Question for those with or went through severe pied or a flatline

yes feeling same ,brain is desensitized need more time to recover

 

I’ll tell you one thing. Stop thinking about it, no triggers, no relapses. Don’t think about it. Live a normal life, it gets better. The more you analyse the more difficult it gets. I speak with experience. I used to track each erection of mine. And it never felt good. I also used to look at psubs i.e hot girls on Instagram. I quit. Outright quit. No triggers no sext no nothing. All the just slows your recovery. Today when I met my girl I was getting a boner every 5 minutes. Get rid of everything and delete social media if it is a problem and you can’t control.

 

I have come a long way and it is exactly like this for me. It is supposed to be this way for guys. You feel very turned on in the morning when you wake up. As the day goes by unless there are triggers there is no reason to get turned on.
Also, I would recommend not sexting or phone sex with your girlfriend. I did that and that did kinda slow down my recovery.

 

I was in a pretty similar situation, I know you don't want to hear this but you really messed up when you took the decision to relapse after 70 days or whatever it was. Now I completely understand why you did that, the frustration and fear took over and for your own sanity thought that you needed to see what reaction you'd get.

I was dead from day 1(well, actually before that) until day 56 I think it was, I even recall saying elsewhere that I feel like I could go on forever as I felt nothing. If I'd have taken the decision to look at porn and beat my dick at that point I'm pretty sure I'd have had the same result that you did. On day 57 however I woke up and I could finally feel something, it wasn't the raging 100% libido of a healthy guy but it was something, 20% maybe. Each day that passed it was getting stronger and stronger, until the end of the week when it was at peak levels again. Now this is where I fucked up as this led me to relapse and straight away it was gone again, actually I felt the libido leaving my body within 10 seconds of watching porn so clearly I was at a very fragile state, I wasn't recovered, I just wasn't in a sexual coma anymore. You relapsed after 70 days but for all you know by day 75 you might have seen significant improvements, now though I won't say you're starting all over again but you've definitely pushed yourself back a fair bit.

One other thing is this phone sex with your girlfriend thing, this is NOT helping at all. Your brain doesn't make allowances because it's your girlfriend, as far as your brain is concerned it's just more artificial dopamine that you're pumping into it. During my streak I didn't look at a single thing that would cause any arousal, though will concede that I let the odd fantasy linger on a little longer than I should have but other than that it was a clean reboot - which is the most efficient way.