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I just relapsed and I feel terrible...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by aesthetic_frst, Oct 28, 2020.

  1. Oct 28, 2020 #1
    aesthetic_frst

    aesthetic_frst Fapstronaut

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    Just relapsed after a 38 day streak, my best streak yet and I feel like shit. Just feeling like I betrayed myself and I'm being weighed down by a heavy sense of guilt and depression. I'm trying not to let emotions of self-hatred get to me as they've already proven to push me to relapse before. This is pretty embarrassing to vent like this:emoji_disappointed_relieved:. I just wanted to have someone to talk to about this. Any tips for how I should push past these emotions?
     
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  2. Oct 28, 2020 #2
    mentorr

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    I think the important thing to remember is that feelings come and go, and while you may feel guilty, it does not mean that you are guilty. 38 days shows good progress, and the beauty of NoFap is that if you relapse you can simply dust yourself off and go again with the new knowledge acquired. However the key component of any relapse is to understand why it happened? Take the time to reflect on how you felt before it happened, and why you may have allowed the urge to reel you back in.

    PMO is like any habit, in the fact that it can occupy your mind at any given moment, if you let it. The key is to remain vigilante and guard your mind from any potential triggers that appear to tempt you. In the same way you would not open your door to a stranger, stand ready to distract yourself from any potential urges that reveal themselves at the surface of your mind.

    Most importantly; start focusing on what it is you want out of your reboot. It sounds like you have already accepted that you do not want porn in your life, now ask yourself what it is you do want in your life. Whether it be a new career, your own business, to travel the world or meet someone special; spend so much time focusing on what you do want (a new life), that you don't have time to focus on what you don't want (porn).
     
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  3. Oct 28, 2020 #3
    don'tlookbackinanger

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    best thing i can give you is support.


    get back up, pick up from your 38 day streak and keep pushing.

    increments can seem small but become massive over a period of time
     
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  4. Oct 28, 2020 #4
    aesthetic_frst

    aesthetic_frst Fapstronaut

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    Thanks man, this is great advice! After reading a few threads and your reply I am starting to develop a theory that in and of itself NoFap won't magically change you, but if you take the time to start developing a healthier and better lifestyle and mindset, taking actions as a replacement for porn you would notice instant benefits and begin to lose the need for porn altogether. Anyways, thanks for the support dude, hope you're having a great day!
     
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  5. Oct 28, 2020 #5
    mentorr

    mentorr Fapstronaut

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    Yeah this is it. NoFap is simply the catalyst to create a bigger picture. As you run through a streak I think your focus should shift from trying to abstain to building a new and better life. As you begin to shift activities such as counting days and watching for morning wood will become trivial.

    Anyway keep going bro and good luck
     
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