fellow fapstronauts, why do you feel so bad about being single?

Humans need social validation, and lonely people who almost never get it from anyone value it the most.

 

Loneliness is just a cover for anxiety and inbility to communicate with others even if you want to create meaningful relationships. Very seldomly loneliness is chosen. It is created by the inability to find cimmin ground with your contacts. Not finding the common ground is an issue. Everyone sbould be able to bond with the people close to oneself.

 

Some people here have been lonely for a very long time, I would imagine that those of us who do not experience this would have a very hard time dealing with it. Some as @fapequalsdeath pointed out aren’t even looking for a girlfriend just in real life friends to hang with.

 

When you're starving, all you think of is food.
When you're cold, all you think of is warmth.
When you're in pain, all you think of is relief.

If you lack something important, it is that which occupies your mind most. Therefore...

When you're lonely, all you think of is connection.

 

I do agree being single is much easier but you have to understand we humans are social animals and we have social needs.

When I was dating, my partner would give me her emotional support and she would do the same. I had someone to talk to if I needed it and she was always there.

Having a partner in life also means having something to life for or a reason to live.

 

Some interesting and intelligent observations here. A great deal of my addictions have to do with my loneliness and failure to find a significant other. There is much to be said for trying to live a dignified and fulfilled single life. I would also not minimize the challenges of building a successful relationship. But I really do feel that a close and loving relationship would improve my life and help me wean off my addictions.

 

In France we are confined for 1 month. My roommate invited his girlfriend. She will stay for 1 month.
I am single.

But I'm going to take the opportunity to continue working on myself. To take this as an exercise. Can I emotionally support 2 people having sex right next to me for 1 month without having anything as far as i am concerned.

Most people get into a relationship because they have a void to fill, but no one is going to save them. It's up to them to do that job. When you love yourself unconditionally, when you don't need outside events like more relationship, more love, more money to be happy. That's when you meet incredible people and girls who will love you for who you are and not the image you want to project. That's what i realized.

I'm 23 years old and I don't intend to start a long term relationship because I'm in a process of personal construction. Don't compare yourself to others. Live your life the way you want to live it and not to follow the social trend. That's what I try to do on a daily basis.
You have to learn to listen to yourself and really know what you want. I don't care about other people. On the last day of our lives we will be alone with ourselves. The others will no longer be there.

 

Being single is easier because you dont have to challenge yourself to be better person or work harder. Personally I think emotional support is a bit of a detriment depending on who you are. If you work in a communication type job having emotional support is important. If you work in a creative job then it can work to your disadvantage, the clue is in the word "support".

If you're happy being single then stay that way I say. Some of us aren't cut out for companionship, we're not all the same.

 

Exactly. It gives purpose and excitement. That’s what I’d like.

 

Depends from person to person, im single and im always looking to be better to impress myself , ans thats what really matters yourself

 

You're challenged differently when you're in a relationship, some would say in a superficial way like to earn more money, to get that promotion, do that course, keep up appearances, impress. I've been single a lot longer and found I got more things done when I had that space and the things I achieved in a relationship didn't really amount to anything substantial. So in that sense you're right but those who aren't so motivated to self-improve and are single tend not to work hard at all.

 

Dude....Thats so f**ed up. Especially when you dont get any action like in forever and your rommate just bangs his chick near you. F***. I would have wanted to kill myself if i was in your shoes. F***. Damn this makes me sad af

 

Lol it's not that bad

 

Haha, you're not alone man.
Look at my situation:
being single for almost a year now. Moved in to a new flat, new city, new job and no social contacts/friends what so ever, apart from the collegues at work (which I don't know that well yet)
(That alone is already shitty) A neigbour of mine (girl in her 20s), has sex with her dude constantly and screams even more than a P-star, I sweat I have never heard anything like this. Luckily I get to be physically at work, so I don't hear them having sex during the day, but man.. It almost feels like someone is playing a bad joke on me. Being single is already shitty and this couple is reminding me almost everyday the connection that I miss so freakin much.

Just try to look at it with a smile and believe that life is full of ups and downs and things will eventually get better. They have to.

 

In general, it is not good for a man to be alone.

Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

The Creator made us to be relational, after His own image. We will always have that void or feeling of emptiness while we’re here on this Earth. Our hunger and thirst points us to food. Likewise, our loneliness points us to someone out of ourselves. We’re made for another, not for ourselves.

With that said, some people are content being single, and have the gift of being single, but not everyone can handle being single. I have been single all my life and can’t imagine myself getting married or being with a woman. If God miraculously give me one down the road, great. But if not, no big deal. I don’t lose sleep over it nor does my life revolve around women.

 

i really like you point of view of the life is quite interesting i am like that i'n not follow the trend and i want to live the live how i want. i like as well build myself and became in the person i would like to be. so definitly i am whit you in that my dear friend. now talking about lonely, in my opinion it is depend because it has diferent pespectives like for example all of that depend how if your behevior when you are alone. if you are a honest and genuine guy when you are with you alone and also you are like that when you are with others one that is the formula of the superman... to be good with yourself alone or acconpanied, in africa or in asia. if you get that and you feel plenty with all that you have in your live that is enough you dont need somebody else to fill up your emty part. but the loneliness is addictive be carefull with that because sometime you thing that you are all that you need and that is not true, we should to speed time with other even if we knows the alone we can have fun. basically: learn how to be alone, learn how to be with others and find the equilibrium. peace

 

I just feel like if I had a girlfriend, I could perform a lot better at staying clean, knowing that there's somebody close to me that I could fight to improve myself for.