Obsessed with cunnilingus

Tbh man this doesn't really sound like a NoFap problem. Do you think porn or masturbation caused your extreme lust for cunnilingus?

This is also an act that you do with a partner, which NoFap and YBOP emphasize are necessary for healing, especially sex acts that do not include our penises.

 

Nothing wrong with it, but go eat a girl in real life rather than watching it! I offer to eat my wife whenever she wants, but she's too polite and coy to ask tbh!

 

Cunnilingus???? What is that??? Damn i read here some very weird names

 

I sincerely hope you're joking, since you're on a forum of men/women who have some serious trouble with pornographic addiction.

But... just in case you're not, cunnilingus is the act of "going down" on your partner, or whoever you're with, whether you're licking pussy or sucking dick.

In response to OP though, I dunno man, there are worse things to fantasize about, perhaps go find yourself a lady friend who'll let you go down on her, nothing degrading about it my dude, my GF can't seem to get off without it soooooo, yea XD

 

Im not joking, by being a porn recovery person doesnt mean that im an expert in all this weird names , and i have never heard of that one

Thanks, doesnt seem to be a very bad thing actually , if the woman is shaved its ok

 

Why do you think it's a bad thing? Is it just because you are obsessed with it or do you think it is inherently a bad thing to do?

 

You can make it bro. Is just obsession, we all have one. If is not hurting you is not a problem but if it is just stop doing it. Dont search it on the internet and don't do it in real life. Avoid anything that has to do with your problem at all cost.

 

I honestly don't see the issue with this tbh. Why don't you want to perform this act? Do you think it makes you 'less manly'?

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with going down on a woman. Real sex is mutual give and take. Cunnilingus is part of the give. It is a very loving act.

Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation (not through penetration) which is missed in porn. It is very manly to bring your partner to a strong orgasm by going down on her. You can then enter her during or right after her orgasm which can bring out the most intensive sex for both of you.

For someone who loves cunnilingus, lesbian porn has its pull. But it is misleading. Most women do not have sex with other women. Lesbian porn gives a BS notion that only ladies, because they have vaginas, know how to orally please a vagina. Yet the same women in porn somehow know how to orally please a penis.

In fact, most ladies do not want to be kissed after you go down on her. She would prefer that you avoid even breathing in her face and avoid touching her with your wet fingers.

If you have the tongue talent and the availability of a woman to use your talent on, your lady will appreciate you as much as you appreciate her.

Lesbian porn is still porn and just like any other type of porn. It leads to PMO and its negative consequences. Our lives would be better off without all porn.

 

Could you give me some tips please I’m pretty decent but not perfect yet?
It’s wicked making a girl orgasm.

 

I’m not sure how much weight you put onto religion but I’ve left that frame of mind behind a long time ago because I personally felt like they were an existential coping mechanism (as expressed in your post I’m addition to feeling some existential dread as well mostly). I also feel like sexuality is highly misunderstood on both sides of the fence: where religion seeks repression and the secular mainstream view is that any and all sex is good and that you can never have too much.

Furthermore, I think we don't question WHY we’re doing this enough and whether or not it’s to follow some status quo (self improvement = diet, exercise, nofap, ect) or an actual tangible reason (wasting money on edibles just to waste more time gooning and edging = nofap as one possible avenue but I’ll also look into other possible solutions as well). I know my last point isn’t popular on here but then again I didn’t quit smoking by using a mainstream or “approved” method.

So definitely don’t be too hard on yourself when you don’t have to. Ask yourself: is it more important to work on sounding technical and use jargon in an interview or work on delivery and the way you communicate while remaining calm? Both are important but I’d argue that the soft skills are much more elusive than the hard skills because they require some introspection rather than merely having knowledge of.

 

Isn't PIV just another form of clitoral stimulation ? Because I've seen many females climax from it in P sites. There are signs you can't bring yourself to miss; flushing of the torso, increasing of lubrication...etc. I'm a female too, and can tell which are authentic and which are fake displays.

 

I'd say 99.9% of "orgasms" on porn videos are fake and done for the camera. Some are real, sure, but yeah, it's hours of filming so the idea that they climax at the perfect time with the camera in the perfect place, etc, yeah... hard to believe.

 

I think it applies to male performers too. I have a hard time believing they can climax all the time. Sometimes , they use tricks to give false impressions. Even a man will have trouble finishing if he isn't in the right state of mind.

 

We do love zero effort stuff. Every thing does.
It's like a current in a circuit tends to go to the shorter way rather than the resistor path, a short circuit, all the power will waste though.

I propose to replace this habit with another tasty habit, an amalgam of licking and joyous.
Maybe ice cream will solve the problem.

 

Personally, I'd say this falls in line with just about every other area of this addiction, and that is that you need to get as much accountability as you possibly can. Join an SA group (find one here) get a sponsor from that meeting, and as many people on here as you can to hold you accountable for fighting this thing!

Best of luck, my friend!

 

Why don't you get married then? Is there a special woman in your life?