is this normal?

paperboyinpaperworld · Nov 14, 2020

I never thought of myself as an addict, it has been 2 weeks since i last used porn, and I never knew it can be so difficult.

There are times when i get spikes, like sudden urges, and when I think about the porn scenes that I watched in the past, I feel like masturbating. And there are many times when I told myself, "it is okay if i just watch for a moment, 2 weeks is a good milestone, i should reward myself (with porn)", but again and again i try resisting, but my fear is, one of these days I might slip.

I just wanted to know

In the past i only watches porn once or twice a week, do i still fall into the category of addicts? I read about some people doing it more often, I seem to be pale in comparison.

It has only been 2 weeks and I am already trying to make excuses for myself, how long must I resist? Is there an end to this? There are days when it is really really really tough, and one porn scene won't hurt rite?

I am truly at my weakest when I am left alone at home, because in the past, this is the time the deed is done, i fear one day, i won't be strong enough to resist the temptations.

Would going / getting an escort help release some of the sexual tension? Is that considered relapsed, would it even worsen the problem?

Thank you to this community. It is nice seeing everybody is so encouraging and supportive.

jimmyric · Nov 14, 2020

Sounds like an addiction (however i can't judge how strong), if you dream about those porn scenes. I mean isn't it addiction when you can't be without something, and you start telling yourself these stories of how something is not that bad. That "it is okay if i just watch for a moment, 2 weeks is a good milestone, i should reward myself (with porn)" is just your mind trying to trick you to do it, I can very much relate. Like you said, people who are not addicts have a control in their own hands.

You must differentiate real sexual need and the need (addiction) for porn and masturbation. Once you begin to heal your body will start getting rid of your tension on it's own for example by having wet dreams. Working out at any sport or at the gym can be very effective behavior. You already notice that if you are alone at home, that is a risk. Now you must think what to do about it.

Also depends on your goals. If watching stimulating content is what you do not want to do but having and orgasm is okay, then do it without watching anything, use your imagination. Personally I do not like it because masturbating even without anything to watch makes me feel like shit.

Having an escort sounds like a very bad idea.

Like Joe Dispenza explains if you are afraid of slipping you are defined by the past instead of vision of the future.

paperboyinpaperworld · Nov 14, 2020

thanks jimmyric

Will try, good advices

Nelsonerhire · Nov 14, 2020

Stay strong. You shouldn't be afraid to be alone. That's where will power comes in. Will power will help you resist something you morally perceive is wrong and harming you. We'll all get through bro. Just stay strong.

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