Escort challenge

In my case it is dancing. With this quarantine I wasn't able to dance, but now we are beeing allowed to have a little bit of more social contact.
I discovered I could dance in the spring of 2019. And it is something great because as you said "you can't do both things at the same time" dancing or singing and having the urges. And I love dancing because you don't have time to watch the others, you have to focus and concentrate in yourself. In the moment it is only you and your joy, or you and your dance couple.
By the way, do you know any place or places where they country dance? I'd like to go someday to your state and proof my skills.

 

How do you know it is more than 34 weeks?
I believe that 90 days is too little time to make a significative change to the mind, I think that this is matter of years (some few years or a good amount of months).
34 weeks multiplied by 7 (days per week) = 238 days, wich is almost 8 months.
I'd like to read more information about neurplasticity.

 

My husband saw the most changes between 6-12 months.

 

Or should I say “ I started noticing dramatic changes then”. Almost 2 years and he’s still growing and changing. Acts more like a man should now. Takes so much more responsibility than he ever has in his life. Best of all..., he’s happy, genuinely happy. I’ve never seen this person in our marriage before. He was like this when dated, but literally two days into our honeymoon, something was off.

 

Thanks that is a good fact or datum, to not lower the defenses and keep motivated.

 

Congratulations! That's inpsiring!

 

Just do something about your addiction now! Don’t wait until “ tomorrow”

 

I want to point out he works very hard at recovery. He didn’t just decide to quit and it happened, he has been trying to quit since we got married. Until we learned it was an addiction and he started reading, going to sa groups, going to a private group led by a csat, going to counseling, doing homework, until he recognize why he was addicted, he couldn’t stop. He hasn’t been perfect, but he’s definitely a completely different man. In so many ways. I also have asked for polygraphs to ensure he is telling me everything and the truth, because one lie will affect your recovery.

 

U still have the article, brother?

 

One counsellor i seeked told me to try CBT. Any idea?

 

Hey guys. Sorry for the late reply, had alot going on recently. Also had some unfortunate incidents in the family.. But yeah I was definitely looking for help and wasnt looking to have my actions justified. I want out of all this mess. We definitely dont need lectures about how what we do is wrong either. We came here to help beat these PMO/sex/escort addictions in the first place. The above recent info is really helpful and I actually watched a video about a month back with similar info but much more simplified. The guy in the video talked about how sex addiction is basically run by fear. The mind attempting to create endless distractions so that we dont have to deal with underlying fears and stressful, unresolved emotions that we have going on.

Here it is:

This video really helped me alot.. it's actually very true and realizing this killed my cravings quite a bit. I was on my longest streak in a long time, which was 30 days after watching that video. I MO'd earlier but to be honest it wasn't even that fun. I dont even know why i did it, but I'm glad I didn't go to an escort which was what I initially planned and was scrolling endlessly on escort sites. Hoping this is my last relapse. Feeling good though.. Hope that video helps someone else like it helped me.

 

Hey everyone, hey @need4realchg!
I hope your doing well it looks like it!
Sorry I haven’t been back in a couple months. Long story but a little bit private for the open forum but main thing is I am well, I’ve kept clean and still am holding my promise for my 2020 resolutions and seeing 0 escorts. I’m so much happier and couldn’t be where I’m at right now if I wasn’t holding strong. I have to catch up on the last few pages from where I left off but wanted to let you guys know I’m still here and not going anywhere!
If your struggling I suggest a good AP as that is very helpful. We are all here for each other or should be. Let’s beat
This, don’t lose hope, I’ve failed so many times and i was at a very low end of myself last year and found help. I still battle with past regrets but know I’m not that guy anymore and I’m a different person. You can do it!

 

It is encouraging to hear (read) that from you!
I am happy about you!