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HELP - can't make it over a week

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by golferboy, Sep 30, 2020.

  1. Sep 30, 2020 #1
    golferboy

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    Since the beginning of this month, I have gotten serious about quitting PMO. Thankfully, my addiction is not that severe, it is the last day of the month and I used 4 times this month, and I view pretty vanilla stuff. Even though my addiction is not as extreme as some others, I still want to get rid of it. I used to be P free for 2 years until early March when I relapsed and did not catch myself, and before I know it, I was back to PMO. Those two years were the best of my life, and I want to get them back.

    To those out there that are longer along in their journey than I am, do you have any tips for getting over the 1-2 week hurdle? I am having trouble getting past this point. October is starting tomorrow, and I want to make it the whole month without PMO. If anyone is looking for an accountability partner, I am too, so shoot me a message.

    Let me know what you guys think. We got this.
     
    golferboy, Sep 30, 2020
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  2. Oct 1, 2020 #2
    better123

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    You know what, i am in an exactly same situation.... trying to break free 2 week hurdle...
    Trying!
    We'll do this brother, we will go beyond the limits of 2 weeks....
     
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  3. Oct 1, 2020 #3
    golferboy

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    Hell yeah man, lets do this thing
     
    golferboy, Oct 1, 2020
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  4. Oct 1, 2020 #4
    Humble Sir

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    Count me in. In my case the big struggle is around the 30 day mark. One thing I found to be extremely helpful in getting through it is the flatline. If you can cope with it and get past through the 1-2 week mark you might soon find yourself in a flatline, which will highly reduce the cravings. Cheers and good luck.
     
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  5. Oct 1, 2020 #5
    randomname3

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    I hope I can help here. Could you start by describing what it is you're currently doing to overcome 1 week? Are you perhaps just saying "I'm not gonna watch any porn", and then expecting that to work?
     
    randomname3, Oct 1, 2020
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  6. Oct 2, 2020 #6
    MovingOnFromThePast

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    I asked myself why it would be okay to watch porn and masturbate. I recorded myself, once i replayed the recording of myself answering why it is okay to PMO.
    ALL I HEARD WAS A WEAK BITCH. #STAYHARD
     
    MovingOnFromThePast, Oct 2, 2020
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  7. Oct 2, 2020 #7
    golferboy

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    I may be relying a bit too much on willpower, but I have done some research on the correct mindset and I am trying to embrace that. I have heard that embracing mindsets such as "failure is not an option" and "you already are porn free, so turning to porn is not an option."

    Additionally, I am very active and workout or run almost every day. One of the toughest things for me is that I am at college, but online learning because of covid, so I am not out and about as much as I would like to be. I do live with roommates, so one thing I need to do is keep more door open so I am not setting myself up for failure. Additionally, I had content blockers on my phone and tablet, but then I just used my computer, so I know have a blocker on that too. I'm interested to hear what tips you have.
     
    golferboy, Oct 2, 2020
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  8. Oct 6, 2020 #8
    randomname3

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    Alright that's a start! I've never used a content blocker, and honestly I feel like most people are smart enough to figure out workarounds very often if they really want to. Instead what you want to focus on is keeping your mind clean. That means paying attention every time you start to feel triggered, even a little bit, and pulling yourself away from the source as fast as possible. This might mean foregoing certain games, TV shows, videos, pulling your eyes away from certain girls you see, pulling your thoughts themselves away from lusting, you name it. It probably sounds absurdly difficult, but it's a skill, and like any skill, it gets easier with practice. And as you turn it into a habit, it gets easier still.

    I also recommend early on here, as you're just trying to get off the ground, that you set a specific date to which you will make it clean! [Don't worry about relapsing after that date is over, but once you start again, go eg 4 weeks, a month, 90 days, etc] Make that date a little mantra you repeat to yourself to kill off those triggering moments and pull you back into the real world. That oughta be enough for 1-2 weeks!
     
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    randomname3, Oct 6, 2020
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  9. Oct 9, 2020 #9
    golferboy

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    Thanks for those tips. I have challenged myself to go the whole month of October. So far, 9 days in, it is honestly going very well. I have had little urges and when I, I am able to regain control of my mind and get rid of those thoughts. I definitely agree that pulling yourself away from those thoughts is important, as you said. I think that if I can "practice" on these situations where I see something triggering on TV, social media, in person, etc, I will be better prepared to control my mind when true urges hit. Thank you for your help!
     
    golferboy, Oct 9, 2020
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