Do I want to do Nofap?

Why can't you explore your sexuality with women? Or a woman? Exploring it with pornography is simply less effective when we consider the potential downsides, and in the lack human-human element that limits the kind of emotional highs one can experience. I'm an extremely sexually explorative person. I live that part of myself with women. I created an open relationship with a beautiful, intelligent woman that has similar worldviews that I do. Not only do I have a regular partner who I love very dearly, but I can explore my sexuality with other people, and explore other people themselves. There is no reason you can't create a similar situation for yourself.

 

This is my fifth day with no PMO. I'll admit it's been hard. My addiction went on for over 30 years but I didn't know I was addicted. I always found excuses to watch porn and fap. I experienced ED with the first woman I had sex with and she ended the relationship. I'm now in a relationship that has been damaged by my addiction so that's the reason I went NoFap and no porn. I went on Reddit and unjoined all the porn subreddits. Doing that, I realized I had joined like around 50 porn subreddits. I changed my settings to not allow porn. I also changed my Google search settings so that I have SafeSearch on. Basically, I evicted porn out of my life. I not only did it for my relationship but I also did it because I learned the criminal background of porn and I didn't want any part of that criminality continuing for my porn addiction. I'm done with porn permanently. As uncomfortable as I've been in the past five days, I'm so determined that I'll work right through it and keep going on my journey. I'm setting one small goal after another so I don't get overwhelmed. I feel that going 90 days right out of the gate is a bit much for me. So right now, I want to get to November 1st when I'll reassess and most likely will continue for the whole month of November and so on. I think in order to have success, your reasons for going on this journey must be etched in stone in your head. Before you start, figure out WHY you want to do it and then during the whole thing, keep reminding yourself of the why. Mostly, my WHY is my significant other.

 

All admirable traits. If she broke up with you because she says you're unattractive, it means she's not mature enough for you and that's fine. That's a reflection of who SHE is but not a reflection of who YOU are. Also, if you're single and not seeing anyone, this is a perfect time to handle your addiction. You be you and the right girl will come around. Meanwhile, you get time to get rid of this addiction or at least control it. When the right girl comes along, you'll have this under your control and be more available to her. I wish I knew I had an addiction before I got into a relationship. I've been in this relationship for 13 years and just realized I have this addiction. You work on YOU so that when Ms. Wonderful comes around, you'll be the best you that you can be. Good luck.

 

Agreed, working on yourself and just breaking your comfort zone (screw the nice shoes etc, if that’s not your thing) is what will actually help. Plus the porn you watch is a one sided experience. You are just consuming some shitty made up lines, it’s all a performance. and that’s from someone who had to realize this.

 

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You can explore your sexuality without binge-watching porn. I would try to meet new people or hire escorts or something