I can't even stay hard while watching porn

This is one of the saddest stories I've read on this forum. You could be the Poster Child for internet porn addiction. What a scourge internet porn is on society...

I have two questions on your situation:

i) You say your erection is near perpendicular to your body. Has it always been this way - even when everything worked just fine?

ii) What first got you into doing enlargement exercises and what were these exercise? You say your penis is quite large, and I would suspect that it is that way due to nature rather than these exercises.

 

Just looked them all up. And there was I thinking I'd seen just about everything...

My advice to you is quite simple:

i) Leave your penis the hell alone. Give the poor fellow a break. God knows he deserves it, and he'll be fine
ii) Who you are and what you do in life are far more important than your penis. Focus on action and doing and becoming. Be active - learning, moving, lifting, running, meeting, talking etc - and you'll forget your problems because you'll be too busy growing
iii) Once you have a girlfriend (and don't rush - it's not a race!) you can revisit your penis. Only then...

Good luck! Now go and do something that has absolutely nothing to do with your penis (or porn). Even if it's just a walk around a nearby park. And then keep on doing... eat, do stuff, sleep. Repeat. No penis. Got it!?!

 

Tough, man. When you're young and PMO gets you...the recovery process is excruciatingly difficult. I'm going through it and sometimes I don't even know if I can pull through.

Seeing how it has affected your body and behavior...I'm sorry. I can relate to some extent. It isn't easy and I don't envy your position. But you're on here for a reason and I believe you can keep extending that streak of sobriety because you DO HAVE the necessary willpower inside you.

You got this. Stay strong.

 

pacopico-

TLDR; there is nothing wrong with your penis.

One of the ways that our addictions try to trick us into watching more porn is by telling us that we have a serious problem and the only way to cure it is to masturbate.

ED is when you cannot get an erection, at all. Porn induced ED is when you can't get an erection from touching yourself or having a partner touch you without watching porn.

If you need to touch yourself to get an erection while watching porn. That is normal. It just means porn is losing its grip over you. Good. This is no reason to believe you would have problems getting it up for a wife or long-term girlfriend. Especially because a wife or long term girlfriend WILL in fact, touch you. You don't have to rely on visual.

As far as penis enlargement goes: I've been jelqing since before you were born. I have an enlarged vein on the top of my penis from PE, probably similar to your varicocele. Unless it hurts, this is cosmetic. Sex with my wife is still great and not a problem.

Most PE-related injuries go away with time (and hot wraps using either a warm towel or rice sock heated in a microwave- be careful not to OVERHEAT the wrap or sock) if you take a break from the exercise. That's not to say that it is impossible to get serious injuries from PE- that is a risk- but if you aren't doing it anymore and your doctor has already examined you, I wouldn't worry that you have some secret injury (unless there is pain you haven't mentioned).

Of the exercises you mentioned, I would look at clamping as the most dangerous and likely to create injury. Although the injury would be bruising at the point the clamp is applied or strained or torn ligaments. Stretching can
also lead to strained or in extreme cases torn ligaments if you overdo it. Jelqing can lead to varicocele or red spots, which are mostly cosmetic, although I suppose more serious injuries are possible.

The biggest jelqing danger for fapstronauts is that it basically is masturbation. I have accidentally cum while jelqing, and it can definitely be a trigger for a PMO session.

Kegels are actually exercising a muscle, so you can strain or pull them just like any other muscle, but the risk of more long term injury is low. And of the four exercises, kegels are the only ones I have actually heard doctors recommend. This was for my wife when she was pregnant as part of the preparation class, but the doctors mentioned they are beneficial for men as well. If anything, I would think kegels alone should help with ED (I am not a doctor).

The other thing I would mention about kegels is that they aren't masturbatory at all. In fact, kegeling is an effective method to prevent ejaculation or to drain an unwanted erection.

With any sort of penis enlargement exercise, we need to acknowledge the mere fact that we want to do it in the first place indicates we have some degree of penis body dysmorphia. I *blame* porn for that. PE is just a symptom. My theory is that it is best to lean in to the symptom, learning to PE safely and in a non-masturbatory way, while running from the disease. But I could be wrong.

 

I am not a doctor (well, not a medical one). I am nervous about this too. Definitely do a no-PMO reboot, as others suggest, possibly quite a long one, say 180 days. But I would also push harder on your doctor. Can you insist that he or she runs the tests to prove that there is nothing physical behind your erectile dysfunction?

 

I'm sorry to repeat myself here, but I think it is worth repeating; if you CAN get an erection (and it is clear from the OP that you can), then you do not have ED. It is easy to fall into the trap of masturbating just to prove to yourself you still can.

I think part of the problem may be that you are a virgin who is getting his information about what sex looks like from porn, and how your penis worked at the height of puberty when you were flush with hormones.

Just like porn presents an unrealistic image of the *size* of members, it also presents an unrealistic view of how erections occur and what sex looks like. Porn stars take ED drugs and film multiple takes, so it appears that the actors go from corny dialogue to full erection as soon as they decide to take their pants off. You never see the actors working up an erection or losing their erections, even for a second, because that is edited out. And you *see* erections much more often in porn then you will *see* your penis during real sex. Real sex does not usually involve waving your penis around, especially after sex has begun. That is for the cameras.

In real life, when you find an actual living, breathing person that you want to have sex with, she (or he) will probably not expect or even want that. It's okay if your penis isn't hard until after you have kissed for a while, for example. And you don't need to worry about maintaining your erection when you are not physically touching yourself, because it is literally impossible to have real sex without your partner physically touching you the entire time.

I hope that helps.

 

Nofap - changed my life. I often feared sex because I knew I would not get an erection. Also, I started my course of V**gra whilst not fapping.
Had rock erections that lasted. Does exactly what it says, however one misconception is that you take a v** pill and you go rock hard straight away, no. Takes about 30-40 mins till you can have sex, you then have to get aroused and then you erection will stay.

 

Body is an amazing phenomenon and can almost heal any disease. You are eating healthy and you are working out but what are you doing for your mental health? Stress and worrying too much can really affect your situation. I think daily meditation and writing journals can really help in your case.
Trust your body and just stick to your abstinence... Signs of healing will emerge slowly but surly.
Good luck mate. Hope this helps.

 

Hello bro did you already cure your Ed?

 

I didn't have ED.

 

So I found this forum and hope I can get some feedback. I am 30 years old, single, and I realized about a month ago something wasn’t right down there. I too have been jerking off excessively to porn for a while and then one week noticed that my erections got weaker and I could barely get and stay hard. I lost my morning wood too and didn’t get one for like a week and a half straight! Normally I’d get erections instantly from watching porn or seeing someone attractive or thinking about someone attractive. I also use to get a lot of random erections while at work but that also changed. I was also very very worried because of the ED that I have been experiencing.

I was also very stressed and depressed for a couple weeks and getting little to no sleep. I stay active by lifting weights in the gym and also cardio and I try to eat healthy as best I can. I went to my doctor for this and he did a bunch of blood tests on me that tested my testosterone, kidney function, blood count levels etc; all came back normal and he said I shouldn’t worry about it. He also told me to get more sleep.

fast forward to today. I decided a month ago to try NoFap. Since I have been doing this and getting more adequate sleep I have gotten my morning wood back a little. It has happened a few times since then which is great. Sometimes not as strong as before and sometimes as strong as it was before this ED. I have also gotten wet dreams three times since last week. And twice before that. Last week it was A LOT and thick. Last two times not as much came out but still a little thick. I have also experienced getting erections without touching myself at work and at home but not as often as before.

As I’m only on month 1 with NoFap i hope I continue to see more and more improvements though. If I happen to be on twitter and see a naked pic or a random porn video by accident normally, I’d get aroused instantly and also get an erection in that instant. But now when I see those things I get aroused still but no erection, which is sad. I’m trying not to get depressed and so far so good. Any feedback welcomed.

 

Many guys here have managed to cure their PIED by abstaining from PMO. The truth is full recovery might take up to 6 months or in some cases a year. However, full recovery IS possible. I believe you can do it! There will be some setbacks but you will get there eventually if you actually commit to your recovery. Speaking of commitment, I have been trying to leave this addiction for 3 years to no avail. I tried everything and nothing seemed to work. A member of this community introduced me to SPAA. It's a twelve-step program for sex and porn addicts. I know you might think that it's not for you! So did I and I was really skeptical at first. But after the first meeting, everything changed for me. I've been fighting this addiction tooth and nail and hadn't gone beyond 20 days of sobriety in a long time. However, this time with the help of other fellows of the group and the program I am getting really close to 90 days...The truth is that we can't do it alone. I know you know that cause you're already here, seeking help. This website can help but there's a limit to that. We need a genuine connection to beat this addiction. You know what they say "the opposite of addiction is connection". If you want to attend one of our meetings, which are held online and you can join us regardless of what part of the world you live in, shoot me a direct message. I'll be more than happy to discuss the details with you. Peace brother. I hope you have a successful rebooting.

 

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Not worried relapsing honestly because as I said, I’ve been getting wet dreams. I think whenever I build up too much my body will just release it. And I am dreaming about sex when it happens so it’s like I get a nocturnal release.

just gotta wait it out I guess. I still get random erections here n there and you to this morning got a lil morning wood. My rando erections are as a result of my mind wandering though and not from seeing porn or porn pictures. I kinda miss having erections just from seeing something or someone arousing tho.

 

Try to refrain from masturbation for a while and also find porn from which you will be excited. Maybe you just need a real girl already, that's all. I understand that watching porn is very convenient and you do not need to worry that a girl can get pregnant even if you use contraceptives. But real sex is much more pleasant and gives more pleasure. I used to watch a lot of porn and masturbate a lot, but I realized that masturbation is monotonous and boring, so I decided to do my appearance and find a good girl with whom I will be good.

 

I'm not understanding. Are you encouraging him to watch porn?

 

Yeah I was wondering lol. But I think he meant refrain from masturbation and also refrain from Porn that normally gets me excited. And I have no urge to masturbate at all. The thing is, for quite some time I mentally acknowledged that I was addicted to masturbating and wanted to stop but couldn’t voluntarily do so. So when my flatline happened and I started NoFap I just don’t find the urge to masturbate anymore. I don’t get hard from porn anymore, even if I see it. But I am still getting morning wood, two days ago I got really hard like normal without touching myself at all because I was horny. It didn’t stay up though but yeah, I think I’m done with jerking off for good this time.

 

I was confused because he said, "find porn from which you will be excited". I didn't get from that, that he wanted you to refrain from this porn. I will give him the benefit of a doubt. Glad you translated. Yeah, I've been doing nofap for over 70 days and I no longer have any urge to masturbate. That could be from my age (I'm 59) or something leftover from prostate cancer surgery. I'm not sure but the longer I'm away from porn the more the urges lessen. I woke up this morning with morning wood, something I haven't had for almost a decade. I was a bit shocked. I left it alone and it went down eventually. Maybe I have had PIED. Maybe I'm not impotent from the surgery. We'll see.