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Who you really are

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Dec 16, 2020.

  1. This will be a long read but its a good chance to train your short attention span, these are my thoughts and research, do with it what you want, also i wrote this while listening to lofi so i suggest you do the same haha. I have been reading a lot on addiction from a christian perspective and it seems that the addiction itself is just a symptom of something much more dire going on under the surface. What i discovered is that many people struggle with an identity issue, their own beliefs and image of themselves do not match who they truly are. Just as a christian must accept their identity in Christ and realize they are a child of God seated right now with him in the heavenlies, so must a porn addict accept who they truly are. So, the question then becomes who truly are you?, you were not born an addict, everything in your life has been learned, from your behaviors to your way of thinking, but the question still remains, who are you?. Obviously i cannot answer that for you but i can give you my insight on how to discover your true self, i myself also will be taking this journey. The first step is realizing you are not a porn addict, you are not a loser, you have every right to exist and be happy just like anyone else, deep down beneath the surface we are all scared of life and have our issues, once you cast away that false idea of who you thought you were, we can move on. I believe a powerful tool to self discovery is unplugging from the world for a short period of time, go to the quiet park or a spot in the woods, a place where you can can be left perfectly alone with your thoughts, i personally dont believe in simply letting thoughts flow and not judging them, the bible teaches taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, but that is up to you. What you must do is come to an acceptance of your life, the things you can and cannot control, deciding for yourself to no longer be controlled by negative thoughts that are demonic in nature, deciding that you are going to strive to become better each day, i do not want you to seek perfection, its not possible and for my fellow christians you must rely heavily on God for everything. This does not mean do nothing on your end, but i do not believe the saying God helps those who help themselves, to me that teaches self reliance and not on God, there is a fine balance to achieve. Honestly guys i dont have a wordly answer to our problems, what i have discovered is that only through leading a Christ filled life will we ever find lasting peace and true freedom from addiction, we are dead to sin and was buried and raised with Christ, we are new creations and not of the world, we have the choice now to not sin and be free. Hope this helped someone out, i know for many this wont be the answer you seek but i truly in my heart believe this is the true and right path, thanks for reading. Also i would like to give some great references for you guys to check out, my favorite pastor Dr Neil Anderson of Freedom in Christ Ministries, he has a great youtube channel and recommend his book the bondage breaker. Also another good pastor is Joe Schimmel of Blessed Hope Chapel, he also has a youtube page.
     
  2. vercent99

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    First time I watched porn was when a friend showed me when I was below 12 years old, I was intruiged but never searched it after that

    The issue became when I broke up with my ex. Before i broke up, I never went out with any other girls, never messaged them, never flirted with other girls, never had any interest in them, not interested in porn girls, my girl was enough but she is not mine anymore, I broke up after a long story.

    At first I still MO'd to pictures of her but it felt weird way of grief and I believed it was best to completely erase anything related to her from my phone, even deleted my whole social media later on (and never created again). So this is where the issues began

    Since then (more than 5 years ago) i still haven"t found another girl that I fell in love with yet, so I am filling my lonelyness with porn. Thats who i am. A person who started watching porn after a heart break and got addicted and now can't stop, when I stop its only temporary and then im back to my issues
     
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  3. Things such as that do not define who you are, maybe you need a new outlook on life, or maybe you need to really self reflect, either way i can tell you that you can change.
     

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