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This is a very good opportunity for us all to learn to not take anything said or discussed online seriously, and instead of becoming dependable of moderators doing the dirty work to abolish content which will trigger an individual in a abstract way we must learn to naturally not get triggered and ignore such content.

Discussions on here are all abstract. Each their own. Individuals like myself know when to ignore 'toxic individuals' online just as I do in real life.

What do you do when you come face to face with a toxic individual in real life? Do you go about complaining about that toxicity or do you become an adult with boundaries and walk away and ignore the nuances of what is being said that is deemed toxic? There are no moderators in real life - you are your own moderator.

The books I suggest you reading are "Power vs Force" By David Hawking and "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" By Stephen Covey.

 

Well said, brother! I completely agree.

 

I have to say, I have not encountered that much toxicity on this forum, not any more than might be found elsewhere on the internet. What kind of toxicity are you referring to?

 

How ironic considering that half of your post is written in a passive-aggressive manner.

 

I have personally not experienced anything like this in a long time, but I cant say its never happened. I can mainly trace instances of this kind of thing happening to specific users, one of which who has been gone for a while now. You dont need to name names, but can you possibly go into more detail? I'm genuinely interested in knowing what specifically you are talking about because I lurk on the threads a lot even if I dont post that much anymore.

I agree in principle, but I also think that this runs the risk of going too far and can lead to threads being deleted, moved around, and users suspended or even banned for spurious reasons. I dont think unnamed friend is trying to provoke you, just making an observation. It seems a little bit thin skinned to call him out for perceived slights when in your original post you called for other users to be abused, which is worse than anything he said.

 

"hopefully everyone else gets sick of you and abuse you to Hell."

I agree with your point but u are being very toxic as well, the best way to make this forum less toxic is to start with not being toxic yourself.

also i have noticed a lot of fake accounts that write very weirdly written posts with a link in them, i havent clicked those links but i suspect it to be malware or some sort of advertising. Im surprised the moderators are allowing that.

 

Its just the internet, don't let it get to you.

 

Huh? I think you may be looking for something in what I said that isnt there. I'm not calling you out, just making an observation based on your post. I dont know you, I'm not making an assessment of your character or looking for an argument. My serious advice to you is to make a real effort to avoid engaging with people who are only looking to argue with you, and only respond to people who are willing to discuss things in good faith.

 

Oh the mods do moderate alot on here mostly with there political agendas . Just try writing a post that is not part of a liberal agenda and see what happens, and this site wonders why the memberships keep going DOWN. As far as people aggresive behavoir thats up to you my friend stand up for your self or get off line. No matter what site your on, all of them have there share of PEOPLE WHO TALK TOUGH FROM BEHIND A COMPUTER OR CELL PHONE lol such losers

 

A gross oversimplification. This particular website has a particular function which is damaged by toxicity. The benefit gained by people seeking support here diminishes if they are forced to depend on an environment that is not conducive to recovery. Ignoring all negative feedback, especially when in a state of vulnerability or desperation, is not a practical thing to ask of someone.

 

Well I cant comment on where you live or anything but I'll try to address the parts of this I feel I can. People who try to get a reaction out of you thrive on that reaction, so you have to make sure you dont give it to them. In the past I have had an instance of one user following me from one thread to another to try and start an argument with me. At first I tried to talk rationally but then something clicked, and I realised that they didn't want a conversation, they just wanted to waste my time. In the end I told them they weren't arguing in good faith and that I would not respond any more. And the conversation ended, like a raging fire suddenly running out of oxygen to burn. From then on I vowed to give people the benefit of the doubt, AT FIRST, but then as soon as I see warning signs of any kind I just stop engaging.

 

Please know it's hard asf to moderate. Especially since it's done as a small team. Please be patient. All reports will be treated in their due time. If you want to help, you're welcome to propose your time to help us