Meeting up With Escorts

It's not inherently bad as long as you're not contributing to businesses that traffic or control the women (which is really hard to know unless you're paying lots of money).

However, that's not a normal sexual relationship, and it is very easy to develop addictive tendencies and miss out on something more fulfilling an wholesome if you're preoccupied with escorts. A real relationship is so much more fulfilling and satisfying than any type of paid sex.

 

why its dangerous:
--someone can make a sex tape of you and blackmail you.. (read about this in a newspaper article. this happens)
--u can get addicted which can eventually cause u to lose ur job and friends.. (happened to a colleague of mine)

its not good for me. we all have our own ideals. for me the very fact that i have to justify it proves its not good for me.
sure no one's judging. there's no hell/heaven, moral compass blah blah... n this is just for me. i was about to visit one but someone here suggested against it and i'm glad i didnt go.
sex would be more fun when done with someone one loves. jmo.

 

from MY point of view you've got a sex addiction, from what you've said and from how many escorts you've seen you're trying to rationalize your behaviour which is a clear sign of addiction...

Prostitution is bad for a plethora of reasons:

1) You may be contributing to sex trafficking, you say that the escorts are independent but do you know REALLY?
2) Its demeaning to both you and her, you're BETTER than that!
3) It can quickly become an addiction draining you emotionally and financially
4) It leads to hiding and covering up you can't tell anyone where you REALLY are or what you're doing which is a safety issue you have to lie about it and if something goes wrong (knock on wood) nobody can come help you
5) It messes with your head, you fall deeper and deeper into a fantasy losing sight of reality and what's in front of you

These and so many more reasons, something must've triggered you visiting prostitutes, you can explore this in therapy

 

1. Direct contribute to dark side of humanity, some of these poor woman are being controled, forced, kidnaped etc,

2. I dont think u are scared of being in relationship, ur just lazy !!! U think relationship didnot have any purpose,, u can relieve your sex issue with prostitute and fap (which is disgusting), u have a well paid job and life, thats why u didnt search for relationship... If u do scared of these things u will see the doctor / psychologist not prostitute

3. What is your end game?? Sorry to say, but all i see is a man child who do anything he wants without even think abbout the consequence


Im on late 20 myself and i do lot of traveling because of works and yeah its so easy to find prostitute and i know that

 

Forget about the whole morality thing.

You’re just scared to get intimate and vulnerable with a woman so you keep paying for pussy to avoid that. That’s your way of saying: this is how I’m gonna get my sexual needs met without emotional entanglement.

did you have a history of hooking up with women (not paying), but you ended up catching feelings and it turned into something serious?

 

Even if you have no moral qualms with prostitution its very hard to justify participating in it because you come to rely on it because you won't get rejected, and you're paying for consent because sadly bottom line she's only there for the money, if you stopped paying her she'll be gone... you then have to lie about it and its even worse than porn because the shame it produces is strong you can't tell ANYONE, you have to carry that secret to the grave and to me and a lot of men that'd be too much..

 

In the past years, I spent a lot of money in scorts. It can become very addictive, that is the risk.
Being in a relationship with a woman, requires effort. In contrast a scort is easy to get. And when something is easy, we don't feel fullfiled, we always crave for more. This can lead to emptyness, depression and a very deep addiction.

 

thank you.

 

The problems that this creates are the same as winning the lottery and not having earned the money.

If you don’t use morality — just think of physics. You need to put something to take something out of a closed system. Your sanity is what you are subtracting from.

You are training yourself like a mouse to accept a substitute instead of a normal need. Eventually you don’t want what is normal.

 

Bingo...this is how it is with EVERY facet of the sex industry, you just want a cheap knockoff bc you can pay for it, for ME in recovery I'm trying to rediscover hobbies I used to enjoy as a kid as an adult instead of thinking about sex things I can do on my own, you turn down what's normal bc the sex industry is easy, this "pay for play" lifestyle is self destructive as you can go into debt develop intense feelings for an escort, someone who'll never love you back and that's just facts if you snap yourself back to reality you can't ever get sucked into the fantasy as that's reality, she's acting creating a false facade to keep you coming back for more to benefit herself only...

 

+1

 

In my opinion, ESCORTS=SUCCUBUS/JEZEBELS!!!

 

I often wonder how they can sleep at night they try to rationalize it as "oh I'm helping men with confidence or helping men lose their virginities in a way that helps" really if you lose your virginity it should be to someone who cares about you i'd be devastated with that on my conscience that I had to PAY to lose my virginity

 

It's risky because you never know who you are going to meet. You don't know anything about them, what their health is etc. It's also financially damaging. I'm not judging, I've been there. But be careful if you're going to indulge with escorts.

 

I am wondering is it not mandatory to use condoms in the US? In germany you would be prosecuted if you are not wearing a condom. I think there is no problem at all if you use condoms during a sex session, you can use ultra thin condoms from the japanese company OKAMOTO they are 0,01 thin and they are safe as far as I have heard,....don't be that lazy to wear it, you can risk your health and also risking the life of these woman.
But to come back to your issue. If you ask me, you can become a wreck when you continue to have sex for a long time. Everyday I am experiencing myself that I have less energy every time when I ejaculate. And I also don't think that there is a difference between sex and masturbation for both cases you are releasing your semen, except that you have more fun with sleeping with girls.
Do you have a girlfriend or asking different: Do you never wish a girlfriend with whom you could have sex on everyday? Or did you simply gave up searching for woman, who can't be honest to men?
At some point I am at the same mental state as you are. I would also have sex with multiple woman, if I could efford this, (which I currently can't) I would probably live out all my dirty fantasies. Thats because I have simply enough from certain moral preachers from any kind of religion. Religion always filled me up with pain. The other thing for me at least was that the todays society is not able to accept or love other beings. It is not happening anymore. I also don't trust in woman anymore. What I can say is everytime a woman said something like atraction or money or status never played a big role, they always lied. I have spoken to many woman and at the end of the day alot wanted kids and a family and I am not the type of guy who wanted ever live like my family. I never wanted a religious sorrounding and I never wanted to build a family. This is what I have thought since I was 6-7 years old.
To come back to you. What feelings you have had after you had sex with an escort lady and left the room.
Is there something like disappointment, sorrows, sadness or even shame. Or is it a feeling of acceptance, love and trust what builds in you? Can you describe that feeling?
If I had nothing to loose and suceeded in NoFap for a long time then, I would also go to an escort service in 5 or 10 years and want to probably experiment with all dirty things what comes through my mind. There is no way a woman would fall in love to me and my heart anyway. So who cares.

 

I had sex with an escort 4 weeks ago. She was without doubt one of the sexiest, most drop dead gorgeous women i have ever seen. After she left, I felt amazing, I was buzzing. There's a certain peacefulness that comes after sex, that a desire deeply embedded in our dna from hundreds of thousands of years ago has been fulfilled.
We chatted after sex, she has a son back in her home country where income and quality of life are very low. She is working here where she earns good money to secure a future for her and her son. Before she left she smiled at me and told me it was nice to meet me. She didn't need to say that, she had done her work and been paid, she could have just got dressed and fu(ked off without saying that. She meant it. Its been a very long time since a beautiful lady said that to me, and that felt wonderful.
Thats how I felt after the last time I saw an escort.

 

Are you serious about that ? If that's the case, then what can I tell you ?
You are free to do whatever you wish to, but in the end the consequences will be all yours to assume.
It's quite unfortunate you arrived at this state. I would prefer to stay a virgin my whole life than buy another person's body to lose it. And there are women who pay for male escorts.

 

Bad Guys, Healthy Guys and tall guys are in love.....but there is no space of love for me.
You have once mentioned me that a short girl would seen almost like a child next to a tall guy. Guess what? I have seen a 2 meter guy walking Hand in Hand with a 1,60 short woman. This was 3 Days ago in germany. Believe me short man are not loved-NEVER!
Lets pretend we are a couple....You can't never look into my eyes and accept me because of my appearance. I also think that there is no woman in this world who can handle the suffering of man. Thats why I quit society.
Male Escort love to have sex with woman thats why they do the job. Its not always about getting the next drug...it is about being financially independent. The only thing what can stress man is perfomance.
Although I said that I want to live my sexual fetishes out,.....things like cuddling is more important for me. Like I said this won't happen now but surely in 5 or 10 years. Alot of people get love from their parents so why should I not get love from any Stranger? You can literally go to an escort lady and cuddle for an hour without sex.

 

But apart from the danger and STDs, is this really the life you want to live and who you want to be? You can still change before these habits harden further and you get set in stone.

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