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Social Anxiety

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by preciousfapper, Jul 6, 2015.

  1. preciousfapper

    preciousfapper Fapstronaut

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    Any ways any of you know to overcome social anxiety...i think this can be because of too much porn? I'm just not as much confident as I was.
     
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  2. Limeaid

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    I have this book and it is really great!

    Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming your Fear
     
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  3. preciousfapper

    preciousfapper Fapstronaut

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    @Limeaid thank you I'll check it out right away!
     
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  4. Kiddy

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    I think stopping PMO, your confidence will gradually increase. I definitely don't doubt myself nearly as much as before. I used to always question myself if whether what I was doing was okay or not. Stopping PMO helped a lot with this. If you introverted by nature, it may never completely change. I accept I will always be a little shy.
     
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  5. preciousfapper

    preciousfapper Fapstronaut

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    @Kiddy I think you're right...I wasn't afraid to socialize before
     
  6. preciousfapper

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    @Break the Chain yup...porn is the parasite in my life..m thank you for the article!
     
  7. Gilbert

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    I've been to the doctors about my anxiety now and I'm starting an online CBT course thing (when I'll get time is anyone's guess) which is supposed to be quite good.
     
  8. Strugglesaurus

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    There's online CBT courses?!
     
  9. Namekian23

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    @preciousfapper Hey buddy, I know this post was way back, but I can give you some actual tips from life experiences. Sure, I've read some books on social anxiety and they have helped. But nothing is more satisfying than pure motivation and a willingness to change. When I was a kid, I was really shy and had some social anxiety. I would get nervous talking to people and I still do. Coming from experience, I had no confidence in myself whatsoever when I dropped out of high school. Not because I had social anxiety, although it may have played a part, but because I was going through a lot of crap. But now, I'm finishing up college.

    College in of itself changed my life and so has my workplace. Since I knew I had some social anxiety, I wanted to do something in my life that made me proud of myself, which was overcoming my social anxiety. So I decided to do a public speaking class. Most people would rather die, but when I completed it, I learned things about myself I never knew. Challenge yourself; if not a public speaking class, then toastmasters or something that has to do with communication. Start small; volunteer, go to a church, or whatever. If you want to overcome your social anxiety, you must face your fears, little by little. In the end, you'll so proud of yourself. I know it's not easy, but you can do it! Ask yourself: In the future, would you rather be the same or be different?

    Trust me man, I've been there, but I knew I wanted to make a change. I've accomplished a lot since my public speaking class. I even went through a discussion panel that involved talking to 100 high school students, which was one of the scariest things I had to endure. I really wanted to reach out to them and talk about the importance of college, so that's why I did it. Small steps at a time man. I'm still a shy guy, but a shy guy with more confidence. Trust me, if I can do it, so can you! Best of luck!! :D
     
  10. Red Eagle

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    My experience is that social anxiety is at least partly caused by porn use. Since giving it up my social anxiety decreased significantly. I still suffer from it slightly but it's nothing like it was a few years ago.
    I actually think that exposure therapy doesn't really work. the problem with SAD is that the person suffering has a distorted view of him/herself.
    The best tips I can give for reducing SAD are:

    Giving up porn of course.
    Getting in shape. If you're fit and feel comfortable in your own body you'll feel much more confident among other people.
    Positive Mindset. This doesn't just help with SAD, it makes you a happier person all around.
    Cold Showers. Cold showers train you to say yes to an uncomfortable action. If you can step in an ice cold shower you pretty much can do anything. You just train your brain to make the step necesarry to do something uncomfortable which can be talking to a girl or any other social situation.
    Talking with other people who suffer from SAD. I have been in a self-help group for about a year and it helped me tremendously. It's just great to feel understood and you get more comfortable talking in front of several people.
     
  11. Elduderino

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    I have suffered social anxiety for most of my life but now as I'm 79 days clean I can manage my anxieties so much better. :D
     

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