the subtle art of not giving a f*uck by Mark Manson. it is not exactly a book on how to start a relationship. it talks about living through failures(assuming the fact that one usually goes through repeated failures before success). anyway, thought it would help.
Minsc's guide to small talk: Talk. Advanced guide: 1) Get off the porn and masturbation. 2) Find support group to help deal with ones issues. 3) Talk to people. 4) Go for the woman but let go of getting her. 5) Each of us is a person, learn to accept ourselves as one. 6) She's a person, learn to talk to her like one. 7) If she's interested, she's interested. If she's not, she's not. 8) It happens when it happens. 9) Control what we can, not what we can't. 10) Our lived life is ours and not another persons. Thirty eight years old and largely single all my life. These are ideas which have helped me over the years of growth.
this one is great, also read what schopenhauer wrote about women (eg clubofmen.com), also read about red pill, briffaults law, there are many good youtube videos out there. darius m. the thing is, once you understand what a woman and a man actually is, you will no longer ask questions that make no sense, i.e. how to be confident around women, it will come naturally, because you developed an understanding of who you are, and who women are. nofap is essential though, you cannot be confident around women, after just watching a member of that species licking another guys a**hole.