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Gay but want to experiment with a girl?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Arctichowler, Jul 1, 2015.

  1. Jul 1, 2015 #1
    Arctichowler

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    So as I am going through my reboot, I have noticed the longer I go without relapsing I have more of a desire to have sex with women. The problem is that I am gay so im a little confused. Another thing is hat I have never had sex with a girl but i kinda want to. I could just possible be curious. Any opinions or thoughts.
     
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  2. Jul 1, 2015 #2
    Kenji

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    Maybe be honest with a woman about your sexuality before getting involved. I mean what if you get into a sexual relationship, she gives her heart to you, then you realize you are truly gay and don't like women romantically? I have a gay Uncle who got married to a woman, had 2 kids, and came out of the closet when the kids were in between 5 and 10 years old and had an ugly divorce. He is a great Father, but I am sure my cousins were affected by this.

    Unless of course by 'experiment' you are just referring to having no strings attached casual sex, in that case I have no advice for you as I now view sex as sacred and best saved for marriage (I have had sex am not married so don't think I'm some preachy pure virgin chap).
     
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  3. Jul 1, 2015 #3
    Limeaid

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    I am straight and have zero desire to have sex with another woman so to me this might mean you are not really gay. It might mean you could be bisexual. Do you still desire sex with men or is this going away? I agree with the above that you need to be upfront and honest before doing this. Let the girl know it is an experiment type of thing whether it is casual or not.

    Another idea is to just keep going with your reboot and assess in another few months.
     
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  4. Jul 1, 2015 #4
    Elduderino

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    You know, perhaps there is a point when some people say that you aren't born gay.

    I don't want to shock you or say you have to be a particular way but I suggest not pursuing sexual relations with them but just being better friends with girls and loving them for being the gorgeous and caring creatures that they are. I think you'll find that they're a lot more special than you had initially thought.

    As a straight guy cleaning up from PMO I have so much more new found respect for women and less anxiety with them too. Although I'm sexually attracted to women I'm not interested in sleeping with them but just being as caring, gentle and honest as I can and this makes my friendships with girls all the more meaningful.

    I hope you aren't scared and that you don't get unnecessarily confused over it all. I think just relax, take it for what it is and enjoy making new friends. :D
     
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  5. Jul 1, 2015 #5
    IGY

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    You may be bi-curious. Or maybe your porn use had escalated to where you have Heterosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (HOCD).
     
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  6. Jul 1, 2015 #6
    writer239

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    I want to do the same thing, but it's more out of a desire to give it a shot before I completely rule it out rather than being confused about it. I like guys, I'm fine with that, but I wanna know what all the hype is about with women.
     
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  7. Jul 1, 2015 #7
    writer239

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    Definitely be up front about it if the opportunity comes up. Let them know that you classify yourself as gay, but you've been wondering what it would be like to be with a woman. That way if you can't get it up or things don't go the way that you guys are hoping it would, then she at least has knowledge into why and doesn't feel like some random guy wasted her time.
     
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  8. Jul 2, 2015 #8
    Limeaid

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    I am sorry but this is just so strange to me so I want to understand.....What do you mean 'hype'?
     
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  9. Jul 2, 2015 #9
    writer239

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    Everytime I come out to a straight guy then the first thing they usually say (paraphrasing here) is, "Dude, women are awesome." So, I want to see what's so awesome about it.
     
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  10. Jul 2, 2015 #10
    KingRecover17

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    Go for it man, it might make you reconsider!
     
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  11. Jul 3, 2015 #11
    NoBrainer

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    Reconsider what?
     
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  12. Jul 3, 2015 #12
    Ray Breslin

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    I completely agree with this.I don't know if you had a fap or porn addiction but it so happens that sometimes watching too much porn can result into development of fetishes.I read about a case wherein a gay guy became obsessed with female genitilia even though gay porn was the norm for him.After he rebooted he totally lost the obsession and felt turned off by it.A lot of times straight guys become hooked to transwoman porn and sex.The bi thing could also be applicable.So i would advise you to go with Limeaid's advice and wait out till your reboot is over.Otherwise,who knows you may end up doing something you may later regret?Don't be impulsive and wait it out till the time you can think clearly again.
     
    Ray Breslin, Jul 3, 2015
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  13. Jul 3, 2015 #13
    Limeaid

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    Ok but they are straight....that's why they think this. Kind of like cats. I freaking hate cats. I tell a cat lover this they say "dude cats are so awesome". It's just because they like cats. Doesn't mean I like cats or have to like cats or have to try and like cats.

    Anyhoo not my bizzness.
     
    Limeaid, Jul 3, 2015
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  14. Jul 3, 2015 #14
    IGY

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    Aww, cats are gorgeous!
     
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  15. Jul 3, 2015 #15
    Ray Breslin

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    That's so stupid...you should simply tell them "Dude,men are awesome".:rolleyes:
     
    Ray Breslin, Jul 3, 2015
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  16. Jul 4, 2015 #16
    Elduderino

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    Dude, women are awesome.
     
    Elduderino, Jul 4, 2015
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