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At suicide stage

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Lost memory, Oct 23, 2020.

  1. Lost memory

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    Hi!
    First of all my English is poor i am not native english speakers so don't mind please.
    I am 20 years old student. It's my 2nd account on Nofap.i forgot my previous account password so after some time i made new account.I completed 3 months challenge. No , it's not a success story.
    I just got despair and depression. I had not suffered from much problems due to pmo . But i have one main problem which destroyed my life .i have to make this account just to tell emotions and feelings after completing 3 months challenge. Actually, pmo destroyed my memory and intelligence. Not normal memory but eidetic which i got inherited. I was doing it (pmo)from 10 years . No i didn't do it frequently. I for very few time,i did it daily (for a month or sometimes for a weak , i did it daily)but mostly i did it once a weak.
    I lost my eidetic memory and superb intelligence i was a brilliant student. No one was able to compete me .Studies were so easy for me . But Now my grades destroyed. Studies are difficult and i am a dumb student. After learning hours , i still can't score good marks in paper.i forget everything.
    Just memory loss and intelligence loss destroyed my life and happiness. Even after 3 months, i didn't notice any changes i feel depressed and want to suicide.
    What should i do?
     
  2. ForceMaster

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    Hello Bro, well , i don't know what to tell you man , it is what it is , sometimes things can take a hard turn, but just realize that just as the good times are temporary , also the bad times are temporary , nothing lasts forever, "This Too Shall Pass" , have you considered doing some drastic changes in your life style ? , i know you're probably bound by school and studying and don't have the freedom to travel or do a new fun activity , however , if you can , change your environment , on your days off , go to somewhere secluded or remote , if you have somewhere in nature , just go there , sit by yourself , be friends with yourself , be kind to yourself , and reconnect to mother nature and planet earth , if you can , take off your shoes and rub your feet on the grass to absorb nature's powerful force , and don't take things too seriously , sure studying and exams can be stressful , but just think of the worst case scenario that could possibly happen , like if you failed at studying and exams , what's gonna happen ? , it's not like you're gonna go to prison ! , you probably have a passion buried in the deep shadows of the self , most likely something creative , try new things , different things , and see what makes you feel alive and catch your interests most , books are awesome too , if you have the time , i constantly read the book "The Power of Now" & "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle , & "Man's Search for Meaning" by Fiktor Frankl , oh and also Comedy Bro , i watch stand up comedy and funny sitcoms everyday to reconnect me to the lightheartedness and joy of being alive and to remind me to laugh and not take things too seriously !! :emoji_blush:
     
  3. alphakadabro

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    Suicide isn't going to work. Your entire family is going to be depressed for a really long time after that. It basically scars everybody who you leave behind in a really negative and irreversible way. It will always haunt your loved ones and even their children will be psychologically affected by it.

    Next, most religions say suicide is worse than death. It is punishable in Hell/purgatory or results in bad karma. Basically, it means you are disrespecting God and giving away what he has gifted to you.

    So I recommend reconnecting with other people: teachers, religious people, distant relatives, old friends and anyone who you respect. The meaning of life is in relationship.

    Next, you should put all these PMO side effects behind you. Stop worrying about it and focus on positive hobbies and activities to replace it with.

    You must care for yourself. That means hygiene, clean clothes, handsome grooming, moisturize your face, get a new haircut, grow some muscle, start stretching and doing cardio exercise. After your exercise experience the pleasure of endorphins rushing through your blood.

    Go into nature and feel your spirit interact with the sky, the trees, the animals and the wind. Your spirit is ancient and knows more than your conscious mind.

    If you want to heal your memory and intelligence, you must do two things:
    1) Stop PMO
    2) Activate your higher mind

    Your higher mind is your deepest intuitions, longings and dreams. It is also called the heart. Listen to this and also focus on taking care of your body. And also socialize with others. And learn from books. And create something artistically.
     
  4. You don't have to be intelligence to be happiness.
    I was born an idiot and I'm not even mad about it.

    Maybe you are lose your memory because of pmo but some people in the early 30s lose their hair and become not attractive but them not suicide AHAHAHAHAHAHAH.
     
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  5. InTheWilderness

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    @Lost memory,

    Suicide is never the answer. No one in his or her right mind would ever consider suicide. Every human being wants to live, for as long as they could. That's why people work out, eat well and try to stay healthy. Even when a person is thinking of suicide, a still small voice continue to whisper to instill hope. That's why you're here, and we're glad you're here! I was suicidal in my teen, and have thought of ways to end my life, but by the grace of God, I never got to it. Please read what I'm about to say very carefully. You might not understand everything, and it might not make a lot of sense, but dwell on it.

    Suicide is not natural. There is a spiritual force at play here. Do not listen to that voice. Jesus has this to say to you: “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10). Jesus comes to give life and hope. The Devil comes to steal, kill and destroy. In some way, I was depressive throughout my life until God found me. English is not my first language. And I didn't do well in school, and dropped out. At my current age, I'm very behind compared to others my age. I'm not that smart by the world standard. And sometimes I forget things.

    Yet I have understanding and wisdom. How? By getting to know God and studying His word. There is something supernatural about this Book. That's why soceity seeks to suppress or outlaw it. That's why they don't teach or talk about this Book in school. True wisdom, knowledge and understanding comes from fearing God. Listen to this…

    Job 28 (NLT)
    “People know where to mine silver
    and how to refine gold.
    They know where to dig iron from the earth
    and how to smelt copper from rock.
    They know how to shine light in the darkness
    and explore the farthest regions of the earth
    as they search in the dark for ore.
    They sink a mine shaft into the earth
    far from where anyone lives.
    They descend on ropes, swinging back and forth.
    Food is grown on the earth above,
    but down below, the earth is melted as by fire.
    Here the rocks contain precious lapis lazuli,
    and the dust contains gold.
    These are treasures no bird of prey can see,
    no falcon’s eye observe.
    No wild animal has walked upon these treasures;
    no lion has ever set his paw there.
    People know how to tear apart flinty rocks
    and overturn the roots of mountains.
    They cut tunnels in the rocks
    and uncover precious stones.
    They dam up the trickling streams
    and bring to light the hidden treasures.
    “But do people know where to find wisdom?
    Where can they find understanding?
    No one knows where to find it,

    for it is not found among the living.
    ‘It is not here,’ says the ocean.
    ‘Nor is it here,’ says the sea.
    It cannot be bought with gold.
    It cannot be purchased with silver.
    It’s worth more than all the gold of Ophir,
    greater than precious onyx or lapis lazuli.
    Wisdom is more valuable than gold and crystal.
    It cannot be purchased with jewels mounted in fine gold.
    Coral and jasper are worthless in trying to get it.
    The price of wisdom is far above rubies.
    Precious peridot from Ethiopia cannot be exchanged for it.
    It’s worth more than the purest gold.
    “But do people know where to find wisdom?
    Where can they find understanding?

    It is hidden from the eyes of all humanity.
    Even the sharp-eyed birds in the sky cannot discover it.
    Destruction and Death say,
    ‘We’ve heard only rumors of where wisdom can be found.’
    “God alone understands the way to wisdom;
    he knows where it can be found,

    for he looks throughout the whole earth
    and sees everything under the heavens.
    He decided how hard the winds should blow
    and how much rain should fall.
    He made the laws for the rain
    and laid out a path for the lightning.
    Then he saw wisdom and evaluated it.
    He set it in place and examined it thoroughly.
    And this is what he says to all humanity:
    ‘The fear of the Lord is true wisdom;
    to forsake evil is real understanding.’”


    Turn yourself to God, and He will make you wiser than your enemies, and He will give you understanding that surpasses all your teachers, and you will understand more than the ancients.

    Psalms 119:97-104,130
    Oh, how I love Your law!
    It is my meditation all the day.
    You, through Your commandments, make me wiser than my enemies;
    For they are ever with me.
    I have more understanding than all my teachers,
    For Your testimonies are my meditation.
    I understand more than the ancients,
    Because I keep Your precepts.
    I have restrained my feet from every evil way,
    That I may keep Your word.
    I have not departed from Your judgments,
    You Yourself have taught me.
    How sweet are Your words to my taste,
    Sweeter than honey to my mouth!
    Through Your precepts I get understanding;
    Therefore I hate every false way.
    [130] The entrance of Your words gives light;
    It gives understanding to the simple
    .


    If wisdom and understanding is what you're after, look to Christ, and study this Book that will be outlawed/suppressed from society in the near future, so study while you can... and remember what I said earlier: “There is a spiritual force at play” The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. Do not fall for his trap.

    There are herbs and supplements out there that can help you with brain health, but more importantly, your soul and spiritual life can only be nurtured and strengthened by getting to know God. If your spiritual life is in good condition, then everything else will follow.

    If I could turn back the clock, I would study this Book and get to know the Creator as early as possible.
     
  6. SelfControlIsTheGoal

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  7. Queek The HeadTakker

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    Suicide is the ultimate defeat so have faith and dont quit
     
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  8. Lost memory

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    Verses you quoted here gave me goosebumps and light of hopes
    Thanks
    Jesus is always with me .
    I believe on mercy of God
     
  9. ForceMaster

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    LoL :emoji_smile:
     
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  10. ForceMaster

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    WoW Dude, i read both the scripture verses !! such a fresh way to start the day !! :emoji_slight_smile:
     
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  11. Lost memory

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    Thanks for your kind words.
    I also reading books . They give me feeling of freshness . I already read "Man search for meaning "
    It's is awesome book . I will read other books you mentioned. It will be great pleasure for me.
     
  12. Lost memory

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    Hahaha, you are right bro.
    But actually spending a part of life with extraordinary abilities of mind made me habitual of living with a sharp mind.
    So that's why now i feel empty.
     
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  13. Lost memory

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    Thanks for your beautiful words.
    I got attached to religion for spiritual refreshment. I am also striving for my future dreams . They give me hope of living. Thanks
     
  14. control your life

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    i havnt tried this becouse im ok , but i read about it ! try to talk to yourself before sleep for few minutes ! ask your memory to improve every day! do this for few weeks , and if you have faith , you will get results ! best of luck
     
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  15. ForceMaster

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    That's Aswesome Bro, Let's Goooooo
     
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  16. fisherman9009

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    I know porn is tough. I mean, fuck, we are all here because we know it sucks and want to get better. Just know porn is curable. You aren’t stuck forever. And when you kick it I swear you’re gonna look back and be so thankful you didn’t kill yourself. Think of every day the same way you do when you get that post nut clarity. Remember why you quit and never sacrifice the long term for the short term.
     
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  17. YouGotThis95

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    Yes, those scriptures are amazing. God's word never fails. Also, there are so many verses in the bible that talk about the flesh, sin, etc..
    Romans 6:12 "Do not let sin reign in your mortal bodies to make you obey its passions."
    Romans 8:6 "To set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the spirit is life and peace."
    1 Corinthians 6:18 "Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body."
    Romans 13:14 "Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires."

    These are just some of the ones that recite in my head on a daily basis to help me fight the temptations that the devil throws at us. Remember, the devil has to ask God for permission to tempt us. He wants us to live for the flesh, the world wants us to live for the flesh, but that's not what God's word teaches.
     
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    Yes, those scriptures are amazing. God's word never fails. Also, there are so many verses in the bible that talk about the flesh, sin, etc..
    Romans 6:12 "Do not let sin reign in your mortal bodies to make you obey its passions."
    Romans 8:6 "To set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the spirit is life and peace."
    1 Corinthians 6:18 "Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body."
    Romans 13:14 "Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires."

    These are just some of the ones that recite in my head on a daily basis to help me fight the temptations that the devil throws at us. Remember, the devil has to ask God for permission to tempt us. He wants us to live for the flesh, the world wants us to live for the flesh, but that's not what God's word teaches.
     
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  19. Just hold out buddy. It is difficult times for all of us. Even I am struggling with suicidal thoughts. I am calling the emergency psych team 3 times a day now.

    And 3 months have clearly not been enough for you. Double down to 180 days but also focus on exercise and other healthy stuff.
     
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  20. ForceMaster

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    Amen Brother !! :emoji_muscle::emoji_innocent:
     

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