Humiliation fetish

I have had the humiliation fetish for years. For years I've masturbated to videos of girls talking in the camera saying I am worthless or no good all the humiliating stuff. I also went through the cuck phase. The funny thing was I never actually liked watching cuck porn. Just girls talking about how they would cuck me sometimes while covered in Semen. Penises always ruined porn for me.

You asking your close people that out of a fetish is no joke. They must be really concerned with you. I believe it is really hard to leave the porn entirely on screen. A lot of rape comes from watching porn. We act out humiliation. Some guys I read do the full deal, either giving themselves as slaves to females or letting their wives cheat as they watch. You haven't gone that far (neither have I) but the more you do this the harder it becomes to resist. I know my interactions with women change after watching a lot of humiliation porn. I always end up agreeing with them more and apologizing when I'm not perfectly submissive to them. It has happened a few times with me.

My point is the only way out of it is to stop watching it. It'll take time. It'll be uncomfortable. But you can do it. I believe in you!

 

On humiliation...

What do you say about the girls that seem to actual enjoy it? ie. smiles on their faces either during or thereafter, laughter, etc

My main fetish over the years has been aggressive deep throat... (sorry if this constitutes as a trigger). That being said, only on a few occasions have I been aroused in a situation where the girl seems to not enjoy it. For the most part I've gravitated towards girls who are fully into it, for which there are plenty of examples. Does this make it any healthier? Likely not... We live in a world where people are motivated by 'pushing their limits', this translates very poorly within the context of humiliation P. I guess my issue lies in not understanding what constitutes as expressing sexual freedom vs. sexual coercion. Can someone who allows another person to disgrace them be mentally well? What say you!?

 

Some good advice here. I would also consider seeing a therapist if you can. I'm not in a position to do so at the moment but I plan to in the near future.

 

Thank you for the topic.

Humiliation is a big part of my addiction, and like the OP, I gravitated heavily towards videos of women, often clothed, talking to (me) the camera. All things SPH and POV is my DOC, though cuckold themes are very triggering as well. It's good to hear from others who struggle with this and from some who have had some success.

 

Thank you all for posting and for sharing your knowledge. I was also into humilliation, during my years of porn addiction, and during my relapses. Staying away from that stuff has improve my self esteem and my confidence. That kind of porn is very harmful for our lives.

 

I suffer from the same humiliation too bro. Its disgusting.
Nothing seems to ever work!!! I have reached new level lately where I watch the slave kissing the master feet and shoes.
I feel ashamed and terrible. I even jerked off after watching a guy leg pic on instagram.
FFemdom sucks! Porn sucks!

 

i think men who are concerned or curious about why they seem attracted to domination, cuckolding, femdom, humiliation etc need to:

1 figure out if it is mainly caused by PORN , in an anti natural way against their deep desires and who they are sexually;

2 if they discovered it through porn but actually it does not go against who they are or what they truly want, functioning in a way , as a door to something they like and which they didnt even knew they liked were it not for the porn, be it videos, comics, books , cams, etc

3: if it is not the porn , as in it is somehting that they truly seem to have independently of visual stimulii and video experiences, then they should talk to a psychiatrist or a psychologist or and a sex therapist , to find out why they have these desires or fetiches as in, childhood traumas or conditioning, social upbringing, etc and if indeed it is something that can disappear if these other psychological or identitarian issues are dealt with . Approaches and literature by Masters and Johnson and Kinsey reasearchers would be perhaps a good way to begin to search for answers on fetiches and fantasies.

 

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The question for me is why some people is "fully" into something and why not. I wonder how much people have been ie. into DT before the movie with that title. Not saying no one; but if i recall my porn history and hwo people and what they have been "fully into" changed, then i can see the uprise of anal, or that "everyone" became curious about squirting, and of course as well cuckhold? Where was all of that before porn? Sure - specially anal was surely there, but i read a lot of reports where it seems like pretty much all guys seem to "ask for it" and if i recall what was the content of so much porn of the 00`er years im not wondering (to that extent that there was porn advertising itself as "no anal included" - to stand out). My guess is: all of that was always there (cuckhold, deep throat) but only among some freaks; porn did make all of that mainstream and actually that is even "what they have to": its a market dynamic and what you can do with or to the body is quite limited right? btw, i also read that there are more and more cases or DT rape; forced gagging anyone? you guys see my point?

 

You are both right dude.
It started out as a foot fetish for me. I seem disgusted when I watched the first femdom porn and stayed away from cuckold porn cuz it seems too extreme. Now watching a cuckold porn seems very normal for me. So Does anyone think that people like us may eventually like vanilla sex?

 

My cuckold fetish started before porn.
The roots (especially shame about male sexuality) were engrained in me as a child.
I was, in several ways, cuckolded in my teens and twenties. I was looking at porn that whole time and it definitely didn't help anything but it wasn't until I was (sort of) cuckolded at age 30 that the fetish was really unleashed. Only then, did I discover cuckold porn . . . because I was searching for my new fetish. Once I discovered cuckold porn, it lit me up like nothing else. It gave me a way to get extreme sexual pleasure out of fantasising about what had happened in the past and what had happened so recently. My emotional trauma was transmuted (though unhealthily) into extreme arousal.

I do not blame porn for my cuckold fantasies. But, I'm sure that porn contributed to my relationship troubles, and without doubt that cuckold and other fetish porn just made things a lot worse. And the cuckold porn led to many other, but somewhat related fetishes.

Hopefully that helps someone as much as it helps me to write it out.
@SheldonCooper0101 Yes, I think we can enjoy vanilla sex again. I have. But the price (worth it) is to give up indulging in the fetishes.

 

Please read this post!
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...fetishes-a-complete-guide-for-freedom.283059/

 

Out of curiosity, did you willingly get cuckolded or were you cheated on? I feel like I need to ask this cause the answer completely changes the message of story you just told. Either way though I hope you get over this addiction soon and form a healthy relationship with someone. Congrats on giving up on these fetishes. Not easy