
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    Throwing in my 2-cents.

    Trying to be a leader is hard as mentioned. If you have thin skin you might want to first spend some time in situations where you deal with many different people and learn how to handle interpersonal conflicts.

    As a leader you have to make firm decisions and stick to them. People you initially thought were super cool and totally on your side might start “drawing targets on you”, sometimes on your back. You have to learn how to handle things like that constructively.

    Also having a solid group like that is a great idea but it takes time for individuals in a men’s group to build up enough trust with each other for a group like that to work. I belong to two men’s groups and it took months before I felt comfortable enough to share with everyone.

    Just tossing those out as something to consider.
     
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  5. Sep 12, 2020 #5
    Randy Andy

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    "would you join this". Did it.
     
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  6. Sep 12, 2020 #6
    SickSicko

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    Oh yes, hard to accomplish, but great idea.
     
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  7. Sep 12, 2020 #7
    MountainGoats93

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    I like the idea! If I could make a suggestion - maybe try to incorporate everyone reading a piece of feminist literature together. Porn is so objectifying. And if you want to learn how to interact with women, the first step is having a real respect for them and listening to what they have to say. Could be productive.

    Best of luck!
     
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  8. Sep 12, 2020 #8
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    It's a great idea, but how many people do you need to tell you that before you try to set it up?

    It's unlikely anyone here lives in your area, so why not just put together a description of the group, organise an event, and market it on F'book/put posters up, etc?

    Just do it - even if nobody shows up, you'll learn something.
     
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  9. Sep 13, 2020 #9
    palindromo

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    Yes , definitely

    I would like to do it too, but I don't have a suitable place
     
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  10. Sep 15, 2020 #10
    ridiculous bear

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    Go for it. The world needs this, never mind your local neighbourhood. Have a look at a great book by a guy who did exactly what you are looking to do. The focus was broader, but i think the principles are spot on, it may help you.

    Its called No More Mr Nice Guy, written by Robert Glover
     
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