How to approach a girl who is a stranger in public.

I dont think is a good idea to randomly approach unknown women in the streets. It dont have any sense and is not good for you or them.

With that said, if you have severe social anxiety then I would recommend to you: Do the NoPMO start recovering, that is going to make you feel better with yourself in the first place. Then start random conversations with strangers in the streets. Not only women, everybody. And dont approach them, just talk to them when somebody is phisically close to you.

If somebody walk up to you, or look you in the eyes, say "Hi".
If somebody is close to you like in the bus station or whatever, make a random comment to them, say "oh! is freezing in here!" or "the bus is taking too long!" whatever it comes to mind. Think out loud. And go from there, without pushing things. You are just expressing yourself

If you can do this naturally, without pressure, without being anxious then thats it. If saying "hello" to a stranger in public just become who you are, then you can do it with a girl

 

I recommend you to take it slow, step by step. That will be, don't make things that require a very big effort for you, or that are very risky, or that the risk of rejection is high. Begin with what is easy, that is, approach little kids, old people, then you can start talking to people of your age (including women). You can talk of whatever, if the other person wants to talk with you, you'll notice it immeditely. It is nice to talk with random people, you might get new friends. Some may reject you, but do that because you want it, not depending on the other people's reaction, do that because you're beeing nice to them.

Life is of taking risks, life is of discovering.

 

Dont listen to that guy over there , there is nothing wrong with aprroaching random women you like .
Bottom line is , if you dont approach you wont be getting any numbers , no numbers means no dates and no dates means no gf or experience , so when you meet a woman that you like as much as she likes you , you will blow a great oppurtunity because you dont know what to do .
Here is how to approach it is very simple i started doing it recently :
First look for a girl you like , go up to her and say something like , hi , i know this is strange but you just passed by and i though you looked amazing , just say what ever is on your mind and what you like about her , and try to banter and have a good time , after 10 or 15 minutes just say you have to run , and ask for her number .
I could go in detail but the reply would be too long , if you would like a legitimate source on this matter i can give you the answers you seek and for free , wisdome that will save you from heart breaks if you are willing to take a hand , let me know .
And good luck .

 

Try to "banter and have a good time", TRY. So, you are not having a real good time: "fake it till you make it"...
After 10 15 minutes "say you have to run", even tho you have NOTHING BETTER TO DO, so: "fake it till you make it".

Your advice is to FAKE.
Keep doing that until you believe it.
So you eat your own bullsh*t, then you become a FAKE.

Buddy, just shut up

 

Nothing fake about it , just be honest about what you like about the girl and get her number no need to talk for hours .

 

You can watch Steven Shapiro on youtube, an amazing man doing videos of approaching random stranger girls pretending to be nervous and awkward, and he still gets their numbers. learn from his self confidence. It is all about trusting in yourself.

 

It is not good advice.
You are not a sellsman to women. You lose value. Do that, and your self esteem is going to drop down low. Any man doing that, is a lesser and needy man.
Needy is not attractive.

Approaching random girls on the streets is going to harm your personal value at a subconcious level.

Read above, i already give my advice.

Oh, and I meet a girl on the street last night, we get back toghether on a cab. I am talking with her on the phone right now.
I know exactly what Iam talking about here

 

There is no fool here but you... The man you are arguing with has a convincing advice but your brain cannot accept it ...Please stop calling people here dumbs or fools.. Be respectful or leave

 

Well, thank you for this. Seems like you actually can interpret what is actually being written. This other guy is clueless, some people need to learn by their own mistake.

But, for the people that can land and apreciate experience, here is the thing:
This point you are making here on the quote, is the main thing.
Based on effort, there is no difference between start a conversation with someone and approach a girl. Given, that if you have social anxiety you will struggle with both. So from that perspective, there is no difference between my advice and the other.

But

When you aply that effort in just being open and comfortable with anybody, you will, in the future become that: just open and direct and extrovert with anyone as you should. There is no "agenda". Get it?

On the other hand, if you force yourself to do it with girls and only with girls, you are trying to develop a psychological device to GET GIRLS. Thats it. You force yourself to approach girls because you are SEX FOCUSED, and need to get GIRLS. You have an agenda. You are needy, you need the outcome.

Dont give me the BS, I know, you know, the girl knows, everybody knows that you just whant to GET HER. Is like the difference between somebody talking to you just because, and somebody talking to you to sell you some sh*tty phone or some other crap. You can tell the difference, is pretty obvious. And is so cringe

YOU FEEL ASHAMED WHEN YOU APPROACH, BECAUSE YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED. YOU ARE MAKING A FOOL OF YOURSELF.
Your "advice" is only to numb yourself off that feeling. But instead you should listen to that feeling.

Dont get your ass in a cringey situation. Dont be a fool.
Respect yourself
Become a valuable man, not a creep.

 

I can smoke all of you.
I literally developed a sex addiction over the years. I am literally retaining because I am tired of f*ck random chicks, this is no joke

And dont give me the YT as a proof of anything about girls. Just proof how clueless you are

This is the real world

 

I don’t have much to say or add to the conversation, but just want to comment on this. I have seen this played out in real life. Poor guy, tried on many girls and in many different days. It was really cringey to watch. I kind of felt sorry for the guy... my guess is that he followed some YT video. I doubt that he was aware of others noticing that he’s trying the pickup/approach game. He was lost in his world.

 

You guys are really making this more complicated tha it needs to be , in fact so much so that i suggest to the original OP to look for advice else where because this is really not it .

 

the way I see it is that No9 gives a wholesome approach, ones that should be practiced on both genders. No girl on the street? No problem, approach guys... or the man waiting in line behind you. If you’re able to just approach people randomly then it shouldn’t be a problem approaching girls (in theory).

On the other hand, people are saying that it’s different with approaching girls because of beauty/attraction that is involved and that it can be much more difficult etc... so to get good and proficient at it you must practice approaching them.