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Becoming a girl to have roleplays

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by fuvan.ishmish, Dec 10, 2020.

  1. fuvan.ishmish

    fuvan.ishmish Fapstronaut

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    Dear all

    I have this very bad habit which i developed some 15-16 years ago when i was in teenage, I didnt have any girlfriend ( till now ) and instead of finding one , i saw that i could easily make a fake account in girl's name & that will drew lots of attention of males & then i can have sexual roleplays acting as a girl. This habit has grown very strongly & i am not able to give it up

    I am not a gay & i always desire to marry & have a nice family life. Can someone suggest how to stop this habit
     
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  2. Hello and welcome!

    I used to have the same issue a few years ago, as a coping mechanism to flee from then recent traumas I used to use lightly dressed pictures of my own girlfriend on a specific website where you could create a profile and chat, as i for some reason got a rush of happiness and attraction from hearing strangers saying how hot she is and stuff.

    it was a weird behavior, and it made me feel so bad, so I decided to tell her and be honest.
    She turned out to be very supportive and understanding even though I used photos and creepshots of her back then, I was like 22-23 so I wasn’t really mature either.
    Although I was smart enough to never have her face in a body pic and vice versa, wich makes it safe from her point of view, as I assured that no one could prove that the body belongs to her.


    Now years later we are happily engaged and I wouldn’t do it again obviously o_O


    I found out that these behaviors are more common that you might think, there are huge websites where often young men show creepshots of their girlfriends and it makes me sad to think about how they probably won’t ever let their girls know.


    The role playing part is similar, it’s a way for people to act their fantasies and kinks in a way they couldn’t do IRL, you know, the saying “most girls online are men” is pretty accurate I suppose. It’s very common but nonetheless just as addicting!

    The only way for me to quit, was to tell her about it and grow up.
     
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  3. Dizzy Lotus

    Dizzy Lotus Fapstronaut

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    Wow! Congrats. [​IMG] And I hope you get fully free from addiction soon! [​IMG]
    Do you mean that you keep creating new accounts, or that you can't get yourself to remove the contacts you have already? [​IMG]
     
  4. fuvan.ishmish

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    Its not about the contacts as i can find lots of new contacts online , i often delete the account but few days later when urges get strong i create an account & then i repeat the behaviour
     
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  5. fuvan.ishmish

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    Its good to hear that you were able to give up the behaviour & you have a nice understanding girlfriend who helped you. I dont have a girlfriend & its getting very hard to give up this behaviour. The sexual fantasies get satisfied , but this is a very bad way to do it & worst of all its so addictive :(
     
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  6. Rustcan45

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    Cut that shit out bro. If you think you're a man then start acting like one.
     
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  7. fuvan.ishmish

    fuvan.ishmish Fapstronaut

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    Saying is easier than done . 4 days of abstinence & the urges were so strong , i started to repeat the habit & then stopped as i was getting late for work. When i came back , i had didnt repeat the behavior but i had to PMO to cool my urges.
     
  8. phwrancesco

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    You should quit it cold turkey. It's the only way to really quit a destructive habit like that. I you don't you'll probably become the "i like girls but i like giving blow jobs" guy soon.
     
  9. disallowedname

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    The voice of reason: no compromisse, just stop. NOW.

    And i love the "most girls are guys" (in the online world) line. Its just crazy how much guys still dont get that.
     
  10. fuvan.ishmish

    fuvan.ishmish Fapstronaut

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    I am trying to , but this habit is cultured deep inside my brain and after few days i keep reverting
     
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  11. fuvan.ishmish

    fuvan.ishmish Fapstronaut

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    Can you elaborate how to quit cold turkey?
     
  12. phwrancesco

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    Of course. You quit today and you never do it again. Simple as that, you don't need no more to do that.
     
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  13. disallowedname

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    If you have the possibility stay away from the internet fully. If not: delete all social networks and such and block them preventive. Do meditation and sports. of course it is deep inside your brain - but by time you can kick that shit out of your mind. Its a cold turkey thing: i was very active on some social networks too; have had crazy experiences, really! I did delete em all. All. The people you interact are crazy - tell you this. Because a sane person doesnt do sexual chats with unknown people. Im not saying they are fake. I say: ALL you will encounter are toxic. I did it years long and i never meet anyone who wasnt creepy - what doesnt mean some have been super attractive girls for real; but with completly messed up personalities. If you want to install in your mind a warning voice, then remind you constantly: you`ll cross only the way of freaks. And freaks do harm. sooner or later.
     
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  14. Dizzy Lotus

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    You may like it, but I think it is rather improbable that it is anywhere close to true. [​IMG] Unless you are talking about transgenders, in which case in some communities it does seem to be true... [​IMG]
     
  15. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    Some people give advice like this and don't seem to remember that this is an addiction, not simply a bad habit. If it was that easy to stop all of this, then no one would be on this site, Patrick Carnes wouldn't be in the business of being a CSAT, SA.org wouldn't exist, and SA accountability partners wouldn't be a thing.

    My advice is to get as much accountability as you can. Get accountability partners on here, or from an SA group. (Find one here.) Also, if you go to a group, be sure to get a sponsor as well! These obviously are recommendations, but I'm telling you, the more accountability you have, the greater your chances will be of beating this thing!

    Best of luck, my friend!
     
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  16. I used to do that......... I was fapping and edging for 10 hours a day on Omegle............ Defiling yourself for 10 seconds of pleasure with really toxic strangers............ not worth it. One stranger made me do something really humiliating........ I still have a trauma from what happened..........
     
  17. fuvan.ishmish

    fuvan.ishmish Fapstronaut

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    Yes you are correct , and by indulging in such a behaviour, i am myself becoming a creep
     
  18. fuvan.ishmish

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    Thanks i will check that link
     
  19. fuvan.ishmish

    fuvan.ishmish Fapstronaut

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    Okay , so recently i am doing my best to quit this habit & what i am noticing is that i am not that hard wired to porn rather i am very hard wired to my fantasies which i was fulfilling my this creepy behaviour. I am so hard wired that i have to masturbate 2-3 times a day thinking about the fantasy.

    Those fantasies are like girl having sex with neighbour, stranger etc etc. :( How do i reset my mind to let go of these unhealthy fantasies rotted in my brain ?
     
  20. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I keep seeing forums like this from time to time. It must be more common then I realized. From what I get from it, nobody wins. You don't like it and you waste the times of other dudes. But I wouldn't call it gay if that is what you were afraid of. It is more like trolling from what it sounds like. Just find a nice girl. You should be fine.
     

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