Leaving my employment

You don't owe your manager anything (most likely... right?), if you want to leave, just be straight with him/her. You want to pursue something other than working in retail and therefore are leaving. Keep it plain and simple. I'd recommend to have a somewhat solid plan on how to finance your studying beforehand. You could also try to start learning whatever it is that interests you in computers beforehand, so you have a rough understanding of what you're about to get into. Keep in mind: Studying something is often very different from what attracted you to the field in general. CompSci is heavy on numerical mathematics and studying doesn't include - in most cases - programming "cool" applications, but to learn about algorithms, data-structures and so forth. Some students do write applications in their free time though.

And: Why would you think your dad is against you studying?

 

Fear.
Fear is what disables most of our decisions.

I say don't just quit a job without a clear plan and goals for the aftermath. It's easy to believe the grass is always greener on the other side. There are real benefits to having employment, not only money, but esteem, sociality and a purpose. A reason to get up in the morning.

Often times we blame our boss or job situation as the cause of our unhappiness. Maybe it is, but what I often find is our attitudes are what stink and changing jobs doesn't change that. Focus on what you CAN control not on what is out of your control.

That being said, develop a clear practical plan on how you want to move forward. If you want to do college, research the costs of persuing it and how you plan on obtaining it. Be deliberate and responsible. Don't expect anything from anyone and seize your life. Make your own way, you're a man, what your dad thinks you should consider, but as long as you're not mooching off him, You shouldn't fear shame by following your dreams.

Best of luck, you got this!

 

Fuck your manager, and your dad can also shut up. We are here for our own lifes. We don't own shit, but noone owns us too, so let's not be weak about it. Do it!

 

They aren't supposed to be stressful to the point of your mental health declining either. It's not good to anyone if you burn out at a young age. Get the kind of job you like or at the very least can put up with. At least you have a plan to get a job that actually pays you money. I don't see wjy anyone would diss that. A lot of people's dream jobs (including mine) are difficult to monetize. So your dreams could be way worse from the perspective of money making and funding your own life.

 

My first job at the age of 20 was really stressful, it was something completely new for me. I had this unpleasantness to work in the call center and I answered the calls from people (often furious) who had problems with Internet/phone service. I left the job because I knew that I will be hired somewhere else and I couldn't allow myself at that time to be unemployed. My first job was a true training ground, it wasn't all strewn with roses and now I can truly appreciate what I have and where I am. Unfortunately the work related stress took its toll on me.

We must also learn to swallow the bitter pill of pride to truly see if our current situation is as bad as we think - sometimes we are contemplating too much and we see only negative things, without noticing the good ones. Even during hard times in my first job I was glad that I had it, some of my friends at that time struggled with getting employed or had much worse situation in their lives.

I don't know in what situation you are (financial e.g.) and in what enviroment you live, but you must carefully plan your next move - especially in the current situation caused by C-virus where it may be difficult to find a decent job as small buisnesses are closing in some areas and having a job is an advantage. Do some research in you local area, check what options you have and after gathering as many information as you can make a decision on what you want to do next.

 

If you work in a office o reccomend to find a work where you are outside. I worked as a painter 42h in a week in my apprendiceship, but i was pretty happy to not work in a closed cube.

 

If I could go back to being 19 years old, I would head to the trades. Commercial electrician to be more specific.

 

Dude f*ck what your parents say. You only have one life and you have to make the most of it. Why not go to college and then later get paid to do what you love. Also, if your manager doesn't want to accommodate to your school hours, maybe try looking for a job with a flexible schedule?