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After 22 months without P and M

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Barnabas_, May 15, 2019.

  1. Well done on making a full recovery several fold.

    As for YouTube there is nothing to worry about. Let me tell you what worked for me.
    I opened up a new YouTube channel and used that in a browser that I dont normally use to watch YouTube. But even this browser clear the entire history, including the cookies, passwords - basically everything. I used this YouTube channel for a specific purpose and intended not to use it for anything else other than the purpose for which it was created for. For example if your purpose of using YouTube is only for Christianity related material then search and subscribe to Christian channels of your choice and look up the videos from subscriptions only. If you keep to this discipline then you can get the pure content from the YouTube and cut away the heaps of rubbish that YouTube had to offer.
     
  2. Hi pal,
    you have given excellent advice to Barnabas. Guidance which I too intend to follow!
     
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  3. Barnabas_

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    Thanks.

    I have experienced only once premature ejaculation during this time. Erection quality is much better now and the whole sexual life (I am in a marriage since a few years).
     
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  4. Barnabas_

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    I think it can be helpful. Thanks for sharing.

    However, I must say that youtube is no longer a danger like it was when I was writing this post (a few months ago). It has just lost its power as I am just not interested in watching anything that will affect negativelly a recevery process.

    Yes, unfortunatelly, I had a habbit in the past (for many years) to watch sexual things there, especially during stress/pressure (fear, anger, rejection, frustration, disappointment - mainly) but this is no longer a case. By the grace of God I have learnt much more (and still am learning this) how to deal with difficult emotions in life without escaping to the unreal (and hurtful) world.

    Installing Wizmage Image Hider was also helpful, for some months was using youtube only with it.

    Have a great day, another day free from P & M.
     
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  5. Varan great

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    I am glad for you, you gave me a shot of hope
     
  6. WeShallNotFap

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    What about the improvements on your sex life?
     
  7. Barnabas_

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    Sex life has improved. The main change I'd say is that right now I focus fully on my wife. Which is fair. This kind of intimacy should have always been like that. So as a consequence our relationship is stronger now.

    In the past, sometimes where I was with my wife, in my mind were women from porn - so my body was connected with her but my mind/heart was somewhere else. Subconsciously my wife felt that something was wrong.
     
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  8. Varan great

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    I am verry happy to hear this...congrats brother
     
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    Awesome! I feel you, I'm not as your age but I have so much pressure and it turns out I turn it to success because I relieve this stress also by improving my fitness which contributes my future goals also.

    Thanks for sharing!
     
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  10. Barnabas_

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    Well done! To me this is one of the key elements too.
     
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  11. Barnabas_

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    20 months (on September 10th) without porn and masturbation.

    Another month of learning how do deal with life without sexual addictions.
    Not easy time with some difficult meetings, visits - but thanks to God without sexual temptations to escape to P or M.

    God is good.

    "We put our hope in the Lord.
    He is our help and our shield.
    In him our hearts rejoice,
    for we trust in his holy name.
    Let your unfailing love surround us, Lord,
    for our hope is in you alone." (Psalm 33:20-22)

    Life is good, much better without P & M.
     
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  12. Indeed, God is good.
    Good to see that your relationship with God grows. And since it grows, you grow with it. He grows inside of you and you grow inside of Him.
     
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    I agree totally. There are so many Psubs on YouTube it's unreal.
     
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  14. Barnabas_

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    Thanks for your encouraging words brother :)

    Time without porn and masturbation is Christ success. He gave me freedom. I just submited my life to Him some time ago. He has been doing all good changes in me, setting free from sexual addictions are just some of them.

    I tried without God, on my own stenghts and was unable to break these both addictions for around 20 years.

    "If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed." (John 8:36)
     
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  15. That is true. As long as we stay behind Jesus back and don't fight in our own strenght the evil one.

    Gal 5:24: "But the ones belonging to Christ crucified the flesh with its passions and lusts."
     
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    How did you come to find this God-fellow. What was the inner process like of receveing and letting go.
     
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  17. Barnabas_

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    Sure.

    I was distroyed and devastated by life and many bad choices and addictions for years.

    Had big depression and even had suicidal thougts at that time (a few years ago).

    Admitted that I am powerless over my life. Cried out to God for help and prayed with someone prayer like that (or quite similar):

    "Dear Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe You died for my sins and rose from the dead. I turn from my sins and invite You to come into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior. Amen."

    Someone told me the Gospel-Good News, that regarless of the past, God have something good for me:

    "Now I would remind you, brothers, of the Gospel I preached to you, which you received, in which you stand, and by which you are being saved, if you hold fast to the word I preached to you—unless you believed in vain.

    For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures." (The First Letter to Corinthians 15:1-4).

    I accepted Jesus as my Lord of my life. Shortly after that, started to read a Bible (God's Word, just one chapter of the New Testament per day) that have been transforming my life, relationship with God, others and myself - daily until today.

    Christ saved my life, delivered me from three addictions and is tranforming me daily. Now I am a happy person, enjoying life and have a lot of hope for the future :)
     
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  18. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Thank you very much, I am honored you took time give me such a lengthy answer.

    I struggle with pride and wobble in fatih due to low degree of trust since Ihave been abused, rejected, bullied and tormented many times in my life. I need jesus but I need very much help to let him in to my house, so to speak.
     
  19. Well, you sure have seen the dark side. But if you want help then I can suggest reading the whole book of Job(in the Bible). It sure shows how God cares more about our soul than our flesh or comfort of our mind. In the end, those hard lessons come handy later in life to be happy and live long(maybe even an eternity).
    Anyway, daily Bible reading in the moorning right after waking up will strengthen your faith, heart, soul, and spirit. A good start would be getting baptized, but most important is reading and praying every day with putting your heart in it. If you don't want a minimum from God then don't give Him your minimum time or effort.
    I know sounds hardcore to read every moorning but God won't waste a single second of your life and will give you peace and joy you never knew before.

    You didn't start your life well but most important is to want to finish well.
     
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    I struggle with pride too. I'd say this is often problem number one (ego, being self centered). Through reading the Bible God is changing this in me, but this is a process - learning humility - which for me is one of the key elements in recovery from all kind of addictions.

    Many addicted men I know either:
    1. were rejected by parent(s) in their childchood,
    2. or had very weak relationship with father,
    or experienced both of them.

    Including me.

    Fortunatelly, thanks to Christ, your past does not have to dictate your future. Christ is the best doctor I know. Relationship with God is helping not only to stop addiction but also heal the roots of it.

    "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come."
    (2 Corinthians 5:17).
     
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