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porn isn't my problem

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by BEPSY97, Sep 18, 2020.

  1. Sep 18, 2020 #1
    BEPSY97

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    Hello,



    I'm 22 year old guy and I think porn isn't necessary my problem. When i had a girlfriend I always had sex with here and I was not attracted to porn at all. Even now when i'm on Tinder I get arroused by real girls, and if I watch it's always amateur related because i'm not into these fancy things... just straight and normal... Now what i'm always craving is the fact I want to have sex with a girl I love, ofc a hookup might be nice but thats not really what I want ... Therefore I'm on Tinder... Now I relapsed yesterday because Tinder made me so H**** and I went watching some amateur video... Now I feel okay not depressed as I'm trying not to binge and reset my timer... Now i'll try to do it without dating platforms because I noticed it's a big waste of time...even tho i'm muscular and good looking it aint for me... So now the challenge is to stay away from these and i'm free.. but i'd rather find a girlfriend and its so diffcult these times because girls dont even look at me on the streets and i dont wanna creep someone out by just going to there unwanted in her perspective... sounds creepy right ... so anyone advice how I might attract real women and get results???


    Take care brothers
     
    BEPSY97, Sep 18, 2020
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  2. Sep 18, 2020 #2
    Archangel01

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    I don't really understand what you are trying to say. You're on a forum for porn addicts and say that porn isn't your problem.
    It makes not that huge of a difference if you watch amateur porn or some other genre. If you can't abstain from it, it's an addiction.
    The swiping and always looking for novelty and being excited what the next girl looks like has a similarity to the porn pathways in your brain. So it could be that you tell yourself you are just looking for a girl on tinder, but actually your brain tricks you back into the addiction by starting out with "innocent tinder" and leading to porn eventually.
     
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  3. Sep 18, 2020 #3
    BEPSY97

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    Bro i just want a girlfriend that's it.
     
    BEPSY97, Sep 18, 2020
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  4. Sep 18, 2020 #4
    pshiphon

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    Why are you in this forum then?
     
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  5. Sep 18, 2020 #5
    learning

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    I assume that @BEPSY97 is saying that porn is not the root problem? The root problem is his lack of a girlfriend, and he expects the porn problem to disappear when he finds a new girlfriend? That is only a guess, and he can correct me if I'm wrong.
     
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  6. Sep 19, 2020 #6
    BEPSY97

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    guys i binged today... i'll decide to make a plan... my brain always tricks me to get tinder to find a girlfriend... the result is i waste alot of time and ending up relapsed... bye bye streak... i'll make a plan where i'll write everyday and color the good days, and write why it's important not to go on tinder or badoo.. i'm empty its so hard and at the moment i'm aroused i'm like idc i can stop this.. and then i binge and binge ...
     
    BEPSY97, Sep 19, 2020
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  7. Sep 19, 2020 #7
    Minsc

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    Hi BEPSY97,

    I believe the porn in on its self is not the problem but rather the fantasy and our expectations which go along with it. A big reason I went to porn is because I was too scared to talk to girls/women. The fake was easier. Unfortunately (or perhaps, fortunately), women are not fantasies. They are fellow people. Am I looking for a woman to be who she is or what I want her to be?
     
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  8. Sep 19, 2020 #8
    The Pennsylvanian

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    Stop fapping and wasting your seed. Stop caring about girls and be strong. Meditate and wait for the girl to come along while you retain
     
    The Pennsylvanian, Sep 19, 2020
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  9. Sep 20, 2020 #9
    alphakadabro

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    Your brain doesn't know the difference between Tinder and porn. If you want a girlfriend, you should let your brain recover by following NoFap. Improve yourself, socialize and develop healthy habits.
     
    alphakadabro, Sep 20, 2020
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