A Kind Suggestion for the Brokenhearted...

Look, you guys on this site know me.

You know what all I went through.

Love is hard, but still, it's important.

Here I am 180+ hard mode, and keep finding that hole in my heart,

and it can only be filled by a woman. By love/romance.

So if you guys out there have any doubts about yourself,

if you want to be with someone,

try this suggestion.

The dating coaches of the world get their ideas out of cracker jack boxes,

so don't do that stuff.

Are you ready for the BIG SECRET TO LOVE?

ARE YOU READY FOR THE BIG REVELATION

GUARANTEED YOU MAKE YOU MISTY-EYED?

Ok - just TRY.

That's it. Try. That's all there is to it.

Realize that what is built into the system is a certain amount of failure.

You might need to meet 40, 100, 200, or 300 women

to find the right one.

But you will.

Don't learn pickup lines, don't watch you tube videos, don't listen to dating coaches.

Just keep trying.

Obviously, the odds are in your favor.

Look at how many married people there are, and singles too.

The fact is you can have someone awesome,

and you deserve love.

Just keep trying.

You have to be you. You are good enough to have someone,

just as you are, where you are, right now.

So what if you ask someone out and get rejected?



Imagine if you went to buy a wrench at a dollar store.

You walk back to the hardware section, and they are sold out.

There's bupkiss back there.

When that happens, do you go home and cry?

Do you call your buddies, drunk and say, "I'll never find a wrench.

I'm not good enough to own a wrench.

I'll be renting this wrench until I die!"



No, it's not personal.

It's the same way with dating.

It just SEEMS personal, but it isn't.

In the documentary "The Guy In That Thing", an actor was interviewed,

who said, "I might get the part because I look like the director's wife's brother.

And, I might NOT get the part because I look like the director's wife's brother."

You can meet someone on Monday, and be enemies.

You duel with swords on an urban sidewalk.

The next day, you see her, she's like, "Hey, how are you?

I'm getting a coffee, want to come with?"

So don't feel bad about rejection.

Rejection is not personal.

It never was.



It's just people floating downstream, everybody doing it their own way.

Would Duran Duran hire Eric Clapton in their band?

Probably not as a full member, they were too different.

On the other hand, if Roger Taylor is injured,

(wait. Which Taylor was it? Weren't there like 12 of them in Duran Duran?

Sorry. I digressed. First time for everything...)

and Clapton's recording next door, and Duran needs a guitar solo,

they'd probably ask him to sit in.



So keep trying, don't let the past affect your future.

You are here now. Today you can accomplish your goals.

If a total moron like me can compile a half-year on hard mode,

you should have a date before you know it.

You will, believe me.




I struggled hard to get dates in high school.

I was a good looking guy but still it wasn't easy.

That's life, which is composed of wins and losses.

But the wins are what is remembered.

The losses are the foundation of the wins.

Say a prayer, be yourself, and give it the old college try.




You will succeed.

Trust me, if you are here at NoFap,

it means you have the guts.

 

Outstanding suggestions!

When a dude goes NF and hits the gym, after a while

a guy goes from playing a numbers game against the odds

to feeling like he has a 70-90% chance every time.