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desperate: compulsive masturbation and no ejaculation

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by hopeandfaith, Dec 26, 2020.

  1. hopeandfaith

    hopeandfaith Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone!
    I'm 30 and since I remember I struggle with compulsive masturbation since I have memories. Whenever I was alone, I used to masturbate and orgasm. I started as I child. Prone masturbation. I'd put my hands and rub the penis against them to reach the orgasm. At that time I didn't ejaculate of course.
    When I hit puberty, the sessions increased in length and I always brought myself to orgasm. I usually masturbated in front of a mirror. In the following years, I also started recording myself. When I had time, I had many orgasms everyday.
    I lost virginity aged 19. The issue is that: I've never been able to orgasm PIV.
    Up until now I'm edging for hours before sleep. I feel much more pleasure touching myself than during sex.
    What can I do to finally orgasm with a girl? I'm distraught and confused. Also, I noticed my erections are not as strong as they used to be. I don't use porn, but whenever alone I can't get my hands off. I'm really depressed. I'm afraid I won't be able to orgasm with a girl and have a healthy relationship.
     
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  2. The way you do the prone way has made your penis lose sensitivity. You need to stop that for a while to regain sensitivity. That takes time for the nerves to regroup. Long edging plus prone is not a good practice. The only good way now is to stop masturbating until feeling comes back especially the head. Try to abstain a few weeks or a month. Some people have wrote good posts on curing desensitation. Read them for more advice. Hope all goes well.
     
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  3. hopeandfaith

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    Thank you for your reply. I stopped prone masturbation many years ago, like 7-8. Still I haven't been able to orgasm and sensitivity while having sex is pretty low. I masturbated with tight grip and edged for hours. I know they are destructive pratice. I haven't masturbated in more than one month. I don't have any relationships now due to pandemic isolation. How can I know if I have sensitivity back?
     
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  4. Done a lot of thinking on the subject of how to regain sensitivity. I am struggling with same issue. I tested myself in shower water directly on myself and ran the handle of my toothbrush along the sensitive spots: the head and the frenulum (the stretchy tissue after the head i googled that). I had slight sensation nothing major. I hope it improves over time.
    I did not use hands or even fingers. In case it gave me urge to masturbate. Also fingertips are touch sensitive which will confuse touch signals with penis and fingers.

    I hope any of this helps. Weirdest conversation in my life. I am 35 and with my experience only had piv orgasm few times. Hand orgasm is not healthy way to do that.
     
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  5. hopeandfaith

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    I tried it too with the shower head. I have sensitivity where there is the glans and the fenulum. Much less along the shaft, where the skin is thicker. I put arnica gel on the skin, hope it helps. Also, I'll buy coconut oil.
     
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  6. Field-on-Fire

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    You need to let go of that thought and focus on her, I have nerve damage, but I found out that arousal is more important than physical stimulation.
     
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  7. hopeandfaith

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    thank you, but is nerve damage curable with long abstinence?
     
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  8. Field-on-Fire

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    I have been abstaining from masturbation for about a year now, while I cannot speak for others, my nerve damage has not improved at all.
     
  9. hopeandfaith

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    Oh sorry to hear that. I guess you just need more time. And how do you know if there is a nerve damage? I mean having death grip and delayed ejaculation necessarily means you've got nerve damage?
     
  10. Field-on-Fire

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    It can take up to three years for nerve damage to heal, I don't feel most of my penis, the right side of my genitals, and both of my testicles are completely numb. I went to the urologist and to the neurologist, who thinks some small nerve branches have been damaged.

    My libido just dropped one day and a while later I discovered that I have no sensation in my genitals, I don't feel a temperature either.
     
  11. hopeandfaith

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    So sorry for that. What can be the cause? Just masturbation? If so, that's really scary!
     
  12. Field-on-Fire

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    I one day discovered prone masturbation by thrusting the mattress, of course I knew it's probably not that good, but I reasoned to myself that I would go slow and stop when it starts to hurt. Not a single time did I feel pain from it, only pleasure.

    After reading about it and it's harmful effects, it was already too late, but I'm not sure if this is the cause.

    I don't feel much pleasure physically, hardly even, but I found that having a strong loving bond with a woman can really enhance the ecperience.
     
  13. edEliminate

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    hi man. i don't know what happened to me 7 months ago. i masturbated and i got dry orgasm and next day i tried to have erection and i couldn't. and after i got depressed and my penis shivered and became tiny for 2 or 3 days. and then i stared having problem with erections and low sex drive. it's been 7 months on nofab and 2 weeks ago i had high sex drive and normal erections and i masturbated again due to very high sex drive. and again im having low sex drive and low blood flow to my genitals. penis tip is cold and i an feeling like less blood flow in my hands and feets. but after i started nofab i started having erections. but after like 200 days im having low libido low erections and mentally completely depressed. I'm thinking did i damage my penis 7 months ago cuz i had dry orgasm and after that my sex drive went down. sometimes i think was it flatline on nofab. and some days i had good erections but other days no libido during nofab journey. at the moment I'm having less random erections less libido.i don't have pain any where. but i have tight proof muscles i checked from PT. and i have pelvic muscle spasams or contractions.. kindly guide me is it penis damage or what. cuz i don't have any pain or any other symptoms. just cold penis tip, less blood flow in hands and feets and low libido and low erections.
     
  14. edEliminate

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    my penis is soft when i sleep or lay down but when i get up it shivers and look tiny and have rubbery texture like not soft .
     

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