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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Philip1990, Jul 13, 2015.

  1. Philip1990

    Philip1990 Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone!

    For women :

    I have created a self-help group on skype. We are working with a guide and a little programm from successfull quitters.
    I am holding this group together.I am 100% certain that NoFap Community and Internet Information is not enough to finally quit this addiction.
    You need talking , dedication , information and people who help you when you try to quit.

    We are searching 2 woman to get more information
    from the other gender
    . If you have problems with listening
    to males talking about porn addiction while seeing us on camera
    this is not for you. Also make sure you got a webcam as this adds a
    personal note and makes sure for us that you dont start masturbating.
    If you are shy at first that is really no problem you dont need to say everything.
    You can warm up and then open up as fast as you want. We already had very
    successfull sessions. We are not objectifying you that means you dont need to
    wear make up or something. We need you to help us understand the female aspect
    more and for example how it ruined relationships. Taking part in this group is
    exclusive because i want a max of 5 people in it as it is to hard to organize otherwise
    and i am sorry for that! If we find more people who can lead such a group we will create more!

    Here is the requirements to join : Webcam , u are from europe
    (Time difference , easier to organize) , 100% commitment , you
    join the sessions regularly (almost every day) and you speak english
    that we can understand you.


    Things to consider : Please no cleavage while we see you!


    For men : Same applies for men.;)



    What we talk about :

    1. Ice Breaker
    2. Introduction
    3. Benefits , Spreadsheet , Guide , List of Pros & Cons
    4. Check and Discuss guide together
    5. List of triggers and how to avoid them
    6. What did you do today? What can we improve or help you with?
    7. What damage did PMO to your life?
    8. Guitar playing / Facing Fears
    9. A Womans perspective
    10.Book recommendations
    11. Homework
    12. Personal Problems -> Helping each other
    13. Free Talk


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    What dedicated Fapstronauts say
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    @ProphetOfDoom
    Yeah, basically I participated in the first meeting. @Philip1990 is a really down to earth person and a cool guy! Why are you people so hesitant, skeptic and distrustful? We don't need to involve prejudice in this wonderful community.So, after our first conversation I feel much more responsible and dedicated. After belonging to a certain group/club, you're devoted to your own cause to a higher standard.I invite everyone to try this for a day or two! The group should be getting bigger!

    @wildwood (Woman)
    Hi there everyone, I have just (about an hour ago) had just had a chance to sit in on a great Skype AP group that is currently looking for two women so allow female perspective on nofap. It was a great opportunity to be able to personally chat with @Philip1990 and his other AP members. I felt very comfortable with speaking about all our personal struggles without feeling as if I didn't belong, he was always sure to include me in the problems of PMO as a woman. He also also struggled with addiction in a relationship which was very insightful and would be helpful to others that are interested in a Skype group which deals with not only overcoming PMO addiction but a lifestyle change as well. There are certain qualifications needed to join his group which you can message @Philip1990 for any questions on the group Thank you so much for reading and stay happy, healthy and strong!

    @Mr_Annon
    The meeting was great thanks for the meeting, others should join and add him :)

    @Chris123
    Today's session was pretty nice and chill. I liked it. See you tomorrow.


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    New Meeting Today (24.07) at 19:00 CET

    Contact Skype : Phillard1990


    We hope to see you! :)
     
    Last edited: Jul 24, 2015
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  2. ClydeStride

    ClydeStride New Fapstronaut

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    Hey Man,
    I am interested. I want desperately to quit. Having a hell of a time.
     
  3. N738BE

    N738BE Fapstronaut

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    First rule of fight club
     
  4. Jamescrow

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    I deleted all my skype contacts "triggers". I'll add ya tho
     
  5. JethroTull

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    Hey man, it's great to see how passionate and enthusiastic you are about beating porn addiction!!

    It sounds like you have a great plan and it'd be fantastic if we could hear some of your quitting tips!

    Let's just be aware that everyone is on a journey to discover what works for them, so it's not our place to criticise.

    All the best with getting a Skype group going! I've heard of those things being super effective.

    Cheers
    JT
     
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  6. ProphetOfDoom

    ProphetOfDoom Fapstronaut

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    I added you. Great idea for helping each other by Skype communication. See you all there! :)
     
  7. Neckbeard

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    I'm always interested in helping others. I'm on day 50ish right now and for once I feel totally 100% free from it. I know in my heart that there is no going back to that crap life. Temptation continues to diminish with each passing day. I have officially won. ;p

    And I was a hardcore porn addict of 17 years. Every chain broken.

    My skype is treblecyde. God bless
     
  8. crushurcravings

    crushurcravings Fapstronaut

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    Or perhaps we don't need your "guidance" to overcome our problems. I really think your tone is very uncalled for. We all have different struggles and different ways to deal with those struggles. I think it is time you start to respect that.
     
  9. 21decisionforlife

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    I agree agresiveness doesnt help to improve the attitude. I watched this threat and nevertheless i wont consider taking part in your group and there will be others alike. There are many ppl here that have achieved far more than you can imagine with your recent start on PMO. I dont want to be disrespectful but be clean for example 75 days (that is how far i made it so far) and you can talk differently.
     
  10. A reboot starts with you, and ends with you. You're the one who needs to abstain, you're the one who has to fight triggers, you're the one who has to sometimes scratch and claw yourself to the end of the day. What if no one ever wants to help you? Then you never quit? Are you fine with that?
     
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  11. Philip1990

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    to make something clear i use a step by step ebook that i dont create and some rules like writing 3days you are grateful for and more.
    I didnt create these.
    I am just organizing the group.


    I am trying to help others and help myself more with it as i think getting help with talking and taking care of each other is the final step to beat PMO.
    I know there are some people who made it but thats only 1% and some of them easy mode aka with wife or girlfriend. The other 99% struggle hard.

    Nofap community and internet information is just the start to beat it.
    Consider a group.

    I have done a group session and it was extremely successfull and it helped me and other very much!
    And i was very friendly :)
    you cant judge me by text. Take a look for yourself instead of listening for others. you can try it out and youre free to leave if you dont like it.

    Regards
    Phil
     
  12. Philip1990

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    @21decisionforlife


    Sorry everyone for my tone i was angry because every AP let me down and iam convinced that i need help to succeed and i need you guys to help me!


    And days dont matter as i use information that is not from me and is from successfull people that beat this addiction.
    Iam just holding this group together.

    No one forces you to take part.

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    @EarthDragon

    "A reboot starts with you, and ends with you. You're the one who needs to abstain, you're the one who has to fight triggers, you're the one who has to sometimes scratch and claw yourself to the end of the day. What if no one ever wants to help you? Then you never quit? Are you fine with that?" right. But the group is here willing to help you with all my effort. you just need to grab this chance.



    Much success to you gents.
     
  13. ProphetOfDoom

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    Yeah, basically I participated in the first meeting. @Philip1990 is a really down to earth person and a cool guy! Why are you people so hesitant, skeptic and distrustful? We don't need to involve prejudice in this wonderful community.
    So, after our first conversation I feel much more responsible and dedicated. After belonging to a certain group/club, you're devoted to your own cause to a higher standard.
    I invite everyone to try this for a day or two! The group should be getting bigger!
     
  14. wildwood

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    As a past webcam addict, being on Skype is odd for me even though I no longer do those things. I know I'm not a guy but would be interested. I work a ton and our time zones are off so I'm wondering how I would be able to work this out? Thanks for reading!
     
  15. Philip1990

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    Thank you @ProphetOfDoom and see you tomorrow!

    @wildwood as a girl this group can be difficult and as a webcam addict this would be running into your temptation which i really not recommend at any time. Also the time zone is off to much its hard to organize. If you still want to take part you must have camera online so we know youre not "P" mo!

    @Everyone reading i am sad to announce that you should come from europe , speak english and have a webcam.
    You should come from europe because of timezone and ez organization , speak english should be clear and webcam because we need to see each other it brings a personal aspect and also i dont want any creepers "P"MO while we comitted guys hold a conversation ...
     
    Last edited: Jul 14, 2015
  16. Chris123

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    Today's session was pretty nice and chill. I liked it. See you tomorrow.
     
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  17. himmelstoss

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    Was it 30 days of discipline? Your posts remind me of Victor Pride.
     
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  18. Philip1990

    Philip1990 Fapstronaut

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    No , but i wrote an ebook called 30days to discipline which is far superior to victors.
    A friend told me to do that.
     
  19. WOTL

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    The best book to understand sex addiction of any kind that I have come across is " Breaking the Cycle" by George Collins. Other than that, we have to do the work ourselves (one by one) and the NoFap community is great for additional support. I am sure that @Philip1990 , and others can succeed if you use the right tools. The one thing that I have learnt is that being optimistic and humble can be useful weapons to fight this addiction. Anger about whether people join or not a skype group will not be helpful, but some of the things you say like writing things you are grateful for and trying to put together a group of people who want to do the right thing is a commendable endeavor. I wish you all good luck.
     
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  20. Aybara

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    I haven't read Breaking the Cycle, but I'll look it up.
    The best book I've found is In the Shadows of the Net. I can thoroughly recommend it!
    As to skype, I won't, thank you. While I think it's a good idea it wouldn't work for me. At present, nobody knows of my porn addiction off this site and participating in skype conversations would run the risk of exposure I don't want to happen.
     

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