Trauma due to PIED

The only way to deal with it is no porn and no masturbation. A reboot will heal you. Time heals all wounds, physical and emotional. Nobody can say how long a reboot will last. Everyone's journey is different. Learn from others here, read, and ask questions. Best of luck to you.

 

If you have PIED don't worry too much. That will disappear once you continue with NoFap. How long have you been using porn?

 

Okay, it will be really important for you to stick to NoFap moving forward. Stopping with all PMO is essential to your recovery. Your body and mind needs time to recover. It is most likely best you stay away from relationships for a little, these could depress you as you are not ready for sex.

Most persons say it takes three months to reboot, but it can take longer. I would say start with the three months and see how you feel after. During this three months you should not watch porn, you should not masturbate, you should not bring yourself to orgasm. i.e. no PMO

You may need to stay away from social media, you can often find lots of sexy photos on Instagram and many people use these as substitutes for porn. Ultimately you are trying to stop all sexual gratification you get from media sources. Porn sites, social media, youtube etc. Right now you may be using these media sources as a replacement for an actual human being. The point of nofap is to revert you to what was intended i.e. you and a real girl being together.

Have a look at the below video from Noah Church, It will help you to understand your current situation :



Youtube is filled with good content on the effects of porn and strategies for recovery.

Do you have anyone you can talk to about your porn use? This can help, we are ashamed of our habit but having someone you can trust and speak to really helps. If you have a good relationship with you Dad, it may be good if you watch the above video together.

 

Wow talking to your parents about your addiction is very brave of you

 

It is awesome you were able to talk with your parents and a friend about your addiction. And while it is up to the addict to stop, having persons to whom you are accountable and who can help with the recovery process is a significant advantage in your favor. I would not downplay this.

How computer savvy are your parents and the friend you confided in? There are software and IT tools available that can assist you, and you can use your parents and friend if needed as accountability partners for these tools.

How do you consume your porn normally? On your home PC, Tablet, Cell Phone. Do you consume porn away from home?

 

Get your parents and friend involved, you can install filter software on all your devices and have them manage. That way porn is not just a few clicks away. If you want to change, then you have to take action. Having a cell phone or pc with no protection against porn is like an alcoholic living with alcohol in their house, it is just too accessible and easy to obtain. Restricting access really helps.

 

Nice! Have you done this with other devices also? Like your home PC, Tablet etc.? Trust me, when the urges hit you will attempt to access porn on any device you can get your hands on. Any device in the household to which you have access, you should use the same approach. Have your dad use the web-filter and set up the password. I can not stress this enough, not having access really helps.

 

Hi, glad to hear you have protected your devices! I do realize you reset your daily counter, how were you able to obtain access to porn if all available devices are secured? Or did you MO without porn? Did you access away from home?

Not trying to beat you down, I have fallen off the wagon plenty times. Just trying to understand what occurred. One of the keys to recovery is knowing when you are vulnerable to relapse and avoiding those situations. I know this can feel overwhelming but getting free of porn really helps.

 

Hey, do not underestimate this. In my experience this is just as bad as porn. I have used Instagram and other social media platforms as porn substitutes in the past. This can be just as problematic as using porn. Putting porn aside, ultimately what you are trying to do is remove the use of digital media be it porn, models on IG etc. as a source of sexual stimulation which you use to arouse yourself and masturbate. The objective is really to remove these things from your life so you revert to the norm i.e. A desire for real relationships and interactions with the opposite sex.

A big part of your recovery also is avoiding not just porn but any form of content that you can use like porn. While I can imagine sacrificing social media could be a big ask at your age you may need stop using it for a while or at least move away from the ones like Instagram where you can find plenty of seductive photos. Trust me, these are just as harmful as porn and they also strengthen your desire to watch porn because you will want more stimulating media as you grow accustomed to the photos.

They are programs and other solutions which also prevent access to social media. You should investigate if the program you use can do the same.

 

I didn't have sex until much later in my life (mid 20s) due to a very religious upbringing. I do remember being 17 though, I was very goofy and nervous, and i'm pretty sure if I had sex back then it would 100% be a disaster LOL.

I wouldn't beat yourself over it too much. Sexual confidence comes with age and experience. If you were 30 or 40 i'd have completely different advice for you, but I think it's completely normal to have awkward sexual experiences at your age.