The START 2021 STRONGER Challenge [CLOSED]

Day 3.

 

55 days, this is incredible

 

Hey, I'd like in.

I'm going to be honest though and this may sound harsh...

I'm doing this for real. And when I have that sort of conviction, I can follow through, unless I allow other people to drag me down.
That's my responsibility, no one else's.
But I just want to put it out there now because if everyone starts falling off, I might have to leave to preserve myself.

With that said; we can do this guys. It is possible.

 

Day 8. This has already been a success for me.

These words by BC are words we need to internalize. I know I tend to blame others and things for my shortcomings. I tend to lean towards why I cannot complete this challenge.

It's all B.S.
Whether I succeed or fail, it is on me. I do appreciate those that do come along in my fight. This is how we ALL succeed.

One of the rules I am adhering to is the wife test. I am learning how to be intentional. I just know I cannot dabble with psubs or nsfw or anything that gets the dopamine flowing. I simply cannot feed it.

So, Day 8. We together, can do this.

 

@BrohkenCompass reporting a reset. Hello to the platinum guys.

 

Day 1 in, I'm logging the day at midnight now for simplicity, so I have to get through the whole day for the day to count. Today I'm gonna do some journaling, try to get some perspective on how I've been feeling and thinking.

 

Well said. Good that you have a "wife test" rule. Can you be more detailed? I too know that I cannot dabble - it is a slippery slope, sometimes immediately sometimes over a few days that I wind up back in the cesspool. You are doing great work. Stay strong.

 

Solid advice BC. Half the time I come here when I am about to crumble, I find strength in offering some type of support and encouragement to our brothers that are experiencing difficulty. It reconfirms my commitment to possibly help another on this journey. In giving, we receive. Stay strong all.

 

One of my "tests" is - can I tell my mother, wife, or daughter what I am doing? If not, then don't do it.

 

The Wife Test is really quite simple. It helps with my intentional actions. When I am in a situation where I get curious, such as a link to click, I ask myself if I could do this action if my wife was sitting next to me. The answer of course is no, in which case, I go in a different direction.

I struggle with psubs and the like, so I find it is just so much safer to not go there and using the Wife Test helps me do that.

I am now starting Day 9

This is something we all need to ingrain. I know as perfectionists, we like to have this perfect streak and when it is not perfect, we dive into PMO. I know it will not be smooth sailing and during those times, I remind myself of the wife test, and it balances me out.

 

Day 5. I flipped briefly through a fashion magazine of my wife’s (maybe 20 seconds) last night but righted the ship. I feel free from urges and have been doing home repair today.

 

Im back on nofap after reaching a rock bottom. I’m not only addicted to porn but also escorts, and im very tired. Sometimes i wonder how i will ever be able to find happiness in the future, but also how my present actions will come back to eventually bite me in the ass.

Well in here now and im joining the challange.