S**** Porn is fucking disgusting

Just don't watch it at all and don't get too emotional about it. good luck with your steak!

 

Hey man. You are damn right. I used to struggle with it a lot. And it's fucking disgusting - real evil. What we need to do is just choose the right path. Take care of our lives and do the best we can do. Good luck on your path man

 

I agree with you bro, thank you for this reminder!

 

Hi gents. For anyone that is truly consumed with this thing, I just want to offer some hope, and share what knowledge I have for anyone that may be struggling.

I think this issue is certainly a complex one, and I think it is only within the scope of each individual to understand for himself the path that he has walked and what perspective he has gained from it. That being said, I certainly believe there are a lot of elements that overlap. From my perspective, I can certainly vouch for the inferiority complex/self-esteem issues of this addiction. I believe that this is at the core of the men who fall into this side of addiction. Men who don't believe in themselves, have never fought or achieved to their potential, have no self-love, and are living in a world of guilt, shame, and believe that they are worth no more than what they are currently doing to themselves.

I definitely stand by what modern research is showing on porn's effects on the brain. It definitely has the capabilities to completely warp the perceptions of someone's mind to the darkest extremes. Sissy porn, I believe, is the last house on the left. If you don't find your way back, you're done for. However, we can find our way back. It was extremely difficult, painful, and it will require everything you've got, but it can be done. I think that is also why sissy porn is so evil, as it messes up your head to the point where you believe that it's permanent, that it is who you are. It preys on, and creates perpetual vortex's of fear. This addiction to me, is simply an intricate interaction of human physiology, the damaged or vulnerable psyche of a man with many personal problems, and acting on the emotions of fear and lust. I was already a fearful and cowardly person, and this just fed it and compounded it tenfold.

The best antidote we have to this thing, I believe starts with personal courage and a relationship with God or a higher power. When I am connected to God, through prayer, meditation, mantra's, and principled living, my fear is eradicated. After this new sense of power, and a clearer mind, I realized my whole life needed to be different, which was to finally stand on my own two feet, and truly take responsibility for, and control of my life. For me, my whole life I was weak. I didn't believe in myself, never faced my problems, never tried my best, always gave into fear instead of pushing through it, never listened to my conscience, never gave of myself to others, or loved others.

When we change our lives, and change the men that we are at our core, this whole thing slowly but surely starves and fades away. With each day that passes, that old behaviour is more and more out of character for the man that I have become. I have now just beaten my longest streak. I have broken through pretty much every barrier of my life, that my sissy porn addicted brain and warped perception didn't think was possible.

For anyone that is in the thick of this thing, paralyzed by fear, uncertain of what to think, who they are, what is going, what their sexuality is, or if this thing will ever go away. Just know that there is a solution. Just know that you aren't alone, I wanted to end my life because of it, and I can promise you, you CAN get out of this. This isn't permanent, if YOU DECIDE so. This is in YOUR hands. The illusion of the brainwashing of this porn is that you believe that your power is gone, that you're just a victim of fate and that you can never recover. I promise you, you can! Do not listen to your mind, it is lying to you. Whatever bullshit it tells you. As you change as a man, and the more time you stay on Nofap, your head will clear, more and more, and you CAN heal. Your life can be different. You have created the bars of your own mental prison, and you are the only person who has the keys to let himself out.

What practical things can you do to get out of this:

1. Cold showers - Twice a day, every day, no exceptions. It will help you physiologically to fight urges, and will build your discipline and courage
2. Meditation - This is crucial, it will clear your head of all the bullshit, and will give you the strength to get through the day
3. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - You have to change the entire way that you live your live. Get stuck in. Face your problems, listen to your conscience, and begin to act on it. Your gut feel will not lie to you. You cannot think your way out of the place that you're in. Only daily disciplined action can get you out of this.
4. Build healthy relationships with other people - Human connection is essential to a healthy and happy life, and you can turn to others for support in your darkest moments
5. Kundalini Yoga - Research it, and do it. There are 30 minute videos available on Youtube, no excuses, out of all the tools I have tried, this will help you the most and the fastest. It will change your life. Do IT!
6. Take long walks
7. Set a vision for yourself of the man you desire to be, and what you wish to achieve in this life. If you do not set goals or a vision, you'll drift around aimlessly, not sure of where to go, or what to do with yourself.
8. Prayer - You might not believe in God, but trust me, if you're in as dark a place and in as much pain as I was, you'll get on your knees and ask for help, without God, I could not have gotten out of this thing.
9. Mantra's - Mantra's are ancient chants, the very frequencies of the vibrations are divine. Repeat: "Om Namah Shiva Ya" 108 times a day, as many times a day as you can, and I promise you your mind will begin to clear, and you'll find yourself connected to new power.

Good luck gents! You can do this! Stay strong, do no give up. There is a way out. This is IN YOUR HANDS. I can show you the tools, it's up to you to take the action and change your perceptions. It works if you walk the road. God speed all.

 

All porn is disgusting to be honest

 

In a way, my enemy isn’t porn. It’s what I call MY ADDICTION. That is whatever the craziness inside my brain and emotions is that drives me to seek porn. My addiction is the problem. Porn is just the food it’s looking for.

Now that I’ve said that, I in no way mean it to underestimate the negativity of porn or detract from great discussions like what’s in this forum. I’m fighting such a tough, persistent enemy I need every weapon I can muster. One great element in vanquishing a foe is to try to understand what makes your enemy tick.

I think of MY ADDICTION as something inside me that occupies its own space and is constantly trying to entice me, trick and deceive me and beat me up. And it’s not leaving, so I need to constantly be on guard. This may sound fatalistic, but I think it will always be there. Alcoholics and drug addicts don’t some day recover and become able to use again without bad consequences. Same with porn. It’s called relapse, whether it happens next week or ten years down the road. I do believe, though, we all have the power and potential to diminish our demons and keep them locked in the dungeon where they so deservedly belong.

Be safe, everyone. One day at a time.