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My Father is about to Die... [ Your prayers...]

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Mr.Tony, Oct 25, 2020.

  1. Yesterday, I went to see him.
    He's 70 years old, sadly he was diagnosed with Glioblastoma Multiforme. Evil Disease, The same disease that took my mom away but in a different form, it was bone cancer, my Father has Brain Tumor Cancer.

    He was the strongest person in my eyes, i truly loved him so much, i was truely so close to him. He was my inspiration.

    He did Brain Surgery and Chemotherapy along with Radiation, 8 months ago he was 100% fine. Totaly normal.

    The sad part is that, it takes only 3 months for a brain tumor to grow, once it grows it will ruin your life and your loved ones.

    He supported me Psychologicaly, he was the only person who truly believed in me and helped me to push on 100% in anything i worked on.

    Today, he cannot speak anymore, can't walk nor move. The only thing he can move is his hand, that i kept on holding for 30 mins while watching him.

    Thank you for reading up till here, my story is really hard. But i know i'm strong i will keep on fighting despite everything...

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    I might ask a few questions about our reality:

    • What is life ?
    • Who am i ? As a conscious ? Beyong my Person Identity... who am i ?
    • Do i really exist ? Does everything exist or is it an illusion ? Or Reality is just a Dream ?
    • What is the purpose of my exisistance ?

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    I've read alot if religions before, especialy abrahamic religions, i just don't believe in anything in all of them combined, i'm looking for Logical Conclusions based on Proofs and Reasons and Not Faith.

    Is here anybody who asked similar questions ??? I feel life is really short! And that our natural state is " Death " and not " Being Alive " we've been dead for Billions of years before we were alive, i believe that is dead, we won't exist anymore.

    Thanks for reading, Goid luck to all of you! Prayers to my Father.
     
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  2. JoeinUSA

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    I'm so sorry - Your family and your father will be in my prayers during this time. Be sure to vocally tell him that you love him every day you have left. It will be the most important thing you did.

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  3. ruso

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    Wow man. What a terrible thing. having to endure such a difficult moment.

    Regarding your questions, my belief is even if we had a machine to brought us to 99% close to death / so a simulated near death experience, and pulled us back so we can share our story - we would not have the answers. Maybe that’s a good thing. So that we delay our total demise just a little bit longer than if we had the answers.
     
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  4. skybrowser

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    I'm sorry you and your father are going through this, he'll be in my prayers.

    About your questions pertaining to life we've probably all been there. I remember watching this video of a journalist who was skeptic when it came to spirituality but got to a point that he used his journalist skills to seek the truth if you're interested this is one of the videos
     
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  5. I'm so sorry to hear your news, this must be a very difficult time for you. Just remember that those who die never really leave us, they will always live on in our hearts. Your dad would be proud of you for everything you've achieved, and he knows you love him too. I pray that you get the strength to carry on, and you will become a stronger man.

    Sadly death is part of life, and nobody can escape it. Life is a crazy journey, we are just here to spend our time and don't know why. So I think keeping busy with work, doing other things which make you forget about the sad and bring you into the moment. We are but tiny souls, but we can bask in the glory of God and be grateful for our time here. Try building up some hobbies you enjoy doing, where you don't think too much but are fully enjoying the experience.. that's what makes life worth living, the little things we do every day, the connections we make and what work we do.
     
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  6. Queek The HeadTakker

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    Stay strong , and you will make your dad proud of you
     
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  7. profconcept

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    I'm very sorry to hear about your father, and I'm sorry that you are experiencing sadness. I know your love for each other will never fade.
    You and your father are part of a completely interconnected and inseparable wholeness we call reality.
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    You are neither the father nor the son, but the love that flows.
    Wishing you and your father bliss and peace.
     
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  8. Sorry to hear this. Be strong, even in loss he will always be with you.
    I have no doubt he's proud of you
     
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  9. Michela F

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    I wish you good luck <3
     
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  10. fapequalsdeath

    fapequalsdeath Fapstronaut

    Been through the same. It dragged for seven years with my father even afyer replacing the liver cancer kept returning. I know how you feel, being helpless not able to do anything for your loves one. Hang in there man.
     
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  11. Winssy

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    So sorry to hear about your dad. I pray for him to be free from pain and suffering. You can talk to your dad daily, talk about the happy memories. It helps.
     
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  12. PowerOverMind

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    My deepest sympathies to you. I'm sure that he's proud of you no matter what. Maybe show him pictures of your memories together, that might keep him lucid.
     
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  13. I already did befpre you mention it, it is hard. He grabed my ears and tried hard to speak, but he can't, he can't say a single word... I feel he wanted to tell me somethjng but couldn't. what horrible disease.

    TO EVERYBODY: Thank you guys, everyone of you sorry if couldn't respond, i was so busy to with life and my dad's case, u really appreciated your concern guys.
     
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  14. What is consciousness why am i here ? Is there a meaning to my life ( to our lives ) I feel like we are a bunch of characters inside a theater, we didn't choose nothing, not the era, not our families, no the envirement, not the language...

    It's like we live in a Simumation, The sun is always burning, God never showed, There is NO RULES to begin with besides those that are given to you by your enviroment, that may or may not be real!

    What the hell is reality ?? Why are we alive and why do we fight when we all will die ? is the title of life can be shortned into: Pleasure and Pain ?

    Everything seem to be based on that Chemical inside our brain named dopamine, the amount of it that changes...
     
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  15. PowerOverMind

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    I'm sure his eyes said a 1000 words when he saw them and that it put his mind at ease.
     
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  16. Survival 3 Man

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    Stay strong we are limited not everything is logical. All I say keep searching. Jesus can bring understanding but its your choice.
     
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  17. quit@porn

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    Brother I m really sorry about your father. Hope u have strength n power to deal all these circumstances.

    Regarding your questions. These questions are really tough. They deal with meaning of life. I also have these kind of question and I also tried to find solution and frankly these questions are general delt in religious context.
    I myself have not found concrete answer.

    But I these searches I found out that some of the things are not answer for sure...
     
  18. quit@porn

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    Read this book

    www.arvindguptatoys.com › ...PDF

    "Confession" By leo Tolstoy...
    Hopefully you will get something meaningful... Here the question you faced will and had been faced by him and he tried to find his answer
    Tolstoy's Confession - Arvind Gupta Toys
     

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