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I am dying here!

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by jferdig73, Dec 6, 2020.

  1. jferdig73

    jferdig73 Fapstronaut

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    47 twice divorced guy who has let his porn and sexual impulsivity take him farther than any of us ever would think we would go. the fruits have my choices have landed me alone and afraid all the time.
    How do I get through this, even when I try all day long and dont fap I wake up at 3 in the morning and do it without any thought.

    then I wake up failed and ashamed again. AAAAHHHHHHH
     
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  2. Forthey

    Forthey Fapstronaut

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    Hello, you still have a cloudy way of exposing your problems, however, here is our community to tell you that you can win this sexual beast. A new day is also a new opportunity to try to deform these addictions to the point of completely eliminating them, and although it is a very serious problem, it is destroying us, our families, with everything that is important to us. We are still in time to take back the reins of our lives, go ahead and try it like you have never done before! WE BELIEVE that you can and here we are, look for more testimonials, advice, advice and join us.

    Every time you feel relapse first take the measure of entering here to read at least 5 testimonials, trying to make those disgusting impulses fade.
     
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  3. Keep trying. Eventually you'll get so sick of relapsing that you'll get serious.
     
  4. I don't think people get sick of relapsing, and that's why many of us never can do it.

    For me the problem is the opposite, we never get sick of it and that's the problem
    If you been "trying" for months like me you should know it, but the thing is if I don't want to quite I will never ever do it

    So in order to quit you really need to want it, otherwise you will always fail like I've been doing.
    Be honest with yourself, you want to change? Ok let's do it.
    You want just the benefits and you're willing that this monster goes away by himself without any pain? You will NEVER accomplish it.
     
  5. PanteriMauzer

    PanteriMauzer Fapstronaut

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    We are all daying as time passes
     
  6. jferdig73

    jferdig73 Fapstronaut

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    I just keep wondering, what am I getting from all this sexual behavior I can not get anywhere else. What need is it meeting that I can not seem to understand.
     
  7. I wrote a list of things that made me relapse. https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/mistakes-that-made-me-relapse.279586/
     
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  8. Do you have any goal in life?
     
  9. jferdig73

    jferdig73 Fapstronaut

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    no not really, just not to fuck up my sons life any worse then I already have.
     
  10. blacklabel92

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    Feels like ur stuck in a bad cycle or loop.. Like ur waking up in a nightmare or something close to it.. Sorry to hear your going through that bro.. I ve been through something similar.. Waking up knowing the previous day youve failed.. Its not a good feeling.. But its not the end.. Eventually ur gonna find your way out of that negative loop.. I know this because your on this site and your seeking advice.. That tells me that you genuinely want to improve your life and be a better person.. And i believe when a person has genuine intentions eventually if they keep getting back up when knocked down they get to the pot of gold.. Hope this helped some and good luck!
     
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  11. Watanabe

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    There's many really good threads on this website, going back years, which give the methods, techniques, resources, philosophy, psychology, science etc that a particular person used to give themselves a chance of breaking free from the lifestyle you appear to be in. You have to spend some time digging it out, you'll know it yourself when you find it, just go through these forums methodically until you start to build up the knowledge and information that starts to become your dominant thought processes and way of life. Maybe like me you're trying to undo decades of programming and abusing our mind and body with over indulging so it could take a bit to get to somewhere remotely like we would like for ourselves. There's plenty of men making YouTube videos on taking control of your life in healthy, positive ways, it's about finding the ones who appeal to you. Then using it all like a map or guide to life, it takes a bit of discipline and determination to get started, when you decide that the things that have got you to where you are, are no longer acceptable. I've been doing this for a few years now, it's not easy, and progress can be difficult to measure, but I think it's really worth persevering.

    You mentioned what are you getting from the behaviour that you can't get from elsewhere.. I'm no expert, but it might be to do with brain chemicals, the reward circuit, getting a massive dopamine hit flooding your brain, which in a way you're right, it's not easy to get it anywhere else, but understanding this might be part of the puzzle.
     
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  12. Maybe porn is masking you not having any purpose
    Remember that porn "takes the pain away"
    Not saying you have to have any goal, but maybe it's the reason
     
  13. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    Have things gotten any better?
     
  14. Hey. I'm also fapping without much progress. It's been months and I'm still fapping like 1-3 times a week.

    Hopefully, we'll get over it.
     
  15. BecomeMaster

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    Nobody here can force you to stop. But what you can do on your own decision, if you want to, is to visit a hospital for souls. Both you and I are struggling immensely right now with PMO. The church (any church) is a hospital for fallen souls like us who need healing. Part of the problem is that we let our bodies operate autonomously sometimes, just like how you wake up at 3 and go through the motions mindlessly. We need to subdue the body by our spirit. I think talking to a priest will do you well, and he can give you advice. Because it is personal, private, and in person, I think it it is better than texting online.
     

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