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Crying too much when lonely

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Deleted Account, Sep 25, 2020.

  1. I am on day 683 of nofap thanks to Almighty Allah.
    The thing is that i have stopped using youtube and other social media . But when i am alone like not for an hour or for a day but for 3 to 4 days and not even a single person is with me with whom i can talk i literally go crazy , now i am in my friends apartment and they are all home and I am here on some work and away from home and friends and I cry like 3 to 4 times a day .I dont even feel like working . Even though I dont use youtube and interney but to fight this lonely feeling I just start watching random videos . I get this feeling when i am very lonely as if my world is falling apart and i am doomed
     
  2. IGY

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    WOW! Are you sure you are not crying with joy!

    Seriously, crying is fine. It is a natural release. Even so, a trip to the doctor would be advisable. He can advise you on how to lift your mood.
     
  3. Hahaha thanks . No i just cry when i am extremely bored and alone for a long time
     
  4. Yes crying helps . But i thought that something was wrong with me
     
  5. IGY

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    Well, that is why I said go to the doctor. You may have a depressive illness. There are a range of options he can suggest.
     
  6. Well tbh i cant afford a good doctor .
     
  7. IGY

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    I am sorry to hear that. In my country we can all see a local doctor for free - the National Health Service or NHS.

    Are there activity groups you could join where you are - walking or hiking locally? Can you do some sports or physical activity? You do not need to join a gym. Even body weight exercises (calisthenics) are effective and reduce depression.
     
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  8. Metis07

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    You need smth to get dopamine from (ofc some healthy activity), haven’t you tried some sports or hobby clubs in order to meet people at the same time?
     
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  10. Well normally I do have my friends around and we go outside for walks and we play cards and we debate over current affairs . But they all have gone home after exams and the college is off due to covid and I am here all alone . Food helps but i cant he eating all day long haha
     
  11. Yes there is a park there but i dont feel like going to it alone . There is also an outdoor fitness centre there . Yes even good doctors who have high fees only prescribe anti depressants which i dont wana take
     
  12. Yes there is a park there but i dont feel like going to it alone . There is also an outdoor fitness centre there . Yes even good doctors who have high fees only prescribe anti depressants which i dont wana take
     
  13. Metis07

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    I see, btw congrats on 600+ days brother.
    You need to find smth to fill the void, no PMO, no YouTube etc. is great, so now you need some activities bringing you joy and dopamine.
    You just really need to give it a try and start doing it, even alone, there will be always some pretext not to start, do it nevertheless
     
  14. IGY

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    Ask your friends to go to the park with you. Kick a ball, have a run, anything bro.
     
  15. Well the thing is that all my friends have gone home . That is why i am alone. Even just sitting with my friends can make me feel good but not a single one is here . All gone.
     
  16. IGY

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    I am running out of ideas buddy. o_O
     
  17. Can you suggest any activities ?? Thanks you bro
     
  18. Well thanks anyways . Even talking here made me feel good . I mean i was real lonely hahaha .
     
  19. Metis07

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    I was in the same boat when studying abroad, no family and friends. I was so depressed I though I would die and I was asking God, please don’t let me die here, I want to die back home. Now I remember all this with a smile.
    It get better when I started to do boxing there, I met some good friends and understood that all the problems were in my head.
    As @IGY suggests just anything, try something, especially some activities with people and which you like or may like
     
  20. Exactly . That is what i feel sometimes hahaha .not most of the time thank God .yes im thinking about going to the park tomorrow and working out . Thanks man .
     
  21. Randy Andy

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    I don't think it's likely to have too much crying. Maybe you're just really sad, it's ok to feel sadness it doesn't make you a bad person. You mentioned something that I really related to: "I just thought there was something wrong with me". I felt that way since I was a little boy, and when I became obsessed with sex and later started using pornography and masturbation it seemed to prove that I had been right here was what was wrong with me. But I had the feeling of being a bad person before the addiction started. My children have it sometimes even though I've told them every day I love them and they've had a great life. I think everyone has it just some people stay very busy so they don't notice or they do drugs so they don't feel it. There is a way to live happily without either pm+ or the belief I am a bad person, at least there is for be and I don't think there's any reason other people couldn't have the same relief.
     
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