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The longer you take to quit, the harder it gets

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by OhWhenThe, Oct 26, 2020.

  1. Oct 26, 2020 #1
    OhWhenThe

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    I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to this.

    I've been trying to quit this crap for about 18 months now. For the first 6 months or so I have to admit that I wasn't taking it very seriously, I was in denial and thought that I could just cut down and that would be enough but as we all know there's no such thing as moderation when you're addicted. Once the penny dropped I was fully determined to quit for good and initially things were going well. I did relapse a few times early on but each streak was getting longer; 3 days -> 5 days -> a week -> two weeks and then three weeks, after that last relapse I then managed my longest streak to date of two months. You'd think that after that streak I'd be able to go further or perhaps even never fall back into it again but sadly it's been anything but. Since April I haven't even made it past two weeks and more recently it's been more like a week at most. I don't know what it is but it feels like I have no more fight left in me, that inner resolve to say no has been whittled down to nothing.

    Every relapse now just makes me feel even more hopeless, yet early on when trying to quit any relapse made me more determined to do better the next time. It seemed much easier the first time around but I'm not sure if it actually was easier, I was just stronger then I guess. To anyone just starting out, don't let this drag on because it doesn't get any easier, in fact it seems to be the complete opposite in my experience.
     
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  2. Oct 26, 2020 #2
    Archangel01

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    I recommend you to block porn sites on all your devices and also completely stop everything that has a high probability if triggering you. For example social media or watching movies which could contain triggers.
    You have to erase that everything out of your life once and for all, even the decision of blocking sites actually telly your brain that you are serious.
     
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  3. Oct 26, 2020 #3
    IR254

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    Yep, I have made the same experience. Currently I am trying to get my problem under control for three years and it seems like my addiction got worse and worse, instead of better. Most likely that is the result of so called "intermittent use", which actually is an addiction risk and worse than continous use according to some studies. I personally definitively think so, when I look at my journey so far.

    For more information on intermittent use, I'd recommend this site from YBOP as an overview. So, that being said, it is in your best interest to get your addiction under control as fast as possible, because it will (most likely) only get harder, not easier.
     
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  4. Oct 26, 2020 #4
    Fallacious D

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    It's meta-complacency. When you first decide to quit, there is a lot of vigor and emotion that you put into the process, such that you will not tolerate any violations of your goals. But after a few failures, you start to get less disappointed with yourself and you have less vigor each time you try to start back up. This is why there needs to be a continuous source of inspiration that never goes away and always drives you. Finding that source is the real challenge.
     
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