The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Thank you of reminding me of that @Teutão. I guess I just got fed up with the attacks and arrogance against my online friends if I can call you all that. We may never have met, or know each other’s names, but we are here for each other and we are not weak-willed like he claims. I know you all are trying and I know that we will all be free from this addiction one day. I think that time will come sooner than later, but it is coming. Every time we relapse, we will come together in support for each other, and eventually more and more of us will succeed. Unfortunately, triggers and temptations are everywhere, and it is difficult to combat them all. Also, we tend to forget to come for support when we need it before we relapse and instead log on afterward. But if we can come on here and strategize, we will all beat this.

Best,
Mathman1994

 

Day 12 went well

 

Ok so yeah...Relapsed today.Again.I will start the challange tommorow counting it day one.

 

Day 173.

 

Just failed.
Now I have to be extra careful not to binge.

 

Day 21!
The pain of hurting my family is still with me. I need to keep remember this pain as I will never understand how much hurt I actually have caused my family.
I feel different than the previous time I relapsed and different for the better as I am going through change and I will. I will defeat this, you will defeat this. We all can defeat this.

 

59 days

 

Day 66, 67

 

Day 24, some sneaky thoughts, but managed to have a very productive day.

 

If my word is worth something, I would give you the advice of Thomas à Kempis, on his book Imitatio Cristi:
"If you see someone doing a sin, do not thought that you are better then him, because you don't know for how long you will be able to persist on your good way. We are all weak, but do not consider someone as weaker than you".
If you are too much on Nietzsche you will dismiss this words, but I already paided the sin of pride to know his price.
Remember man, this is just a advice...do what you want.

 

@Taran7 , @Julito , "Do not cease from Mental Fight", nor let your sword sleep in your hand, till you have "built Jerusalem". Let's go brothers!!!

 

Day 6.
Back to being a Uruk-Hai.
As the days go on, it gets easier.

 

Day 133

 

Day 11

 

Seeing some streaks that high are really inspiring! Can't wait to get to where y'all are now.

 

Massive update: So I hit day 90 two days ago. The streak was super clean and I maintained honesty to myself. The news is that I actually had successful sex on day 91(I should probably add that it was with an escort, not sure it matters). Brief note I have had PIED for 7 years hiding it and using pills, add another 4 years with pmo use before PIED came along. Everything just worked yesternight, excellently. I've written a summary here (first time writing a success story) - https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/90-day-pied-success-story.292988/

 

I failed on day 3

 

Day 8

 

Hi Fellowship,
I have found this information very useful. It's taken from @RiseToGreatness 's signature link. Hope you find it helpful too.

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15 – Create a new life. You´re not only abstaining from porn/masturbation, you have to replace those behaviours for others. or else porn will return, no matter how much time has gone by. pmo abstinence will leave a lot of free time so you have to create a new life system to fill that time.


So what do you really wanna do with your life? What are your passions? Go for them, daily. Live your dreams. This is very important because as time goes by your willpower to continue nofap may oscillate so you have to gain enough passion for your new life to prevent a setback. If your life is not passionate enough, by homeostasis your brain will not accept the change and will make you relapse, faster than you imagine. So time is not relevant, what´s crucial is what you do with time.

In fact staying busy and taking action is the best way to boost your life and keep your motivation high and running. Forget about external motivations, real power comes from you. Get occupied and motivation will follow.

Another obvious remark of creating a good life is that whether you´re an addict or not, whether you´re in nofap or not, time is passing by. You can die at any moment. How do you want to live your life?



16 - Once you have attained a solid streak, especially surpassing the first month (which is the hardest) it's simpler to attain greater lengths of time. However this may create a sense of overconfidence and believe that you´re in control and you can soften your guard against pmo. This is a powerful trap in which many fapstronauts fall, including me.


When the days start flowing better that doesn't mean you can ease your approach towards pmo. The system that got you to clean 30 days, it works!! So keep using it. In fact, as time goes by you´ll find new things about the addiction, about the triggers, about yourself, so refine your system whenever it's necessary, but don´t stop using it!!!


If you start softening your attitude towards pmo, crossing your boundaries, start peaking, don´t work on your passions, getting bored with life, etc etc… your brain will rebel and turn to the old dopamine solution, making you relapse faster than you imagine.


A system must include :



- Mental system (daily accountability with your AP/ daily recall the nofap rewards and belief you can be free/ daily read your excuses to pmo (and answers) / daily read reboot material, etc)

- Physical system (create a sleep system, nutrition system, health system, physical exercise system, etc...)

- Emotional system (daily meditation / develop tools to handle anger, hurt, boredom, etc....)

- Triggers system (create and maintain barriers to all your known triggers / do cold showers / spend time outdoors, etc...)

- Personal career/passions system (stay active, work on your career, work on your dreams/ hobbies…)


Craft your life to be a masterpiece. The life that you dream of. And nofap will reinforce that life. Remember: only a system can give you a better-happy life, and only a better-happy life will make you stay with it instead of going back to the “old ways”.


Quoting JK Emezi, a porn rebooter coach:


“When you have a system, you will realize that your slip or relapse back into porn and masturbation did not happen randomly. A system shows you that your relapse began days or weeks ago when you stopped engaging the self-care behaviors that have been keeping you off porn.”

..."

 

Day 13.

Wise words @Teutão . A man alone with his own strength can do little, he needs God´s grace and his friends´ help too. Relying in only one of this pillars the building will fall.