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First post on this forum...on day 26 ..reboot

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Aye the scotsman, Oct 1, 2020.

  1. Oct 1, 2020 #1
    Aye the scotsman

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    Hello to everyone
    Ive been addicted to porn for many years but for the last 4 years ive been trying to quit... and it isnt an easy journey for me or my partner
    Watching porn and playing with myself has stopped but i know it's just sitting waiting for me to f##k up .
    Ive been going round and round in a circle for the last couple of years maybe 3y , ive picked myself up from a low point an start to feel good for about 1-2 week's then just start slipping away again come the end of the month or maybe 2 ive got to really start fighting to pick myself back up an away from losing to porn
    So sex between my partner and me is and was terrible (feel ashamed) and cant even get it up anymore
    Now things have changed in last couple of months.... REBOOT came into our lives and all the other pieces of information about whats happining in my mind.
    We are now working together on this 90 day's harcore reboot ..on day 26
     
    Aye the scotsman, Oct 1, 2020
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  2. Oct 4, 2020 #2
    BreakingDawn

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    Welcome! Same here. Hard mode while married.

    Having the partner on board is key. My wife has become my biggest supporter in a problem I thought I was all alone in dealing with.
     
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  3. Oct 5, 2020 #3
    Lasthope1234

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    Guys. I suggest you don’t go hard mode while married. You need to rewire your brain and replace the old happits by new and healthier ones. I found that my PIED gets reversed faster if I am engaged with my wife, even though I need to go through 3-4 failed attempts. I once went hard mode for 50 days without any improvement, because I didn’t show my brain what real sex is. I then relapsed but managed later to reverse PIED in just 10 days by forcing my self in the bed with my wife even though I had -0 libido.
     
    Lasthope1234, Oct 5, 2020
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  4. Oct 5, 2020 #4
    Aye the scotsman

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    Hi breakingdawn
    Thanks for the reply and yes it feels good to have my partner on side and after nearly 4 years of try fail try fail things are changing for the better
    Hope it goes well for you myfreind
    Keep it real day to day
     
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  5. Oct 5, 2020 #5
    Aye the scotsman

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    Hi lasthope1234
    Dont think its for me personally
    Tried to force the sex but all it done was make even worse and i started to get very anxious even at the thought of sex and my partner hated it just as much as me so that's why am on a hard-core reboot,
    Just done my first 30 days
     
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  6. Oct 5, 2020 #6
    Lasthope1234

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    I know how it feels. I know how akward it is, and how it makes you so anxious and frustrated. It needs to get worse before it gets better. At least kiss and cuddle. You need to rewire.
     
    Lasthope1234, Oct 5, 2020
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  7. Oct 5, 2020 #7
    Aye the scotsman

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    Thank you for the feedback..since starting the reboot that's exactly what we decided a kiss n cuddle but no sex no foreplay no touching, and try to get back to just loving each other, (ie. The rewire)
     
    Aye the scotsman, Oct 5, 2020
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