On the verge of losing hope

bro thats good 4 months?!. my streak is only 6 days im too losing hope but i keep getting stronger everyday, you can keep going your not being defeated you'r lifting yourself up

 

Dude if you keep track of your frequency average you would have probably noticed you have improved quite a lot during those last years and have at least put a curb on escalation as much as possible.

This feeling is temporary due to your recent relapse, do not be too hard on your self, you can make it.
If I may offer a solution, for now you might try to focus on other goals in addition to NoFap, try to focus on exercise goals/ career goals/ diet goals depending on your situation. Try to achieve things you can control even if they are very small. Start writing something down now, how you feel and what you want to change and make action plans.

Doing 4 months of NoFap than what most can acheive, take it easy. Life can be very stressful at times and it is hard to quit an addiction when one has a lot of challenges.

 

bro this could be tough and my be you would fail in the beginning. But it will pay off if you persist, Try urge surfing man. It is helping me now. I hvae bbeen watching porn for 12 year and i never cross day 27, and almost after a year after several failures im on day 44. Its a big thing for me

click on the first link of google "urge surfing"

 

I personally relapsed after a 10 months streak and numerous other long streaks. One thing I think you should consider that addictions are for life. This does not mean that you will be an addict for your life though! It means that you always need to be on the watch out. And I think once you start achieving longer streaks you are way ahead of the curve from where you started and you are already breaking the cycle!

It's a long process of self discovery, I used to think it is just a dopamine addiction sort of thing where when you abstain you simply break the cycle, well nop! It helps to break the cycle for sure but any addiction is a way to cope. Stress, life problems, loneliness can always trigger it. All people have some sort of way to escape and for people on this forum they realize it's PMO.

People become addicted for numerous reasons, you might want to check "in the realm of hungry ghosts" By Gabor Mate.

 

Hi Mauritius..
4 months are also my longest streaks so cheers lol.. It has been 11 years for me to try to quit to sexting, masturbation and orgasm (SMO) and Im just DONE of trying and failing and trying and failing.. that leed me here to NoFap.. Even when I dont consume porn Im still an addict to peaks of dopamine by SMO..So I feel you!

Same here and this truth just hit me: You are immature.. emotionally immature.. Its hard to hear it but its true.. You want to quit but you also want the pleasure and its easier to fall into PMO that fight it with self-control.. it requires character and strength of will..
So.. you need to start to act like a man.. babies wants candies so they scream, they cry and then they get what they want cause they're children.. Men want things and they know arent good for them so they DECIDE to just dont go for it..
So.. it sounds like you really hit bottom.. you just need to start to fight like a real man! No kiddo here!
PS: Does anyone knows about your addiction? My greatest advices is: confession..
Talk about your addiction with a good friend or family member. You need to say it loud, speak out, hear yourself saying: I'm an addict.
Good luck!

 

Over time you build discipline to go further and each time you find a little more. Eventually you go the rest of your life without Porn and masturbation. DISCIPLINE MY FRIEND. My best is 65, my current streak, but for the first year of NoFap, the best I got to was 11 days. This spring, even, my record was 20 days. Now I am 30 days past my previous record of 35 days. Keep going, you can do this. You just feel down after a relapse. I feel terrible after I relapse too. But man, it sure gets better.

 

Don't lose your hope,get a grip! You're not alone in this,we're here to help you,i am 14 years old and started NoFap 8 days ago. It's hard to believe that i started this at a young age,i have to do it,i have to prove world i can break free from this horse-shit porn. Porn is for the weak (don't get me wrong,i am not calling nobody weak in here),stay strong,your brain is tricking you a lot to masturbate and get back to your old habits,but trust me , if you fight it back,no chance for it to come back. Good luck my friend! We're always here to help!

 

today i am also losing hope