I need help..

Just think about how edging is counterproductive to your goal of recovering proper sexual function and stop doing it.

 

I feel you man. It is very hard.
I agree that it is helpful to have motivational quotes around, they can really help to put things in perspective when the temptation is too much.

 

I won't bs you. Breaking this addiction is very hard. I also have been at it for 18 days. If you really want to break this addiction, you are going to need to delete all porn off your thumb drives, laptop, and phone. You will have to delete your access to porn. That means deleting all your porn bookmarks in your browsers, both on your laptop and on your phone. If you can't control yourself, put up barriers for looking at porn and get a porn blocker for your phone and one for your laptop. I did all this. I would suggest you quit using Google as your search engine and use Swisscows. That's a funny name for a search engine but it is completely family-friendly and you CANNOT access any porn through it. If you search for a porn site, nothing will come up. I have chosen to break my addiction because it was causing my partner pain. Somehow she got the idea she has to measure up to porn actresses. I have told her I'm done with porn and masturbating to porn. I have given up PMO for the past 18 days and I plan on doing it past the end of the year. I'm pretty sure I'm older than you. I'm 59 years old and have had my addiction for around 30 years. By the way, if the urge is really strong, some here suggest taking a cold shower. I haven't tried that because my urges aren't that bad. One final note: when I joined nofap, there was an ad for another website that talks about what happens behind the scenes of porn: crimes such as kidnapping, forced prostitution, rape, and human trafficking. I do not want to be a reason for all that to continue. My quitting looking at porn won't change the porn industry but if enough of us do this, it will have an effect. Just a few things to think about.

 

I’m sorry but how do I post that forum thing cause I too want to reach out

 

Sexual need is a feeling that God created in us to put in its proper place with a wife

 

I was thinking about ways to build testosterone and as many of you are aware of and no when people don't masturbate they start to increase their T levels. Also eating a healthy diet and refraining from things like dairy and beer and alcohol and narcotics also increase our testosterone levels. I think when we start living better and feeling better we naturally push ourselves away from these destructive images and devices that cost so much pain and suffering and self-destruction. P*** is a horrible thing, and the behind the scenes of whatever's going on is not something that we want our children or their children to ever be a part of. It also wears off just like people who use marijuana and look to using harder narcotics and that the people who watch regular p*** are then into more aggressive things and then they start watching bisexual and homosexual activity which is destructive on its own level in so many ways that I won't even divulge into that at this very moment. I've heard of a lot of people tonight that are being hard on themselves for making it multiple weeks and I look to those people the very same that I look to people who are on day one or day 5000. We are all in this together and we are all going through our struggles and this worldwide epidemic with the covid 19 is not helping because it hinders people from being able to go out and socialize and interact with people on a daily basis. I think making sure that we get the proper vitamins and sunlight as much as possible is also important to our success on nofap.

 

I couldn't agree more with your comment. Everything has a place and a Time and we need to understand that and implement that system that has been put here on Earth for man. Thank you for sharing!

 

Oldfart_v2, thank you for your replies and comments throughout the forums. I've been reading them and they are all spot on I hope you will stick around here for a few months at least and give us the benefit of your experience. I'm 59. My addiction is around 30 years. I am choosing to quit because it was hurting my partner. It has seriously damaged our relationship. I have told her what I was up to (the quitting part) and from time to time, she asks how long I've been going no PMO. She seems impressed so that is a huge motivation for me to continue on. She is post-menopausal and has lost all of her libidos. So here we are. We haven't had sex since my surgery nine years ago. I am also a prostate cancer survivor which cost me my prostate. That being said, I can no longer retain semen since my body doesn't make any anymore. Due to the surgery, I've had ED for the last nine years and I don't see it ending any time soon, if at all. My fear of the possible loss of my entire sexuality made my addiction worse. While I cannot rise to the occasion, if I'm stimulated enough, I can orgasm although I shoot blanks. That being said, if I focus on the fear, my addiction would go on and worsen. I have chosen not to worry about that anymore. My sexual ability isn't totally gone, just mostly gone. I guess I can live with that. What I can't live with is the criminal activity I learned about behind the scenes of porn. Rape, kidnapping, human trafficking, and more. I don't want to be doing something that will help perpetuate that kind of community. I have eliminated all porn and access to all porn sites. That will stay in place permanently. Again, thank you for commenting on posts and giving support. I learn a lot from what you add to these forums.

 

What is the difference between NoFap and semen retention? I'm just curious. Due to prostate cancer and the surgery that removed my prostate and cancer, I don't produce semen anymore. Semen comes from the prostate, sperm from the testicles. No prostate, no semen. Despite that, I'm very curious about this semen retention thing? Please educate me.

 

Ok, but the only person you're fooling is yourself. When you relapse, you should start your counter to 0 and start over. Before you do that, you should determine what led to your relapse and what you can do to ensure that doesn't happen again. I never set my counter to something other than 0. I don't put any additional days on it either. I don't know how to say this in a better way. You are gaming your no-PMO counter by adding days or subtracting days. If you do that, you won't know the true count of days you've resisted PMO'ing. However, we all get to set our own rules by what we feel is right.

 

Edging to porn is either as bad or worse than just normal PMO sessions. Stop it or you will never heal. YBOP has the details

What if I masturbate (edge) or watch porn without orgasm?

What stimuli must I avoid during my reboot (did I relapse)?

 

Congrats on a month! This Saturday will make my first month. Did you take any steps to ensure your success? I made sure that I wouldn't come across any porn. Took some work. I took a full day before starting on NNN and nofap to set things up for myself. Porn blockers, deleting all porn bookmarks, changing my search engine to Swisscows (family-friendly search engine). It hasn't been too tough to get to where I am now, 26 days. My relationship with my partner nearly collapsed when she found out I had a porn addiction. She felt she had to compete with the women in the porn I was watching. I'm going to eliminate my addiction so I can rescue my relationship. Both of us will eliminate this addiction! By the way, I'm participating in my very first No Nut November.