My transformation (2 & half years)

Deleted Account · Sep 30, 2020

GratifiedSlave said: ↑

Can you comment on PE? Whats was your condition 2 years before on your time to ejaculate, has it improved?
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Nofap hasn't changed anything for me I couldn't see any benefit to be honest

GratifiedSlave · Sep 30, 2020

SPIRITUSS said: ↑

Nofap hasn't changed anything for me I couldn't see any benefit to be honest
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Thats disappointing

mike15 · Sep 30, 2020

SPIRITUSS said: ↑

Thanks,
I created a journal
I take massive action these days ans i learn a lot. You can go take a look if you're interested about this process of approaching girls
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/i-approach-attractive-girls-my-journal.290497/page-2
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Thanks i’m gay but am definitely interested to read! It all overlaps anyway in the end!

Asgardian36 · Sep 30, 2020

SPIRITUSS said: ↑

My life before 20 years
- Depressed
- No friends
- No girlfriend
- No social intelligence
- No motivation or self-discipline
- Shy
- Harassed during a large part of my schooling.

What I put in place to change at 20 years old (I think all these things are due to the fact that I got tired of all this negativity. I knew in my heart that I was capable of so much more. But it's like I was trapped in a bubble and I was lying to myself all the time. I didn't dare to face the world and dare to do what made sense to me).

- NoFap
- Meditation 1hour a day
- Workout 3/7 d
- Diet
- Approaching attractive girls during day time and at night
- Reading Books (not necessarily about self help...)

What I learned from all these habits.

- The power of habits. It's amazing how we repeat the same patterns over and over again without realizing it. Changing our habits changes our lives. The fact that we don't get any results is our responsibility. The results are only the consequences of causes and conditions we have consciously or unconsciously participated in.

- We set our own limits. We decide what we believe is possible or not. Without realizing it, we prevent ourselves from succeeding on a daily basis. One part of us wants to succeed but the other part believes that we don't deserve it or that we are not good enough. We cannot achieve our goals if there is a constant conflict between these two parties. Our thoughts influence our actions. Our actions affect our thoughts. If you are not satisfied with your results, change your way of thinking. Thoughts are just thoughts. If you can observe your thoughts, you are not your thoughts. You are much more than that. Observe your thoughts with kindness and caring without getting attached to them. You will see life as it really is and begin to make the right choices. Change your perceptions of reality and life will bring you what you've always wanted.

- Fear is an illusion. It is only an emotion that tells you that you will lose control over what will happen. The mind does not like to lose control because it feels in danger. Approaching a girl on the street was impossible and unimaginable for me. I imagined a whole bunch of scenarios. And if I get rejected, I'm not good enough? What if people make fun of me, that I don't know what to say? I approached maybe 3000 girls in 2 and a half years in the street, in the stores, in the evening. I always felt fear, always. but I went anyway. fear will never go away, it will always be there. You have to learn to make your fear your friend. When you overcome your fears very regularly, your life becomes an adventure in which you learn a lot about the world and about yourself. But most of all, you realize that you dare to do something you never thought you could do. And that's the craziest thing in this story. The person you really want to become is behind all these fears, these doubts. Fear is positive, it shows us the way forward. We tend to exaggerate our emotions and that's what hurts. Learn to observe your fears, accept them fully and take action in spite of everything.

- self-acceptance. Before, I didn't feel complete. I always focused on having more, being more, pleasing others. I had a great need for recognition. I would look for everything I was missing on the outside because deep down I was not at peace with who I was. NoFap and meditation helped me to re-center myself. To realize that I was already this entity full of love and caring. That I didn't need to do more than what I was. That my mere presence was enough. The fact that I always wanted more made me behave in ways that were not authentic. This is the scourge of our society. We believe that having more, working hard and achieving our dreams will repair the lack of self-esteem and self-confidence that we have always had. And if we reverse this logic. What if we start feeling complete and incredible and take action not because we lack it but because we love who we are?

- The search for perfection is a danger. It is boring to be with someone who is trying to be perfect and forgets himself in favor of his oversized ego and his need for recognition. Our imperfections are part of us. To deny them is to give up who we are. Approaching a girl, for example, with the awareness that it won't be perfect, that you can screw up and not know what to say, but that it's okay is surely the most benevolent act you can give yourself. Accepting our frailties is not something we have been taught, neither is accepting our emotions. We tend to think before we act, to think instead of feeling. And this closes so many doors for us in our daily lives. Don't try to be good, accept that you're not good and take action.

- We don't care about results. I take action every day for what's important to me. This notion of working for what makes sense to us is valuable. But let's stop taking action to get something. Let's take action because we love who we are. The results won't make you happier. Focusing on results is building your life on a paper castle. Everything can fall apart at any moment. You can't control your results. At least sometimes you don't have control over what life can give you. Don't try to change what is. You never yell at a plant to make it grow faster, do you? Why do you do this to yourself ? Personal development is not a fight, you are not fighting with yourself. You are not in conflict with yourself. It's just the opposite, you take care of yourself.
Take action and enjoy every moment that life can give you. If your outlook on life is negative, change your perceptions and bring more awareness to your life (meditation can help).
If you don't get the results you want, change something (your way of thinking, expressing yourself, your actions). Fully accept who you are and what you can't control.
Overcome your fears
Try new habits

I am aware that I haven't really talked about NoFap, but it hasn't played a major role in my adventure for my part. I forgot to specify. It is a transformation over 2 and a half years. Don't hesitate if you have any questions. Thank you and take care of yourself.
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bro....great post! Good stuff! I will save this post!

Follower of God❤️ · Sep 30, 2020

SPIRITUSS said: ↑

My life before 20 years
- Depressed
- No friends
- No girlfriend
- No social intelligence
- No motivation or self-discipline
- Shy
- Harassed during a large part of my schooling.

What I put in place to change at 20 years old (I think all these things are due to the fact that I got tired of all this negativity. I knew in my heart that I was capable of so much more. But it's like I was trapped in a bubble and I was lying to myself all the time. I didn't dare to face the world and dare to do what made sense to me).

- NoFap
- Meditation 1hour a day
- Workout 3/7 d
- Diet
- Approaching attractive girls during day time and at night
- Reading Books (not necessarily about self help...)

What I learned from all these habits.

- The power of habits. It's amazing how we repeat the same patterns over and over again without realizing it. Changing our habits changes our lives. The fact that we don't get any results is our responsibility. The results are only the consequences of causes and conditions we have consciously or unconsciously participated in.

- We set our own limits. We decide what we believe is possible or not. Without realizing it, we prevent ourselves from succeeding on a daily basis. One part of us wants to succeed but the other part believes that we don't deserve it or that we are not good enough. We cannot achieve our goals if there is a constant conflict between these two parties. Our thoughts influence our actions. Our actions affect our thoughts. If you are not satisfied with your results, change your way of thinking. Thoughts are just thoughts. If you can observe your thoughts, you are not your thoughts. You are much more than that. Observe your thoughts with kindness and caring without getting attached to them. You will see life as it really is and begin to make the right choices. Change your perceptions of reality and life will bring you what you've always wanted.

- Fear is an illusion. It is only an emotion that tells you that you will lose control over what will happen. The mind does not like to lose control because it feels in danger. Approaching a girl on the street was impossible and unimaginable for me. I imagined a whole bunch of scenarios. And if I get rejected, I'm not good enough? What if people make fun of me, that I don't know what to say? I approached maybe 3000 girls in 2 and a half years in the street, in the stores, in the evening. I always felt fear, always. but I went anyway. fear will never go away, it will always be there. You have to learn to make your fear your friend. When you overcome your fears very regularly, your life becomes an adventure in which you learn a lot about the world and about yourself. But most of all, you realize that you dare to do something you never thought you could do. And that's the craziest thing in this story. The person you really want to become is behind all these fears, these doubts. Fear is positive, it shows us the way forward. We tend to exaggerate our emotions and that's what hurts. Learn to observe your fears, accept them fully and take action in spite of everything.

- self-acceptance. Before, I didn't feel complete. I always focused on having more, being more, pleasing others. I had a great need for recognition. I would look for everything I was missing on the outside because deep down I was not at peace with who I was. NoFap and meditation helped me to re-center myself. To realize that I was already this entity full of love and caring. That I didn't need to do more than what I was. That my mere presence was enough. The fact that I always wanted more made me behave in ways that were not authentic. This is the scourge of our society. We believe that having more, working hard and achieving our dreams will repair the lack of self-esteem and self-confidence that we have always had. And if we reverse this logic. What if we start feeling complete and incredible and take action not because we lack it but because we love who we are?

- The search for perfection is a danger. It is boring to be with someone who is trying to be perfect and forgets himself in favor of his oversized ego and his need for recognition. Our imperfections are part of us. To deny them is to give up who we are. Approaching a girl, for example, with the awareness that it won't be perfect, that you can screw up and not know what to say, but that it's okay is surely the most benevolent act you can give yourself. Accepting our frailties is not something we have been taught, neither is accepting our emotions. We tend to think before we act, to think instead of feeling. And this closes so many doors for us in our daily lives. Don't try to be good, accept that you're not good and take action.

- We don't care about results. I take action every day for what's important to me. This notion of working for what makes sense to us is valuable. But let's stop taking action to get something. Let's take action because we love who we are. The results won't make you happier. Focusing on results is building your life on a paper castle. Everything can fall apart at any moment. You can't control your results. At least sometimes you don't have control over what life can give you. Don't try to change what is. You never yell at a plant to make it grow faster, do you? Why do you do this to yourself ? Personal development is not a fight, you are not fighting with yourself. You are not in conflict with yourself. It's just the opposite, you take care of yourself.
Take action and enjoy every moment that life can give you. If your outlook on life is negative, change your perceptions and bring more awareness to your life (meditation can help).
If you don't get the results you want, change something (your way of thinking, expressing yourself, your actions). Fully accept who you are and what you can't control.
Overcome your fears
Try new habits

I am aware that I haven't really talked about NoFap, but it hasn't played a major role in my adventure for my part. I forgot to specify. It is a transformation over 2 and a half years. Don't hesitate if you have any questions. Thank you and take care of yourself.
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I relapsed around day 40 - 60, my brain is trying to trick me.

Powerous · Sep 30, 2020

Amazing bro, our true nature is always authentic and abundant. Look at how you were as a little kid, fearless and adventurous always exploring and having fun laughing enjoying the moment. Society I should say modern society instills fear and need to focus on destination, destination addiction, I will be happy when I have a big house nice car lots of money etc... that thinking will never make you happy NOW. There is only NOW.

Experiment1996 · Oct 1, 2020

Has your brain fog gradually gone away? I am on a streak of 9 months and still struggling with brain fog.

Deleted Account · Oct 1, 2020

Experiment1996 said: ↑

Has your brain fog gradually gone away? I am on a streak of 9 months and still struggling with brain fog.
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Diet + Workout ans your "Brain fog" is gone. Nofap has nothing to do with it
Also It is there because you lack self confidence and self esteem probably.
Meditation, overcoming your fears, doing things that scares you and makes you proud everyday. That's the key

OhWhenThe · Oct 3, 2020

Of the 3000 girls you approached, what's the worst reaction/outcome you've had?

Deleted Account · Oct 3, 2020

OhWhenThe said: ↑

Of the 3000 girls you approached, what's the worst reaction/outcome you've had?
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There have been girls who have completely ignored me. It's not really a reaction since nothing is happening. But it must have happened to me maybe 6 or 7 times not more. It always hurts less than you think it does.

Once a girl told me that she didn't like what I was doing (approaching girls). When I asked her why she couldn't answer. It was an unpleasant time to live but we can't please everyone.

99% of the time it goes very well. girls are happy to be approached. Even if it's awkward. As long as the intention is good.

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