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Edging/prostitution and porn help

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by BEPSY97, Oct 5, 2020.

  1. BEPSY97

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    Hey


    I was on a streak of 15 days, one of my best as im addicted to porn and especially had some prostitution problems in the past. yesterday i removed all social media and i saw something in spam.. it was something special.. i knew it was sexual content but it triggered me and i opened it. I felt a huge surge of dopamine, like it was hurting so strong was the feeling.. i started masturbating but did not ejaculate.. then i put the phone away and did it again just the same... untill now i did not ejaculate but im worried that my streak is gone,i just started to feel somewhat better and now its gone... now im standing here in prostitution street thinking of doing it 1 more time


    Please help me
     
  2. I don't know if you relapsed again or not, my guess is you already have. Obviously I'm going to tell you to not give into your addiction, but I also know when we are triggered it's really difficult for us to take a step back. If you want to be kind to yourself, go home and take a cold shower if its possible in order to kill the urge.

    After you ejaculate whether it's through watching porn or with a hooker, ask yourself do you feel better and is this the answer to your problems?
     
  3. BEPSY97

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    I havent ejaculated yet and i havent had sex with the hooker, im just wandering like a sheep who lost the herd right now
     
  4. Bro sorry to hear you are there. But posted here means you can resist!

    what do you want from a prostitute ?
     
  5. BEPSY97

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    I think its because im looking for love and sex i have not right now but i think ill go home and try again.. i have not orgasmed yet so i think its not all lost even though it feels like it right now
     
  6. You will be good. Sex and love. Is that really want you want ?
    You did great to not buy fake love.

    go buy yourself something you want online
     
  7. Spiritual Redemption

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    How's it going brother

    I myself know the struggle. I had repeated problems with transsexual prostitutes for about 3 years. Always finding myself
    giving in to the temptation. I knew that what I was about to do would cause me immeasurable pain, but I would do it anyway without fail. I think it has to get to that point where you clearly see how taking this path is just not an option anymore. There's only one place this takes us, and it's always back to square one. Let me ask you, has it ever truly been worth it? Has it brought anything meaningful or lasting other than an intense rush? And it's never only one more time. There's always another one more time, and the price of procrastination on not turning away from this vice is heavy, and will continue to take from you spiritually until you have nothing left. If we are to move forward to true contentment, self-worth, and happiness, it requires 100 percent commitment to a new way of thinking and a new way of living. Love and intimacy cannot be bought, it cannot be something that we switch on when we feel like a rush. It requires, pain, patience, effort, and perseverance. Just like life.

    I don't know how long you've been on this journey, but there are some things I really recommend that you start doing.

    1. Meditation - This is crucial. It will clear so much of the bullshit in your head, it will ground you, give you more power to face the day ahead of you, and give you a greater sense of connection to everything around you.
    2. Helping others - Sharing your experience and helping other people is a sure fire way to pull yourself outside of your own problems. We illuminate our own path by helping others find theirs.
    3. Journaling - Journal every night to reflect on your growth and process your new found perspective.
    4. Action - We have to take positive constructive action every single day. Living simply trying to not masturbate and not have sex with prostitutes is never going to work. You'll always give yourself some kind of excuse to fall back on, and you'll give in every time. A new way of life needs to be built and that requires disciplined effort into every facet of your life. That is your work, your relationships, exercise, hobbies etc. Nothing short of 100 percent commitment will work. The paradox is that if you build this new life, it will be out of alignment with your old self, and instead of fighting masturbation, you'll find that these destructive habits are naturally diminishing in power, and that they gradually fall away on their own.

    Good luck, stay strong, and I truly believe that you can make the right choices here.
     
  8. BEPSY97

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    I ejacultated after edging and edging
     
  10. BEPSY97

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    But atleast i didnt go to prostitutes. Ill learn my lessons out of this
     
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  11. eric9000k

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    better reset that counter then.
     
  12. BEPSY97

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  13. eric9000k

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    It is a very difficult decision to choose between fapping and getting a hooker so in this situation perhaps the best choice is to do neither.
     
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  14. Spiritual Redemption

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    Yes I did! As I said, we can only find our way out by giving our best and helping others. Have a good day my friend. PM me if you need any more help.
     
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  15. IGY

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    This was the relapse right here. Edging is more damaging to your recovery than masturbating to porn and ejaculating. It causes you to have floods of dopamine over and over again. I hope you have no sexual content left on your computer now.
     
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  16. BEPSY97

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    I feel calm now. After relapsing I went to sleep. Ill go to the store and buy myself a journel to write in everyday. Ill do that from now on. Also Ill look to find a football club and delete any form of social media. Back on 0 but also back on track. Thank you guys I really appreciate your support
     
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  17. You should be proud of yourself. Masturbating and ejaculating is always better than paying for a hooker. 15 days is impressive. Like you said earlier, the reason for you to turn to porn and hookers is that you're lonely and need love. Not sure what you're doing to put yourself out there to date or meet women, but maybe instead of focusing on porn when you feel comfortable you can put that energy and focus in dating. Try again, I'll be rooting for you
     
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  18. LoveIsAllWeNeed

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    Find out what your mind is telling you at these moments. You let your life being taken over by your ego that tells you you're lonely, unworthy, or some other lie. Learn to watch your thoughts as they pass by and be conscious of the feelings they produce.
    When you notice you're experiencing negative thoughts and feelings focus your attention on positive thoughts and watch your feelings change.
    Being aware of your thoughts and feelings without getting involved in them, helps you become the master of your life that in essence every person is. We all are wonderful human beings, we only need to remember this because in the heat of the moment we tend to forget it.
     
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  19. BEPSY97

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    Hello guys I think dating women right now is not a good idea. Why? Because I feel unhappy and neet to work on myself right now. I'm going to buy the journal and I also called to talk with a psychologist. I will write down why i'm doing this and fight untill I become who I want to be. Thank you for your answers



    Putting me out there and using Tinder led always to relapses. So another reason why I dont date women right now.
     
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  20. AddBis

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    I see Tinder as a easy way to escape the challenge of talking to women in real life. It doesn't satisfy us because we just binge their pictures and seldom get their attention. I think there are two types of people on Tinder: those who just want easy sex, skipping social conventions, and those who, in addition, are desperate for love and attention. If you belong to the latter, you're less likely to attract girls, but if you are the former, you are just showing a lack of control over your animal instincts. On the other hand, I doubt you are searching for girls with that same characteristics. I think Tinder is weird because it is not natural (and not just because I was rejected by most women in there hahaha).

    I know the way I classified people was very simplistic, but it was the way I found out to understand why I should leave Tinder once and for all.
     
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