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Day 7.

 

@dragon2110

In response to the video:

One thing that he said is pornography is"addictive and paralyzing". That second term, "paralyzing". I have never thought of using this word to describe what P does to men and boys, women and girls. It truly is paralyzing. I believe this is one of the main reasons that boys are so anxious and scared whenever they think about achieving a sexual relationship with a girl. They feel like they do not measure up, based on what they have seen, and they probably feel like they can't match the aggression shown in the videos. More to that, most guys probably don't feel like they can last as long as they do in P videos (I can tell everyone that it is never about how long one lasts, it is always about how connected you feel with your partner).

This brings me to another point that he pointed out. That is the non-use of hands in the actors and actresses, which points to the lack of intimacy and real connection. The only parts that touch are the private parts. This is a patently false representation of sex. There is also the point that he made about the women that need to make sure they don't mess up their make-up and their hair. Can you see how hard that would be? Can you see how uncomfortable that would be for the woman (girl)? That also brings up the point about obscure positions in P. Most of those positions are extremely uncomfortable for the women (I talked to my wife about it, who talks to other SOs about it). Real sex is not about positions and aggression. It is, just as he said, about compassion and intimate touching. It is about using your hands and using all of your body.

We humans are equipped with mirror neurons and so many other biological constructs that are intended to help us learn. Given this, when we watch P we are learning how to have sex. So based on what the presenter has described we are learning the wrong way to have sex. The "sex" that is shown in P puts women in a subordinate position. "Puts women below the man" is then transferred to other facets of society. And when you consider how younger and younger boys are getting a hold of P, it is truly a tragedy. During the pruning process (which happens up until age 25) this way of viewing sex is being encoded into their minds, so it becomes so much more difficult to get them to see the damages that P scenes impart on them and their partners to be. Sexual abuse becomes the "norm", and young men think that the women enjoy it! How wrong is that?

Then he talked about the fact that "sexual desire almost equals pornography". Young girls who are trying to feel good about themselves are exploited by bad people. He brought up the example of the girls in school. When boys are hooked on porn they look at this exploitation and get off on it. If they did whatever "wrongly" then they get bashed and ousted. The girl tries to find a different school, but social media reaches all of society. She may then end up gone...

Overall, I agree with all of his points. He presented everything in a very inviting way. I hope all addicts will have viewed this video at some point.

One last thing. How should you react if you still have a pull towards P? It is highly important that you realize that this changing your mind is a process. You are not going to magically heal from the mind that has been rewired by P, it takes time and extreme effort. I do not see you as a bad person if you still have a pull towards P, I still do. I must recognize the extreme societal impacts of P, as described in this video and so many others, and take each of my steps in a direction to change the proliferation of P among young men. I prayed, from the bottom of my heart, that I would stop contributing to hurting women, my wife, and myself by not wanting to watch P. Again, as long as I remind myself how P affects society and take the next best step I will eventually get to that place, that better place. While doing so I will try to help young men get out of the false sense of reality that P places on their psyche.

 

Day 19 checking in.
Yesterday and today have been easier and I am happy and grateful for that.
I really liked the video @dragon2110
Some thing I took away from it:
1. If you watch porn, it invades and takes over your mind. It fills it with aggressive, cold, harmful desires. Be careful what you consume.
2. For every famous pornstar with a production company there are hundreds of thousands of women prostituting in the streets, brothels and massage parlors. Probably none of them had this as a childhood dream.
3. When we are watching porn, we are creating demand for shitty, scumbag people to solicitate, exploit and pimp women. These women suffer social death and other harms, like violence, drugs, disease and so on. Porn is not about freedom of expression or occupation. Porn is about freedom to exploit people.
4. How about we have both physically and emotionally safe sex? How about we connect with the person we are close with? It used to be called making love after all.
This resonated with me. When I was young before porn, all I wanted was a girlfriend to love and her to love me.
And now that I have this amazing woman in my life I can't fully enjoy her because of porn related damage.
Knowing that I also have contributed to increased demand for prostitution is sad.
All of these are pretty strong motivators for us to progress and eliminate porn from our lives!

 

Went on a binge of PMOing today that I didn't exercised today & I feel incredibly terrible about it. As recommended, I need to quite having sex or to fully ejaculate for a while with my girlfriend, thinking if either 2 weeks or a whole Month.

 

Day 92.

Dig deep, there is a powerful ally within waiting to be unleashed!

 

Day 136. 14 more to go for second target.

 

Back to it!

 

Day 5 complete!

This weekend will be a big test. Need to keep myself busy.
Self-improvement is the way.

 

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Day 4!