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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Overcomer21, Oct 20, 2020.

  1. Overcomer21

    Overcomer21 Fapstronaut

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    Good morning all - after following the forum for a couple of years, I've finally made the decision to sign up. I've been addicted for over 25 years and know I can't do it alone. While I came out of the gate strong with a 6-month no PMO streak, a series of recent stumbles has me looking to regroup and get back on track. I could blame the pandemic or anything else, but the fault is my own. I made the decision to look at porn again.

    I know how destructive porn is and have lived through the mental and physical consequences of wasting my life with this garbage. I thought I could responsibly enjoy it, but that was a lie. You can only dance on land mines so long before you pay the price.

    I know porn addiction is real. I know I can beat this. It has been the most difficult thing I've ever set out to do, but my resolve will not fail me. I look forward to becoming a member of this community and building on the wisdom, knowledge, and experiences of others.

    I can't believe it's taken me so long to realize there is nothing good with porn. At least I'm here now. I'd love to hear what drove you to finally join the Nofap forum, and how far you've come since your first post.

    Sincerely,
    DC
     
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  2. Shuffledude88

    Shuffledude88 Fapstronaut

    All we can do is look forward, and do the most of the possibilites we are given in life. Way to go signing up here! Just push forward, find your way of recovery which makes you suceed. There is no universal recipe for it, we all need to grind it out and wind our own way in this. I believe with good people, good habits and a good mindset we can do everything. Find what you need, you can do this!
     
  3. Overcomer21

    Overcomer21 Fapstronaut

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    Completely agree - we all need good people, good habits, and a good mindset. It's amazing how many excuses I've made for porn in my life. I have a beautiful wife who's always been interested in sex, so why did I feel the need to watch videos for hours on end? I'll tell you this - trying to explain your equipment malfunction in the bedroom is something I never want to do again. Never could have imagined porn would make erections worse until I found this place.
     
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  4. Shuffledude88

    Shuffledude88 Fapstronaut

    That’s the spirit man! You can do this!
     
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  5. 007_JamesBond

    007_JamesBond Fapstronaut

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    What bothers me about porn is that many of the young people in it appear to be prostitutes and that there is no love or caring between them. I don't want to watch people getting hurt. Others will disagree, but not all porn is the same. It is difficult to find porn with two people who care for each other and try to please each other, but that is what I prefer if and when I watch porn.

    I have gone 90 days without PMO because I wanted to prove to myself that I had the will power and self control to do it and to see if it corrected impotence. In my case it did not cure impotence.
     
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  6. I fapped to the point of depression and utter laziness, binged on grotesque fetish porn to distract myself from life, nuff said. Even trying to quit and failing is better than being complacent.
     
  7. Overcomer21

    Overcomer21 Fapstronaut

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    I fooled myself that certain live cam sites were "authentic" porn, and thus, more acceptable. They still affected me just as bad and I began thinking, why am I watching two strangers have sex (for them to earn money, no less) when I could experience it myself? I was recently reminded of my problem when I'd work up a sweat quickly closing the porn tab when I thought my wife was coming. You shouldn't have to hide anything in marriage, even if you believe it won't cause your partner harm (which is another lie).
     
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  8. Overcomer21

    Overcomer21 Fapstronaut

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    What's to account for the anxiety I felt after watching porn? Is it all neurological? I sought it out for stress relief and encountered the opposite most times.
     

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