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The START 2021 STRONGER Challenge [CLOSED]

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Deleted Account, Sep 3, 2020.

  1. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Stay in touch here. Know there is lots of support from the challenge group to keep you on track. What is your plan?
     
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  2. I have tried in the past to continue being intimate with the wife and just cutting out PM but I only lasted a week. I didn't really make a commitment to myself though. My wife and I are separating but I have been staying with her and I felt like I was using her for sex. So that's why I've gone hard mode. All the best keeping that chaser effect at bay. I'm glad you can enjoy the good times with your wife.
     
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  3. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Sorry to hear about your separation. My wife left me a while ago but we are trying to rebuild. It's difficult and inconsistent. Right now it's bad after we've had a spell of getting along.
     
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  4. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 11 - work sucks, everything with the wife is horrible (also wondering if it is worth the effort), life overall seems pointless. I've picked up the phone 3 times in the last hour to start looking at P, but put it down. So at least I've got that going for me. In this moment, staying clean is about the only thing I am finding any meaning in, so I better stay with the program.
     
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  5. ok, putting you on the LEGENDS Tier.... because that was 22 SEP for our time in the states. Glad to have you here, best of luck!!!
     
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  6. Sorry brother,

    I know I am on a roller coaster ride myself with the Mrs. SO proud of you for stopping yourself from acting out. I can 100% say I know how you feel and that feels. Stick to some distractions, and find something, anything positive to flip your perspective if possible.

    Hunt the good stuff brother!!!
     
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  7. Not the same boat, but my relationship has gotten pretty bad in the last couple years. SO bad that she has made comments like that I am using her, or she is just a tool for sex to me. It really hurts inside for her to feel like that, I mean she ignores me and gets into her own world just as much - and it's not like we aren't there, we are just aren't two little love birds all infatuated with each other like in our 20s. But man, hearing her say I was using her for pissed me off something big.... almost ran out and found some hookups, but I let it go for a bit. I'm working on hard mode too, but mostly for the ED/PIED reasons, and a little bit if hoping that I can show her that it isn't all about sex, and also I may change enough that we CAN draw closer in our relationship and come out on the other side more in love. Who knows.
     
  8. theforgotten1423

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  9. Day 12
    It's not enough to count days and expect your life to change completely overnight, as if there were a magic number of days that would absolutely change your life.
    I say this because during the week I have identified my triggers, changed my environment and kept myself busy.

    Take action
    , it is the only right approach to overcome this addiction. I haven't suffered from not watching porn because I simply haven't had time for it.
     
  10. The_Director

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    Still on day 3, but my wife and daughter just left to go to the doctor, so I am at home by myself. This would normally be prime time for at least an hour long porn binge, probably starting in the instagram funnel. I am checking in here to send a message to myself that I am taking it seriously. I will not look at porn!
     
  11. Been there. I remember throwing away like a 30 day streak in the blink of an eye, just minutes after my wife left the house with the kids. I felt pathetic, but I had to log onto here and report my relapse, at least you're doing better than me and preventing the forest fire and not fanning the flames. Stay well, brother.
     
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  12. Bethelightinmyheart

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    I am in and on, still going strong.

    Not only am I not sexting, I also not hit any random girl or any girl up for a chat. No procrastination amigos, none! We are being stoic from now on.
     
  13. PegasusKid

    PegasusKid Fapstronaut

    Day 6. The urges are really strong today after accidentally seeing something slightly nsfw, but I’m gonna try my best.

    Edit: Ended up relapsing. Still happy about hitting 6 days though. I think it was a bad idea to come on here before the urges went away as thinking about not masturbating usually leads to wanting to masturbate, for me anyways. But also i need to be more vigilant of what I come across on social media to reduce peeking, accidental or otherwise.
     
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  14. Gregory S

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  15. Awesome report. Keep at it!
     
  16. Sorry to hear that man. Like you said in your post, recognize where you got into trouble and try to set up preventive measures to avoid duplicating this incident.

    Proud of you for getting do far.
     
  17. Bethelightinmyheart

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    I wanna learn and master Krav Maga. I just started! Before i used to practize Muay Thai. Now I am not as slimmed down as then, and have some excess weight even though I still have a pretty smoking body.

    So: with this being said - let's get started. Made it a goal to reach tomorrow: practise some basic Krav maga at home. Come monday I will be a Killing machine :)
     
  18. I relapsed I’ll be honest I’m having a really bad week I am relapsed at 21 days then I relapsed a few more days and I also got a concussion this week but I need to snap out of it I can’t be this weak even if I can’t do what I normally do to fight off the urges there are other things I can do to fight this no more weaknesses not from me I’ll beat this thing I’ll beat my 83 day streak as well I won’t give up give me my mark I’m ready to go again this time for real I have something to prove to myself
     
  19. New Focus

    New Focus Fapstronaut

    I am with you on taking this seriously to not look at porn. Sometimes, just making a decision to yourself about your next steps can be quite powerful.
     

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