My streaks so far.

You're quite hard on yourself, those are some really good streaks.

Just to motivate you, my last 10 streaks:

0 (relapsed the same day I started)
2
1
0
1
7
5
8
1
8 (current)

My all time record being 22 days (in March).

 

PMO is also unhealthy internet behavior. You need to regulate your device usage and minimize screentime. Fill your life with offline activities to replace digital super-stimuli. Don't be alone and bored with a internet connected device. Don't use Netflix during these early days of recovery. The reward pathway in your brain is too sensitive right now to avoid easy temptation. Do something in the real world that is active instead of spectating a screen.

 

21 days.
46 days.
25 days.
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92 days.

I guess youre not getting the bigger picture, 3 relapse out of 92 days. You should be proud of yourself.

1)You are never failing when your are trying to stop PMO.
2)The past is the past and we only move forward.
3)BECOME DISCIPLINED SO YOU CAN ACHIEVE WHAT YOU SEEK FOR

 

Not really sure.. Maybe because most of us started this addiction at such a young age (10+) Thats what ive been gathering anyway from reading guys and gals posts.. Think about all that routine and habit that we unknowingly put out brains through. All those years of molding negative electrical pathways.. Its not like we can switch that off on a dime. It takes relapses and fails to truly recover from pmo. Thinking youll never relapse while on a streak is not only a foolish way to think (not calling you a fool) but its also unrealistic. Keep fighting! If u ever need some support or advice go a head and msg me. Good luck!

 

Exactly, its not the object. Its the control we let the object have over us thats the problem. We need to train ourselves and realize that we ultimately have control. So blaming yourself and taking responsibility for your own actions is an honorable thing to do.

 

You will.. Imo it happens when it happens.. But having a goal is good too.. For me its just tedious and it stresses me out to think like that.. Different strokes for different folks.

 

Because its an addiction


Btw not bad at all! Good streaks keep up with it and improve

 

Because people want it all. They have no patience and grace. And that is exactly what is needed to overcome this darkness that we shelter.
PMO knows it's power over you. You can go 10 days without PMO, and it won't budge because it knows you will, eventually. That is when the urges hit you hardest when you thought you were doing great. Then you relapse again and think to yourself: "this was supposed to be the last time". Yet here you are. Relapsed after another streak that was supposed to end it all.

How do you overcome that? You need to let go of your lust for control and prediction of the future. You do not have control, never had control and never will have control. Let go of illusion and and let go of preset thoughts like 'tHiS tImE i WiLl MaKe iT'. You are setting yourself up for failure by projecting a future that may never happen. It sounds weird, but you need to let go and accept reality. Once you do that, urges won't really hit hard, because you are able to let go and not have this pressure on you because this challenge was supposed to be so important.

Don't get me wrong, NoFap is the way, but you can only make it if you accept every outcome. You need the peace and clarity to distance yourself from forced greatness. See it as a student who is being forced by his parents to work hard at math. This is setting the child up to feel forced and ultimately fail and hate math and himself. Weird analogy, but you get what I mean. You need to let go and accept that you have no control over the child. The child in yourself. This challenge takes time. Accept that reality. Days will become minutes as they become meaningless once you stop putting pressure on yourself.

Most relapses happen because everyone is so busy with doing NoFap 24/7, that they forget that to overcome PMO, is to ignore it and let it die.