Premature ejculation.

Congrats on doing your 70 days no PMO. Quite an achievement.

Now you enter the stage of recovery called the rewire. During this time, you are to pursue normal sexual interactions with women, which should escalate from talking>>>flirting>>>touching>>>kissing>>>sexual acts>>>intercourse.

Having PE is very common during this stage. Your mind is begging for stimulation, and is gonna latch onto whatever you give it and react intensely. Orgasm from just having someone sit on your lap is not very common, but it's a sign that you're on the road to recovery. It's much easier to tone down your sensitivity and take control over your arousal than the other way around.

If this girl likes you and wants to have sex, definitely do it. Having sex frequently and consistently is going to be the key to getting rid of your PE at this stage. The more sex you have, the more control you will gain.

However, in the meantime, PE can be stressful and kind of embarrassing, especially if you didn't explain to the girl why you came when she sat on your lap. I'm hoping she took it well . If I was hanging with a girl, she sat on my lap, and then orgasmed, I would feel pretty damn cool, albeit a little confused, but still pretty cool haha. Can't speak for your lady, but as long as she isn't super shallow or demeaning, she should be fine with a little "preemptive action".

If she takes it well and is happy about it, just match her tone, whether she's proud, a little giggly, whatever. Let her feel whatever positive emotions she wants

If she's confused or wondering what happened, all you gotta tell her is that you're really in to her, you were really excited to be with her, and touching her sent you over the edge. You can also say you haven't been with anyone in a while. Just make sure she knows you're really into her, and you wanna do more with her.

If things escalate and she wants to have sex, you might need to talk with her a little bit before sex. While you definitely have PE, having sex might feel a lot different for your brain, and you may actually get PIED or DE. Before you have sex, simply tell her you've had some problems during sex the last few months because of stress and other stuff (easy nowadays because of the pandemic), you haven't had sex in a while so you don't know exactly how it's gonna go, but you really like her, you really trust her, and you wanna be with her. Going into sex with no expectations not only lets her know what to expect and not be disappointed, but also really takes the pressure off you, which ultimately helps you control yourself more and have a good time

 

I suffer with pe too. If im having sex without condom i cant manage and keep fucking( ill cum on the floor and clean with some clothes while eating her, so the girl cant notice). What i'll do to fix this PE issue is start training by myself to control when i feel the urge to cum. Quit Masturbation wont solve PE! But dont watch porn, its bad for your brain

 

Not tryna start fights, but for a lot of guys, quitting masturbation, temporarily or permanently, really helps with PE. You will find literally thousands of account on NoFap about guys saying that.

Of course porn is the main culprit, but since porn and masturbation become so intertwined for some men, only stopping one leaves the door open for the other to sneak back in.

 

Yeah man, but i've did it once, 8 months without PMO and didnt work. So i'll try that this time

 

No PMO isn't the end of the process. It takes 3-4 months of having sex after your reboot to regain full sexual function. It never happens right away.

 

I probably have PE as well, and it's because of my exaggerated porn use since I was a kid too. I think it's great that you posted on here, it's a great first step, and there are probably many more like you. Have faith that you can overcome your addiction, and use this as your motivation. Having real sex is very different from porn (I think).

 

U absolutely right sir, its too damn different. And for those like us who strugles with PE its even more different.

 

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Also just an FYI, PE from porn is typically much easier to overcome than PIED and DE, and while it's often stressful the one with the penis (you), partners of those with PE are usually much happier than partners of those with ED.

 

Your explanation is pretty good I have to appreciate, but I have one question, does No M really help PE, coz I have read at many places on this forum that No M just worsen the PE. Actually I myself am on no PMO to cure PE, I can go on a big streak but I am afraid to go on a streak of 8-12 months of No PMO only to find that my PE is still there. I want to know whether or not I am on the right path?

 

No M really does help PE, but mostly in the long term and not short term.

Not masturbating allows you to get in better touch with your mind and dick, so you can better sense your arousal patterns, calm yourself down, and have better and longer sex.

At first, you're going to be really sensitive and cum really quickly. That's ok, it happens with everyone. If you're worried the girls won't like you because you don't last long, most don't care that much hahaha, especially if you go down on them or pleasure them in other ways. If you're cumming really fast, you're more likely to go for multiple rounds, or have sex more often during the week.

The more you keep having sex without masturbating, the more you'll be able to sense your arousal and excitement, and calm yourself or slow down so you don't cum. You'll also figure out which positions get you fully hard, which positions you can stay hard in without cumming, and which positions make you finish in an instant.

For reference, after my reboot, I would cum in about 3-5 minutes, and didn't really have a lot of control over it.

After 3 months though, I could cum basically on command during sex in missionary, doggy, speedbump, and spooning. I could cum in 3 minutes if I wanted, or go for 25 in pretty much any position without losing my erection.

After your reboot, it just takes a little time to figure things out, but taking masturbation out of the equation helps tremendously.

 

Oh I really needed this motivation, thank you very much. My goal definitely is long-term which is after marital sex so I definitely have 2-3 years for that and to rewire. I am not in search of short term cure of PE. I'll keep with my no PMO streak now. I have one question, what's the minimum time you have ever experienced in intercourse?

 

After my first reboot, sometimes I would come in like 3-5 minutes. If I was doing my favorite positions at a high speed and depth, I probably could cum faster.

 

i'm also suffering from PE, cumming on command is something i have never dare to dream of. I have never have sex before but do you really think i can reverse the damage i've done due to long time PMO? i think my PE is PIED that i got from M, as i haven't had it before plus no underlying medical issues. One more question is the term "cumming on command" means u don't feel like cumming during intercourse or you actually have some kind of control things that prevent the ejaculation?

 

PE is mostly because of psycological factors (based on what I've read) and it is "curable". But I don't really know the relation between M and PE.

 

Doing a NoFap streak and then rewiring definitely helps with PIED and PE. YBOP researchers have looked through the data and it definitely helps.

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When I say cumming on command, I just mean I"m in control of my arousal and excitement levels so that I can cum however quick or however slow I want. If I wanna cum in 3 minutes, I can do that. If I wanna cum in 25 minutes, I can do that. I can think about my partner and hit all the spots they want me to for a long time without being afraid of losing my erection or not lasting long enough. Doing a reboot and rewiring without porn just helps you become more familiar with your body and arousal cycles

 

most people rush for O because there's no long lasting needed when you watch porn and masturbate, by constanstly doing this for years you train your mind and penis (mostly your brain) to get aroused as fast as possible, and when you realized that you cum alot faster than you would before, you got yourself PE. That's the relation between M and PE i believe.

 

This is a very helpful information, I'm not sure how much will this journey help me but sometime during the darkest times i just need these encouragement. Thank you very much brother!

To be honest, i have no idea how difference it is between PMO and an intimate incounter, it just got me curious alot, as a non virgin man can you share some experience of the differences? And one more question, say i'm on my 45 days streak, should i have sex if i get a chance (cause i'm seeing a girl)? what should i do then? and if i have sex will it sabotage my healing (rewiring progress)?