Trying to hard to quit

In the first 2-3 weeks your mind thinks a lot about porn and tries to trick you into indulging. This is the time where most reboots fail. Avoid the place you PMO literally as much as possible, as well as spending the least amount of time possible on whatever device you access porn. Additionally, since you can't exhaust your brain's sexual reward centers or your dick, you have to exhaust the areas of your brain and body connected to them. My best tips for the first 2-3 weeks, and even your whole reboot if it's difficult, are:

• only go into your room/place of PMOing to sleep
• limit the amount of time on your internet devices to the absolute minimum time
• social interaction with friends, family, or anyone for at least 1-2 hours a day to exhaust the social part of your brain
• depending on your urges and relationship status, kissing, cuddling, and (given) oral sex with a partner can really help relieve urges
• physical exercise, especially running and leg exercises, to make the muscles in your legs/pelvic region cycle out "horny" blood and tire them out

 

First, you have to define clearly and specifically why you want to quit pmo. That will help motivate you. Then you have to create a system to keep porn away from you and reduce your access to it. Delete porn bookmarks from all devices, delete all porn from all devices, install a porn blocker app on your phone and install a porn blocker on your computer. Either set your Google search engine to SafeSearch (some say it's not infallible in keeping porn from coming through) or switch your search engine to Swisscows found at swisscows.com. If you have email subscriptions to porn sites, unsubscribe now. Delete all copies in your email mailbox including all folders. This will show you that you are committed to ending your addiction. I"m at 26 days (I think) and no signs of relapse so far. Also, find other things to occupy the time you usually fap to porn. I read and I chat with people on Facebook about political stuff, I have four email boxes (one each on Outlook, Yandex.com, mail.com, and Gmail) so that takes a lot of time to go through. I also walk and feed my dog multiple times a day. After 26 days I don't feel many urges and the ones I do get are rather weak most of the time. Rarely do I get strong urges and when I do I observe, I try to understand then I let it fade away OR I come here to nofap forums and read and offer support to others. For sure, when I'm supporting others, any urges I might be feeling subsides. Best wishes.

 

Exercise helps with the physical manifestations of horniness, but does not quell the desires as well.

Avoiding the areas you PMO is one of the best tools for a reboot, up there with having a girlfriend.

 

Will you be able to use these reasons to motivate you? For me, boredom is what tempts me to pmo. I've been struggling with this for about 30 years. My reason for wanting to quit is to save my current relationship which was badly damaged when she learned about my porn addiction. She was hurt pretty badly so I'm hoping there's a chance to save the relationship.

 

I had a bad urge last night to pmo, too. It was stronger than any I've had. I thought I was going to relapse but instead, I rode it out. I observed, didn't fight it, and then let it go. It took about a half-hour to leave me. I was on Reddit, I was in a World Politics subreddit which I thought would be ok when some woman uploaded a gif of her nude and having sex. I immediately switch it off, left that subreddit, and logged off Reddit. I'm glad I was able to curb it eventually. I still feel a little of the urge today. Yeah, the process goes up and down with success. We just have to hang on when it's on the down cycle and wait for the upwards part of the cycle.

 

I had a bad urge last night to pmo, too. It was stronger than any I've had. I thought I was going to relapse but instead, I rode it out. I observed, didn't fight it, and then let it go. It took about a half-hour to leave me. I was on Reddit, I was in a World Politics subreddit which I thought would be ok when some woman uploaded a gif of her nude and having sex. I immediately switch it off, left that subreddit, and logged off Reddit. I'm glad I was able to curb it eventually. I still feel a little of the urge today. Yeah, the process goes up and down with success. We just have to hang on when it's on the down cycle and wait for the upwards part of the cycle. We both will make it, dude.

 

It's kinda hard to do that with all the COVID restrictions. We're told to not be around other people except those you live with. Exercising will be harder if you have no equipment and the gyms are closed, which I believe they are. If we limit PC time, what do we do with the extra time? For me, I get books from the library and read. I walk my dog several times a day and feed him. I clean the dishes and make sure my partner eats. I check my emails and either file them in their proper folders or delete them. I live with my partner of 13 years and I feel it is my job to keep her free of the COVID virus. When I do go out to the store or to pick up food from one of the few restaurants here, I order online, pay it for it online, and then when I pick it up, I wear a paper mask AND a cloth mask. I'm pretty busy but not in the ways you suggested.

 

This is so true. I have realized that it can never be satisifed. It will allways be asking for more, it's sad.

 

I share the same experience. I had 6 month free of PMO, and not a single day passed that i didn't think about it. And the ego play a big role here for me, it allways debate with you and try to fool you at all times.

 

I live in an extended stay inn. We have just one room so it's already in a place where my partner can see me. I never pmo'd on the computer. I did it on my phone. Going for a walk and a run is kinda tough now. It is snowing today and cold as heck. I don't own a cycle and cannot afford one. What I do for exercise is walk my dog four or five times a day. We live on the 3rd floor so I use the stairs rather than the elevator. As far as pre-internet goes, I was a child in grammar school pre-internet. Also before the Internet, we had bulletin board systems. PM me if you want to know about bulletin board systems aka BBS's. Outside of being online, my hobby is reading.

 

I have no problem with my phone. I deleted my porn bookmarks and put a porn blocker on it. Problem solved there. I am a bit trapped at the moment. I've been doing quite well until last night. I was on Reddit in World Politics subreddit and as I was scrolling through the messages and clicking the posts to read them, my mouse clicked the wrong post and I found a video of a couple having sex, extremely explicit. I reported it as I don't think it belongs there then left that subreddit for the night. However, I was hit with the biggest urge to PMO I've had in the over 30 days I have been rebooting. Since my prostate cancer surgery, I shoot blanks so I don't think I orgasmed last night but I'm not sure. I was hit with a huge wave of lust. I just laid in bed, I closed my eyes, I observed the feeling, and let it just flow through and out of me. Part of me was sure I was going to relapse. Somehow, through the grace of God, I was able to hold on and let it flow through me without fighting it.