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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by persona2903, Nov 13, 2019.

  1. parts of the book bliss of the celibate


    "Using sex for anything but it's Divine Purpose is to heap abuse on the Divine Shakti and invite karmic retribution. Look at a prostitute after a few years. Look at men who go to prostitutes. Look at the bogus "tantra teachers", and how they look after a few years. If one already has children, what is sex for now? If it is not an addiction, why can't you do without it? If yogis can do without it, why do you think you can't? If Christ and Yogananda renounced it, why not you? Christ said to follow Him, and that you would even do greater things than He. The celibate Yogananda invited us to become established in nirvikalpa samadhi like him. If an advanced yogi can even do without food, breath, and heartbeat, how can you think you really need something as low as sex. In fact, you need to stop the loss that sex gives you. You don't have a "human need" to bleed a pint of blood. But that's what you do every time you sex. You don't have a "human need" to become exhausted. But that's what a man becomes after sexing. You don't have a human need to get knocked hard on the head, but that's sex for a man.

    You do have a human need for the ojas you'll store up by being sexually restrained. You do have a need for that increased vitality, strength and endurance. You do have a human need for the evenness and patience that restraint will give you. You do

    have a human need for knowledge, which builds up like compound interest in the celibate. You have a human need for meditation, which is stabilized by celibacy. And you have a human need for enlightenment, which will be made possible through your celibacy. Friend, you have a human need to stop losing your vital force. You have a human need to stop sexing, to stop sinning, and to become the powerful, contented, Divine Being that you were meant to be..."

    julian-lee-bliss-of-the-celibate.pdf
     
  2. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 50 - checking in. Going to try to limit time on this site for a few days. See if I can find another way to divert my addict behavior, that doesn't involve the internet. In one sense I've replaced one internet habit for another, although I'd certainly take coming here than to P sites. It's gotten me to 50 days and for that I am thankful, and to all of my brothers here too that have helped me. Stay strong.
     
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  3. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    I'll have to discuss this with the wife. She probably won't go for this program.
     
  4. newstart002

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  5. you may have to find your own way -as one advice is not appropriate for every one at the same time - this is an inspiration to move towards more purified life, you can learn more about karizza and other methods to conserve energy - eventually you may consider this when it becomes natural but i just shared this as an inspiration
     
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  6. ANewFocus

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    Today is 31 days for me. I haven’t seen this far all year. Thank you guys for being here on my journey. Choosing to stop this beast has really changed my outlook. I feel good that I believe I can stop this. The temptation is still there and I want to go back to old coping methods for stress, but I don’t have to and choose not to.
     
  7. Yayyyyy Sooooooo good to see you thriving brother - Your resilience and persistence is incredibly admirable I watched you for a whole year and you remind me of that scene in the movie Last Samuri with Tom Cruez.

    Its a scene that represents an archetype of a true warrior - an indomitable will that knows no such a thing as giving up. It is an inspiration and always puts me to tears. Here is the link

     
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  9. Paul Newman

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    I have read the rules and would like to join this group.

    Please let me know if there is space.

    Thanks
     
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    Thank you sir. I finally had the chance to watch the ending scene. Beautiful words and arriving at something beautiful.
     
  11. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 55 - same old story as far as weekend stress. I've settled into a dull emotional state, neither excited nor distraught, but just sad deep down. I am firmly convinced that any PMO is going to make me feel worse than I already do, so part of me has changed enough that I am not retreating to that coping mechanism and bad behavior. About the only positive thing I feel in my life right now is that I am at my longest streak ever and it gives me hope that there will be some positive change for me in my life.
     
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  12. persona2903

    persona2903 Fapstronaut

    Very possibly in a few days we will have a vacancy, if you are still interested.
     
  13. Paul Newman

    Paul Newman Fapstronaut

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    Yes, I’d still be interested. Thank you
     
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  14. pin

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    How could I join?
     
  15. ANewFocus

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    I had an acting out dream last night. In my dream I gave in. I even went through rationales like “it’s not porn so it’s okay” and then it became porn right before my eyes. Glad to wake up and be clean still.
     
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  16. me too - been having crazy wild dreams - and in my dreams i'm a total dif person give myself permision to indulge - i then felt really guilty in the dream and i woke up feeling thankful it was a dream,

    but while im dreaming i notice i wake up sometimes and i dont want to refocus i want to go back to the dream and play more - i noticed i can actually change my thoughts and renounce so thats what i'm going to focus on
     
  17. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 57 - Some thoughts...my nofap journey is moment to moment. As another hour passes, when that stress situation presents and I don't reach for the phone and go to a P site to salve my pain, when I have an urge or a memory of a P image and move along instead of acting upon it, that is my path - in that moment. I find benefit in the immediacy of that success. And then it is on to the next moment. Just breathe. Stay strong.
     
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    I have read the rules and would like to join this group
     
  19. ANewFocus

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    Today is hard. I’m missing my drugs of food, porn, and sex. I still grieve them.
     
  20. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 60 - thank you nofap community for helping me get to 60 days clean. Given the countless times I tried to quit on my own and instead succumbed to a PMO addiction for 30+ years, the benefits of this site cannot be underestimated. My debt of gratitude is immense so I commit to being a helpful member of the group. Stay strong.
     
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