The Lord of the Rings Challenge

no bro, not at all. lust is lust, but lust does not mean only porn. any kind of lust can lead to masturbation.

about your question, if you didn´t watch porn then naturally i will say keep going the no porn counter.

your real problem is this: "Understand that lust is the problem and that is what I need to hit but today was a perfect storm, and because I flirted with fishing over the last 2 weeks 2-3 times, it pushed me over the edge."

with the fishing you put yourself in a position to collapse when a perfect storm comes, like a house built on sand. that´s why we need to keep our strategy always top notch, in good days and bad days. that way when a bad day comes we will endure the storm.

 

One more day brave Fellowship!!

Let´s welcome our new member:

@gopal78

The following brothers have upgraded and reach places in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!!

@Ciceron - Bree / Eriador


@MyGodandMyAll27 - Elf / Rivendell



A huge wave of support to our brothers @Teutão , @sunn , @I Am Somebody and our sister @liona which are facing hard times now. Courage my friends, we´re with you!!!!

Happy birthday to our brother @Toni7 !! 23 years and 23 days clean eheheh, now that´s a good coincidence

Have a great day mighty Fellowship!!! Here´s JK Emezi to boost the day

"How´s your anxiety?"

Hello Brother!

"So, J.K...how’s your anxiety?"

I was at the doctor and, given my recent history, I knew that question was coming.

Especially since my life has been so busy lately, it’s only natural to think some anxiety was bound to creep in. I answered honestly and said - manageable when I remember to just breathe and stay mindful.

Now, I know it’s not that simple, but it’s actually what I tell myself when anxiety creeps in rather than doing what I did in the past which was masturbate to relieve it.
Stop and just breathe.

Porn never made the anxiety go away. In fact, it didn’t stop anything. It just made the anxiety fester awhile longer - undetected under the surface. So, how do I stop and deal with anxiety now?

1) Acknowledge It
Sometimes, it’s as easy as just telling myself that “it’s just anxiety”. It’s normal, everyone deals with it, and it will pass. Rather than trying to fix it or make it go away, I just let myself feel it. Crazy! But it works!

2) What’s the root?
Other times, I stop and try to figure out where my anxiety is stemming from. Rarely does it come from what I’m actually anxious about. That would be too easy. Instead, it’s something I’m avoiding dealing with that is manifesting somewhere else. You can avoid the sink full of dirty dishes but eventually the smell starts to seep into the other room. Dealing with the root leads to the resolution.

3) What do I need?
Often times my anxiety is due to a physical need. My honest answer to my doctor was that as long as I’m taking care of my needs (getting enough sleep, eating right and exercising), my anxiety doesn’t bother me. But if I’m lacking on satisfying my physical needs, EVERYTHING causes me anxiety.

4) Just Breathe
When all else fails, I stop and just breathe. I take the time to stop, meditate, and allow the thoughts to float in and out. The clarity that comes from that was never found at the bottom of the wine bottle.

Anxiety might not be the most pleasant feeling, but it IS a normal feeling. Once I quit trying to avoid it, dealing with it and caring for myself became much easier.

Have a wonderful week.

Your brother in this struggle,
J.K "just breathe" Emezi