When will sex feel better then Porn ?

No, I fully understand with how you feel, the feeling will pass. You need to forgive yourself for having those feelings, and be v happy that you're able to successfully have sex

 

Have you gotten to a point where you couldn’t stop making out?

 

I've had the exact same experience during sex where no matter how amazing my partner was or how much I loved them or found them attractive the only way I could achieve an orgasm was by thinking about porn. When I would PMO I would have to think hard and concentrate on it being me in the video instead. Now I can't orgasm without that concentrating part, even in bed with a partner I need to think about me having sex in either a porn video or crazy enough with that partner. It was like I had to be a voyeur.

The best advice is to keep moving forward. Regressing or falling back on old habits will not help. If your brain learned to associate porn with orgasming it can also unlearn it, remember that. Brother, you are stronger and more capable of change than you think.

 

I guess most of us have or had this.

You are basically using porn to have a climax, I assume that if you don't do that you are not going to come. My recommendation for you is that stop thinking about porn to cum, focus on your partner and your own feelings. Try to be as present as you can with her, forget about having an orgasm, if it happens great but don't force it with porn.

You already remove porn from your daily routine, remove it also from your mind in the bed with your woman. Good luck!

 

Just keep going, it'll get better. I think it changes, but it isn't "better" than porn IMO. Like, at some point you appreciate real sex and connection, and you don't want to go back to the fake high of porn, but you can't beat the high that a porn addiction provides, I mean that's kind of why it's so addictive. You get super high off of it, and then you go down super low. Real sex brings connection, and longer term satisfaction than that quick fix. That being said, thinking of porn during sex isn't great, but the mind like to fantasize, nothing wrong with a little fantasy here and there, but things will keep getting better the longer you stay away from porn.

 

It will get better. It takes a long time to break the shackles of your addiction. I have been at 90+ days several times. Porn is like cocaine. It gives you an unhealthy amount of dopamine. It does not mean that porn is better than real sex. Real sex creates a bunch of positive emotions and chemical reactions in your body.

After a couple months anything will turn you on. Even a woman's smile. You will see subtle signs of flirting that you never noticed before like women playing with their hair, fiddling with stuff or pointing their body towards you. Your sex drive will make you talk to women just based on subtle cues. Your PMO brain would never realize how many opportunities you actually missed. Your PMO brain thinks that you already got all the women you ever need inside your computer. You need to break that connection and it takes time.

 

This is so true -- I found myself after a couple of months flirting with women at times and not even totally realizing what I was doing. Something just shifts, and it's not as much "work" and it's much more natural and intuitive.

 

Very interesting reading. I've also spent years thinking about porn during sex to keep me interested. Like I would imagine if I was taking her from behind that she was sucking off a guy at the front, and variations of that. It's the only way I could stay hard and climax.

I'm on day 6bof a no pron streak. Still M at the moment although once the porn addiction has hit 30 days I may do 30 to 60 as no p or m.